Appology to ALL involved

On 9/2 my ex-husband was able to hack into my account via the net. He had conversations using my Avi with a number of people and they were pretty nasty and vulgar. For that, I am sorry. I received note cards of a few of those conversations and what was said is something even I have never said in RL let alone SL.

He is a bitter and disillusioned man who is Bipolar, manic depressive in RL and somewhere in that twisted mind he felt that I needed to be punished.

A few of you who truly know me did not believe it to be me. Those are true friends. For the ones who never got to know the "REAL" me. Please accept my appology for what was said.

Sincerely,
Alexa Bouras

Apology accepted...I know that wasnt you. I'm sorry he had to be such a jerk and cause you this grief.

<<< Hugs>>>>> from me hunny, my father is bipolar, i know it can be tough. xx

I haven't known you very Long Alexa but i knew that wasn't you that day, you have a great Heart and Spirit and could never be like that to anyone...I hope that i can get to know you more to know that i am Right about my Self....Anyone who does not Believe you are not your true Friends on here....If you ever need someone to talk to or anything like that then just Give me an IM ....Your Real Friends are standing right beside your side.

Very sad, and very scary. *sends you a piece of pie, on the house*

.. and a cookie .... it's ok, it's a ginger one ... I don't like the ginger ones. *hug*

I was one of the people he verbally attacked and I know it was not you! I think posting a public apology is a perfect answer. I hope you can get your account back and your SL. Alexa you are a kind and sweet person and good riddance to bad rubbish where your ex is concerned.

*makes a big mug with extra sweet hot cocoa and a motherload of whipped cream on top of it and hands it over*

He's not a jerk...he is sick and disabled.

Thank you very much for emphasizing this.

Don't know you. Wasn't involved. Have a lot of empathy though ... dealing with someone close who is bipolar can be soul sapping. I wish you strength and peace, sweetie.

I have gotten Alexa back- and she is online now. She is relatively intact minues the Lindens. Those were given to my alt the next day buy the friends he gave the money to. There were somethings deleted that I notice right off but with such a huge inventory there's no way until I look for something in particular to know if its gone- He renamed her eyes to "still watching you"

/me shudders.

I certainly hope that you've figured out how to block him from getting into your accounts...and your house...again.

Of course not.... this is America and no one is responsible for their own actions no matter how sick and depreaved..... its the illness.

In the grand spirit of compromise on which the American "system" is heavily based, can we all agree he is sick and disabled AND a jerk?

(Meaning, mental illness might be an explanation, but it is not an excuse.)

(Meaning, mental illness might be an explanation, but it is not an excuse.)[/QUOTE]

in 44 years he has learned to play the system very well to get what he wants- whether or not it's medications he really doesnt need- to telling the psychiatrist lies for his records to be able to obtain disability and live off the government - even playing the injured party to have someone arrested for physicial abuse when in actuality nothing happened- HE can be a nice guy when he wants you to believe it- but make him mad in any form or fashion- he will turn like a viper and strike you over and over.

I'm not making excuses for what he did to anyone in SL- but I know the feeling each of those persons felt when reading the words. For that, I am appologising. NO one should have had to read that filth and garbage.

What Alexa did not say, as she is probably too upset still, is that scumbag of a (soon-to-be) ex-husband of hers, deleted all her inventory, gave away all her money, sent masses of disgusting abuse to everyone on her friends list, then emailed LL to cancel her account!

Alexa works for me as an Estate Manager in the Fair-Isles Estate, and some of the people on her friends list were our tenants, and some left in disgust at what that sad husband of hers said.

Alexa is fast becoming a great designer of fabulous houses, and she lost all her designs too.

I too hope that a Linden out there reads this and restores Alexa's account so she can change the password, and (if there is a SL god) give her a roll-back to the situation before he hit. For good measure, they should then ban all further contact with SL from the IP address of the PC he used.

God bless you Alexa, don't let the scumbag get you down.

Rock

IMO his jerkiness has nothing to do with being bipolar. I am bipolar and I don't act like that towards people,even on my worst days. Neither do others I know with it.


Sorry this happened to you. What a jack ass.

My sister-in-law suffers from the same disorder, and is the Sweetest woman in the World when her Meds are in Balance, But the balance is a delicate one. Any Change to metabolism, even losing or gaining a few pounds in weight can Throw it off, and cause an "Episode". During these times she is NOT responsible for her Actions, she Cannot Control them and no matter how Over the Top they are they seem perfectly reasonable to Her Until her meds are back in balance. She Feels regret, and remorse for the things she does when she is out of Control, she Doesn't mean to be Hurtful, but there Is nothing that can be done.
Yes, it's an Illness, Diagnosed, and Treatable with medications. it's NOT one of the Current Fashion Illnesses like "Road rage" or "Air rage" that are Used to legitimize a lack of respect and Self Discipline, or Disguise a Chronic Misuse of Alchohol.

I Feel for Alexa, it isn't Easy Seeing someone we love (Or Loved) so Out of Control, and obviously in Need of help. We can be Educated, and taught to Deal but For the most Part the families of these people are helpless in the face of something that So radicly changes a loved One. My Sister In Law has been hurtful to me when she is not well, But the thing that helps me bear it is the Complete Knowledge that if she could have it any other way at all, she would Never behave that way again.It is no more enjoyable for her than it is for those around her.

Angel.

the money I got back- the designs as far as I can tell are still there if not- they're still in the vendor so that's a good thing I can always copy those- Yes Boss- I'm back in the game- - new password and a different email account. But, Friendships- acquantiances- those hopefully can be repaired. and he IS an ex- as of June 27 - 7 years too late though.

Alexa I don't know you but I am sorry for what he did. I do have a few questions I'd like to ask off line, so if you are so included please IM or email me.

Thanks! *hugs* either way.

I feel slighted that he didn't get around to me since I have known both of you so long =( ^Kidding!^

Just know your shop and vendors are safe and you will be able to continue creating your beautifull buildings! We go back aways and I don't think I would have believed it was you saying the things he was saying. Just shows how sad some people can be. Thx for the notice both in world and here. I agree this was the best way to handle it.

Thanks, Angel, this is all very true, i'm bipolar too & this totally describes me. I'd hope that the guy takes his medication knowing how he can be. Alexa, I used to rent at Hoini & have met you, i'm sorry this has happened, I didn't see the notes but even knowing you as little as I do, I wouldn't have believed it. I hope you can get everything sorted x

Alexa is obviously (From her Posts) reached the point where she can no longer offer love and support for her Former Husband, and this is a sad thing. Not everyone can Deal indefinately with someone who has an illness like this Especially when that person is so in denial themselves that they will not Medicate Properly, or Take responsibility (During their lucid moments) and assist in their treatment. Alexa is a Brave woman, and is to be commended, But everyone has a point beyond which they can no longer Endure. There was someone that Alexa loved, That person became Lost beyond Hope of recovery, and that is a sad thing.

Angel.

I never knew there were so many bipolar people around here...I have a related, although different personality disorder, and I know what an arsehole I can be- although I would never be such pathological jerk as Alexa's ex seems to be. That's more than "just" being bipolar I think.