logoff vs. TP

Does logging have a differant particle effect than Tping?
My GF is calling me a lier when I logoff and she thinks I am just tping...
Our relationship has ended because of this.

I'm sorry that has happened to you. I don't think there is a particle effect for either. But if you are on her friends list, she should see a "Lou Laa is offline" message pop up in a blue box in the right corner of the screen.

I have no idea what the answer is, sorry.

If you lost her over something so petty, you're probably better off without her.

Lot's of fish in the sea, go fishing!

Yes. I even told her there is no way to hide fully you online status with using Group member listings and website friends online list , I even linked to a forum thread about his subject , but she has chosen to believe I am lying about logging off.
Sigh
Why do I always get hurt like this?

i have to ask ... your gf and you are not on each other's friends' list?

edit: sorry, "ex-gf"

Yes we are and our locations are reveiled to eachother as well

then as marin said, when you log off she gets the "so and so has logged off" message.

and if she then tries to MAP you, you won't show up in the mapping list cos you're no longer IN sl to map.

Probably her way of breaking up with you while putting the blame on you. Dump the chick...

most likely.

as lowen says, "you're probably better off without her". move on to someone better and brighter.

I don't remember whether TPing has a particle effect, but if it does, it's the same as logging off. The particle effect is actually a message sent from the client while logging out, and it probably fails often (if others' logoffs are as fudgy as mine)

I have to agree with Lowen, if she left you over that rather than talking it out mutually there was no princess there. Just an overly possessive, territorial woman consumed by her fears that you are lying to her.

I have always be honest to my love about my log off habits with my now SL wife and as out relationship has had bigger issues in the past trust that I am telling her the truth. So if such a small issue was something GF could not handle rationally, then perhaps you are better off.

As for always being hurt? Don't know man, I truly feel for you. Don't fall into bitterness and self hate. Worst thing you can do, trust me, I have been there, but my SL Wife has taught me to love myself again and am ever grateful in finding her, and she in finding me.

Friends online is still broken, you can log off and still show up as bold in other people's lists. You can fix it sometimes if you send them an IM but then they know you are paranoid!

Or she could just be one of those types who gets her jollies by arguing with people. I've ran into a couple of those over time. I agree with the other opinions here, you're better off moving on and hopefully the next won't be a drama queen.

Yes I agree with all of you.
In time I will heal and move on to someone who deserves what I have to give.
Thank you all.

Oh for pity sake, the relationship ended because of that? Did she attempt to IM you when you logged (or as she says, TPd). She would have gotten that handy lil user is offline message. Either she is REALLY insecure, or like the others said, was looking for a reason to end things. You will find someone else that isnt as worried or rude in the future, no doubt.

I agree about the relationship comments, when stuff like that comes up isn't it already over? But as for the literal question in case this thread is searched out in the future and so many didn't know, yes, TPing has little particles that swirl around, while logging out does nothing but leave their ghost behind for a moment, which then suddenly disappears without an effect.

What? logging out always used to swirl as well. Has that changed?

How sad if it has.

maybe that change is what she noticed? it would be nice to know for sure if it has changed

Inform her that it's not a reliable packet XD
IE it only gets sent once and is allowed to fail
http://wiki.secondlife.com/wiki/ViewerEffect
Also Windlight didn't send one when I logged out just now, but I really think logouts are messy.

I could inform her but she is past listening to reason.
Looks like there's another single guy out there...
Any level headed girls out there looking to get treated right?
Must be submissive...then again maybe that is why I am getting mixed up girls...

I'm going to be a little callous but some people are really slow, and reasoning with them is extremely difficult because they make assumptions based on incomplete facts and get the wrong thing in their heads, especially on hot-button issues. Then you are no longer dealing with a rational person, but are fighting emotional reasoning, and until they actually learn what you try to tell them, it's a lost cause.

Or maybe she was looking for a way out.

"none to bright"

well one way or the other it is over between us, it has got to the point where too much damage has been done to our relationship/friendship.
I won't get into it more as I really am just giving my side of the story and I don't want this to turn into a bashfest on her. She has her way of seeing it and I have mine, so it's time to move on.
Let this be a lesson to everyone, the smallest thing can be blown wide open here in SL
So... I guess I'll be hitting the club circuit once again hehe
Any single girls out there?
heh

P.s. I have been in SL for a year and a half,just got my pay info issues resolved.
So I am not a newb any longer I don't think lol

Um....you will find most subs are actually very secure, very strong and don't cry over particles happening or not happening! You are implying that subs are mixed up... I could say.. you lead hun, we follow.. but that would be me being pedantic! ...

well sorry that was said with tongue in cheek...
I wouldn't think of lumping subs into one category like that nor would I imply they are all mixed up.
I apologize for missing the smiley face...