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Ivy Paderborn
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10-30-2007 17:58
I know that when you offer to partner with someone, they receive a notice saying that you've "proposed". When you elect to no longer be partners, what happens? Do they receive a notification at that time also? Is it via email? Via message in SL? Both?
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Katryna Jie
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10-30-2007 18:05
Sounds like someone needs a divorce *giggles* I've never gotten married, so I don't know. But you don't get told if someone removes you from their/your friend's list.
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Oryx Tempel
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10-30-2007 18:09
Yes, you receive an email from Linden Lab saying that the other party has dissolved the partnership. It costs $25 to dissolve, just FYI.
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Ivy Paderborn
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10-30-2007 18:10
That's the thing... I *DO* want a divorce, but I'm the kind that likes to walk away silently. If there's going to be a big Main Street Electrical Parade about divorcing my partner, I want to know ahead of time so that I can be prepared for the backlash...
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Schwanson Schlegel
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Join date: 15 Nov 2003
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10-30-2007 18:10
You have to give them half of your $L balance and inventory. You will also have to work out custody for your prim babies in a box.
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Raudf Fox
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10-30-2007 18:17
You have to give them half of your $L balance and inventory. You will also have to work out custody for your prim babies in a box. Beat me to it! Let's not forget the land, though! They get half that too! Let's just hope the house is mod/transfer  That way, they can get their half!_____________________
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Xplorer Cannoli
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10-30-2007 18:18
That's the thing... I *DO* want a divorce, but I'm the kind that likes to walk away silently. If there's going to be a big Main Street Electrical Parade about divorcing my partner, I want to know ahead of time so that I can be prepared for the backlash... You could avoid the backlash by being upfront with the person. On another note, perhaps you could offer to pay 1/2 of the home for a few months till they are able figure something else out. _____________________
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Chris Norse
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10-30-2007 18:22
As I read this thread, the song "Another one bites the dust" is playing on the jukebox in the Hangout.
Another one bites the dust Another one bites the dust Another one bites the dust Another one bites the dust There are plenty of ways you can hurt a man And bring him to the ground You can beat him You can cheat him You can treat him bad and leave him When hes down But Im ready, yes Im ready for you Im standing on my own two feet Out of the doorway the bullets rip Repeating the sound of the beat _____________________
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Nika Talaj
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Join date: 2 Jan 2007
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10-30-2007 18:54
There was a thread a bit ago about how insensitive LL's email for de-partnering is. You probably need to break the news before they get it, unless you don't care if it comes as a nasty shock.
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Rioko Bamaisin
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Join date: 16 Aug 2007
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10-30-2007 19:06
They should make it like a real divorce,court,lawyers etc... That would make it much much more entertaining. I'd get married,have my alt seduce my partner,then divorce them for cheating and get everything in the divorce settlement.
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Colette Meiji
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Join date: 25 Mar 2005
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10-30-2007 19:16
Send him/her a "Dear Avatar" letter on a notecard or email .. send an IM saying "sorry, its just how I feel"
DO the partnership ending and then mute them for a while. They deserve at least a personal notification things are over. They shouldn't have to "just figure it out." |
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Colette Meiji
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10-30-2007 19:17
Unless they are just total skum
Then send a IM "Leave me the hell alone !" Mute them forever, forget the "Dear Avatar" note and Divorce them like that *snap*. |
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Cherry Czervik
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Join date: 18 Feb 2006
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10-30-2007 19:20
Ivy, tell them properly. Tell them also that the email that they receive is brutal.
It should be kept in mind that it has become the done thing that a partnership is romantic, it is not and was not always that way. A business partnership getting a mail saying someone has decided not to continue with you is one thing ... Even expecting it, the mail is pretty brutal and there's no preparing for it really. Next time, be more cautious who you shackle yourself to is my advice ... marry in haste, repent at leisure ... |
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Derbor Torok
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Join date: 21 Jun 2007
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10-30-2007 19:45
To quote Delbert.. just tell him "Honey, if you don't leave me, I'll find someone who will..." - This way he will start the divorce...
 Seriously, I agree with everyone that advises to give him a heads up.. just sneaking out would be mean... he might think its an sl malfunction.. or a mistake... ugh, could be ugly. .d |
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Talon Brown
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Join date: 17 May 2006
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10-30-2007 20:18
The "departner" email LL sends out isn't that brutal unless they have changed it in the last month or so. Granted, their signing it "Best Regards" is just stupid... Here's all it says:
Subject: Second Life Partner: Parting Ways You and your Second Life Partner have parted ways. [Former Partner] has decided to end the partnership. Best Regards, Your Friends at Linden Lab |
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Colette Meiji
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10-30-2007 20:22
Ivy, tell them properly. Good advice. Sometimes though people won't do that. |
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Angelique LaFollette
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10-30-2007 20:45
They get half your inventory, and 50% of your Linden Stipend Until they partner with someone else.
