What happens when you "un-partner" with someone?
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Imogen Saltair
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10-31-2007 04:34
From: Cherry Czervik This is an excellent question and one which I will now be bugged by until I find out. I'd guess that the box would blank as when the data was requested from (I am assuming) XML there would be nothing to send back?
What a good question! Sorry to hear about your loss tho ... that must have really sucked. I know someone who had that happen to him, then she kept coming back and spoiling what he had going for him. This being said he did a number on several girls after that so there's no sympathy for him any more. Sorry to hear about your experience too Cherry which made me post about mine. I wish I had heeded the signs too, its not like i haven't been online long enough to spot the signs. When things go cold they rarely warm up again. For those who haven't been online long, watch out for a guy with no friends, no job and no home. He is probably an alt and has another life somewhere else. The horrible part about it is how long you wait hoping he will come back. Plus, when he has gone, you wonder if his alt is watching you to see how you are handling it. shudders imogen |
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bilbo99 Emu
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10-31-2007 04:35
Today, 02:16 AM From: Colette Meiji Send him/her a "Dear Avatar" letter on a notecard or email .. send an IM saying "sorry, its just how I feel"
DO the partnership ending and then mute them for a while.
They deserve at least a personal notification things are over. They shouldn't have to "just figure it out." Today, 02:17 AM From: Colette Meiji Unless they are just total skum
Then send a IM "Leave me the hell alone !" Mute them forever, forget the "Dear Avatar" note and Divorce them like that *snap*. I think at 2.16:30 am Colettes caffeine deficiency kicked in. 
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Pie Psaltery
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10-31-2007 04:39
In 2005 in was a much more brutal email titled "Second Life Partner: It's Over" that read: From: someone We're sorry. It appears your Second Life partnership has ended. XXX has left you. That was it. No best regards or nothing. Maybe someone took some sensitivity training. On a side note, that brutal email was concerning my current partner, back when we were having tons of drama, however, we've since re-partnered and have been together in our current partnership for almost 2 years. The question of what would happen if your partner were to cancel their account without un-partnering you tho is a good one. |
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Cherry Czervik
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10-31-2007 06:56
From: Imogen Saltair Sorry to hear about your experience too Cherry which made me post about mine. I wish I had heeded the signs too, its not like i haven't been online long enough to spot the signs. When things go cold they rarely warm up again.
For those who haven't been online long, watch out for a guy with no friends, no job and no home. He is probably an alt and has another life somewhere else. The horrible part about it is how long you wait hoping he will come back. Plus, when he has gone, you wonder if his alt is watching you to see how you are handling it.
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imogen And when he decides to move near you "it was an accident" - well, the only person who will believe that is really true will be him ... LOL When your friends all tell you DUMP HIM and you feel bad cos you really don't want to hurt him (or her, come to that) and you know in your heart that you're trying to make the best of a bad situation ... listen to yourself ... it does not get better for throwing more love at it! Most users are incredibly charming in the early days, but the real key is what happens if you are not always giving them something. The ones who wander off and do their own thing, don't abuse your trust and are happy to hear from you and see you ... are the good eggs  And there are many many nice people out there. |
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Cherry Czervik
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10-31-2007 06:58
Actually I prefer the original. LOL. At least it had kisses. Why can I hear TORLEY's voice reading that out? The friendliest voice in the world |
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Mahala Roviana
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10-31-2007 07:09
I got that email once. A six month partnership ended with no heads up from Mr. Too-chicken-to-tell-me-to-my-face... er avatar. Although the LL email is a little cold, you would hope that your soon-to-be former partner would have the cajones to tell you they wanted to end it.. or something.
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Milla Alexandre
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10-31-2007 07:52
Whoa whoa ...I'm still stuck on the part where someone said it COSTS to dissolve a partnership.....does it COST L's to create one too? OMG~!!! Ok..I just find that bizarre...anyway...I feel for you.... if you're having to end a partnership, that sucks. SL is supposed to be an escape from reality...not a soap opera we willingly make real. *sigh* (((hugs)))
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Ann Launay
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10-31-2007 08:12
From: Milla Alexandre Whoa whoa ...I'm still stuck on the part where someone said it COSTS to dissolve a partnership.....does it COST L's to create one too? 10L to partner, 25L to 'divorce'
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Tiana Whitfield
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10-31-2007 08:14
From: Ivy Paderborn What happens when you "un-partner" with someone? You then partner someone else... silly |
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Elgyfu Wishbringer
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10-31-2007 08:45
The old notification was horrible. I had to end a long relationship with someone I cared about very deeply because of rl reasons. We discussed it and knew we had to. I was very brave and we said goodbye on webcam and hugged in SL at the same time. I managed not to cry, I could see he was close to doing so too and if I had started, neither of us would have been able to stop.
Getting that horrible email really hurt. The new one is, at least, less brutal.
Ivy, please, tell them first. No one deserves to be given a standard-letter type notification. If your relationship is really over, and you know that talking about it will not help, then at least have the courage and decency to tell them first. News like that in a cold, standard email is really harsh.
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Oryx Tempel
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10-31-2007 08:51
From: Ann Launay 10L to partner, 25L to 'divorce' Ann, that's 25 US DOLLLARS, not Linden Dollars. Takes 10 USD for each person to join a partnership now. |
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Oryx Tempel
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10-31-2007 08:55
From: Ann Launay 10L to partner, 25L to 'divorce' Am I mistaken, or did this used to be US Dollars, and has changed to L$? I seem to remember it being cheap to partner, expensive to divorce in RL money... [Edit: Yeah I just looked it up, Ann's right. L$10 to partner, L$25 to divorce; and I've just been informed that it's always been L$ but that lots of time people mistake it for USD and get all panicky.] |
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Raymond Figtree
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10-31-2007 08:56
Is this uncheating?