 Did you hear about the new Divorcee Barbie? She comes with all of kens stuff. Lol. Angel. |
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Eben Slade
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Join date: 17 May 2007
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10-30-2007 21:22
Subject: Second Life Partner: Parting Ways You and your Second Life Partner have parted ways. [Former Partner] has decided to end the partnership. Best Regards, Your Friends at Linden Lab Paraphrased: "You're now single. You got dumped. Have a nice day." It's enough to make me spend all day and night at seedy freebie shops, buying alcoholic prim-drinks to drown my sorrow. |
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Oryx Tempel
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10-30-2007 22:04
Good advice. Sometimes though people won't do that. No shit. _____________________
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Maggie McArdle
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10-30-2007 22:31
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Cherry Czervik
Came To Her Senses
Join date: 18 Feb 2006
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10-31-2007 03:58
The "departner" email LL sends out isn't that brutal unless they have changed it in the last month or so. Granted, their signing it "Best Regards" is just stupid... Here's all it says: Depends what happened before it. Maybe I am just a romantic at heart. I'll add to that actually. The message does have to be BLAND ... imagine the horrors vested by the spiteful otherwise. Mind you ... some people are determined to be the victim anyway so you could have it turn up with the bucket of ice cream and an industrial sized box of tissues and it would be not enough. As to people not telling people properly ... sometimes it's as easy to kill with kindness as with deliberate nastiness. Thinking back on how my last relationship went, with me giving and giving and giving ... I wish I'd just said many months earlier when I first started to feel things were not as they should be "Bye" and left it as that. Saved myself a royal pain and his opinion of me would have been the same anyway. Not that it matters any more of course |
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Imogen Saltair
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Join date: 29 Nov 2006
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10-31-2007 04:10
What happens to the partner thing when your significant other just disappears? I wasn't officially partnered when this happened to me last year, the guy just removed his avatar from the database.. I guess i was a widow of sorts, or would have been if we had been partnered. Do you stay partnered to an avatar that doesn't exist? or does the partner box just go blank again? do you get an email saying 'Hey your partner just quit big time.. tough huh?'
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Cherry Czervik
Came To Her Senses
Join date: 18 Feb 2006
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10-31-2007 04:21
What happens to the partner thing when your significant other just disappears? I wasn't officially partnered when this happened to me last year, the guy just removed his avatar from the database.. I guess i was a widow of sorts, or would have been if we had been partnered. Do you stay partnered to an avatar that doesn't exist? or does the partner box just go blank again? do you get an email saying 'Hey your partner just quit big time.. tough huh?' curious imogen This is an excellent question and one which I will now be bugged by until I find out. I'd guess that the box would blank as when the data was requested from (I am assuming) XML there would be nothing to send back? What a good question! Sorry to hear about your loss tho ... that must have really sucked. I know someone who had that happen to him, then she kept coming back and spoiling what he had going for him. This being said he did a number on several girls after that so there's no sympathy for him any more. |
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Brian Beltway
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10-31-2007 04:22
Depends what happened before it. Maybe I am just a romantic at heart. I'll add to that actually. The message does have to be BLAND ... imagine the horrors vested by the spiteful otherwise. Mind you ... some people are determined to be the victim anyway so you could have it turn up with the bucket of ice cream and an industrial sized box of tissues and it would be not enough. As to people not telling people properly ... sometimes it's as easy to kill with kindness as with deliberate nastiness. Thinking back on how my last relationship went, with me giving and giving and giving ... I wish I'd just said many months earlier when I first started to feel things were not as they should be "Bye" and left it as that. Saved myself a royal pain and his opinion of me would have been the same anyway. Not that it matters any more of course Amen to that Cherry Love without caging, Give without taking, Respect and trust, Share and confide An SL mantra..lol..I dunno what the average lifespan of an SL relationship is..i heard three months (although mine was much longer)....4 breakups a year is more drama than anyone needs...unless they actually like drama! |
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Brian Beltway
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10-31-2007 04:29
Amen to that Cherry Love without caging, Give without taking, Respect and trust, Share and confide An SL mantra..lol..I dunno what the average lifespan of an SL relationship is..i heard three months (although mine was much longer)....4 breakups a year is more drama than anyone needs...unless they actually like drama! I just realised that doesn't make much sense I mean I agree with Cherry. Do it fast and honestly because SL life is too short to drag on. |