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Cherry Czervik
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10-31-2007 08:56
From: Pie Psaltery In 2005 in was a much more brutal email titled "Second Life Partner: It's Over" that read:
That was it. No best regards or nothing. Maybe someone took some sensitivity training.
On a side note, that brutal email was concerning my current partner, back when we were having tons of drama, however, we've since re-partnered and have been together in our current partnership for almost 2 years.
The question of what would happen if your partner were to cancel their account without un-partnering you tho is a good one. I am going to partner my alt tonight then kill her. Then we shall see. I don't like her anyway, she's only any good for keeping a group open! We don't talk. I never see her online when I am ... finito! |
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JessyAnne Theas
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10-31-2007 08:58
Those snooty never online alts are all beeyatches. Cant trust them, and they steal all the cool clothes
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Argent Asbrink
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10-31-2007 09:15
From: Ivy Paderborn I know that when you offer to partner with someone, they receive a notice saying that you've "proposed". When you elect to no longer be partners, what happens? Do they receive a notification at that time also? Is it via email? Via message in SL? Both? You will be visited by vexing spirits for three nights, then beset with boils and hives. You will also need to consult a SLAttorney to handle the paperwork, and make arrangements for alimony and prim-baby support payments. Other than that, no big deal, really. |
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Argent Asbrink
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10-31-2007 09:17
From: Imogen Saltair What happens to the partner thing when your significant other just disappears?
*Eyes the stack of avi's in his basement and whistles innocently* |
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Trout Recreant
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10-31-2007 10:14
Anyone want to have a go at re-writing it for LL?
Dear [Avatar Name]
You know, none of us truly know who we are deep inside. At times, we are able to reach in and touch that inner person and truly get some insight into who that person is and what he or she truly needs. Apparently in the case of your partner, [Partner] what that inner person truly needs is to bang the holy living beejebers out of your next door neighbor. You know, the young one with the fake prim boobs, the big hair and the blingy shoes? Yep, her. Anyway, that's what he's doing right now. We checked before we sent this message. Honest. He's over there. You could do something about it, but they've banned you from the parcel, so all you can really do is cam inside and watch. You probably shouldn't. She's doing that thing...you know, the one you wouldn't do with him? Anyway, life goes on. We at LL are sure you'll get over it.
We hope you are enjoying your SL experience as much as we are. We promise that we aren't laughing at you right now. OK, the guys in marketing are, but they're a bunch of assholes. Never mind what they think.
Eternal Love and Kisses,
Cupid Linden
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Sheena Gelfand
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10-31-2007 10:28
I am curious how you both joined the same time and how you both have the same last name, is this your RL husband or just very ironic how you can both have the same join date and same last name?
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Anti Antonelli
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10-31-2007 10:30
Trout, I really had better things to do this morning than be cleaning iced vanilla latte (freshly blown out my nose) off my keyboard and monitor   |
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Oryx Tempel
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10-31-2007 10:36
From: Trout Recreant Anyone want to have a go at re-writing it for LL?
*Letter*
Ok, seriously, this is classic. This should go down in the annals of SL History. I think we should send it forward to LL, see what they think. |
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Coyote Momiji
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10-31-2007 10:36
From: Anti Antonelli Trout, I really had better things to do this morning than be cleaning iced vanilla latte (freshly blown out my nose) off my keyboard and monitor At least it was iced. Now I know why Trout has a fanclub. |
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Brenda Connolly
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10-31-2007 10:42
From: Trout Recreant Anyone want to have a go at re-writing it for LL?
I'll give it ago. Dear [Real Name] You know, we all truly know who you are. Thanks to Integrity, we are able to reach in and touch that inner person and truly get some insight into who that person is and what he or she truly needs. Apparently in the case of your partner, [Partner's Real Name] what that inner person truly needs is to bang the holy living beejebers out of your next door neighbor. You know, the young one with the red convertible, the big hair and the slutty shoes, that she bought from one of our RL Merchandising Partners. Yep, her. Anyway, that's what he's doing right now. when he said he was going bowling. When you went to visit your mother. When you took all that Nyquil, last Thursday. We checked before we sent this message. Honest. He's over there. You could do something about it, but were goint to spam you with so many sale solicitations, it'll take hours just to close all the windows, so all you can really do is buy all the useless garbage we are going to shove down your throat and charge it to his credit card. You probably should. She's doing that thing...you know, the one you wouldn't do with him? Anyway, life goes on. We at LL are sure you'll get over it. We hope you are enjoying your SL experience as much as we are. We promise that we aren't laughing at you right now. We will be after we run out of shit to sell to all you people. Eternal Love and Kisses, Shyster Linden A rought draft. Feel free to improve on it.
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Trout Recreant
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10-31-2007 11:09
Sorry Anti. Look at it this way. If you get the coffee up your nose, your body will absorb the caffiene quicker through you mucous membranes. That's how it works, right? I got a C- in biology. I agree with Coyote - iced is way better than scalding hot.
Brenda, lol. I meant re-writing LL's letter, not mine. I like your version, though.
Geesh. I really hope there is no Cupid Linden. If there is, I'm screwed.
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Sally Silvera
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10-31-2007 11:10
From: Trout Recreant Anyone want to have a go at re-writing it for LL?
*lots of funny stuff*
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