Isn't Second Life BRILLIANT

Slut Milk! You mean that was a real drink somewhere Bilbo? I'm still nursing mine Pun maybe intended.

Sandy, it's great you're having such a blast! The first few weeks for me were quite boring actually. I nearly gave up on it, then I found this forum, and the Cartel - made a real difference. Helped me learn a lot to navigate things and gave me a place to hang out and get to know some people too.

As for the "friends" thing. I've learned to be more careful about who I allow on my list, as others have mentioned. Most people tend to offer frendship, and just disappear, never to return. Although, then as a female, I did have one jerk who I deleted finally who then stalked me constantly wanting to know why I deleted him. Well, you're not my friend, duh! I finally just put him on my mute list. Just don't be disappointed when some of these new friends wind up bailing on you, as is the case. It's hard to keep up with too many people, but I can tell you that you will make some great ones too, and those will be quite precious.

I don't like it but that's what I do too. It's only one click to accept the friendship and then I can ignore it if I choose. It takes a lot more work to type an explanation as to why I'm not accepting it and I don't need to deal with ranting if they're the type that's sensitive. I've found I clean out my friends list about every month or so. No biggie.

Absolutely, thats what Sandy's doing for us....reminding us. More power to your pen Sandy...errrr...your keyboard

The Hangout in Allana? So if I just search for that under places I'll find it? Marvellous.

As I said I was watching the banter between the Forum Cartel on Saturday or Sunday and it was making me chuckle.

A couple of people have mentioned in this thread and others, how speaking to a noob can refresh your memories of how cool SL is so I thought I'd mention this:-

As of Wednesday and Thursday of last week, SL was a virtual world on the screen of my laptop where you could go places and meet people. Around about 8pm on Friday night as I was trying on hair and asking Sally how it looked - the edges of the screen and the RL began to merge into one another, and by the time I had listened to Djal at around midnight on Friday night/Saturday morning and was off to watch Fable at another live gig it was as if RL was running in the background of SL!! Brilliant.

For me and my fresh eyes, the most amazing thing I've experienced so far is how you slowly slip into this world without really realising your doing it and before you know where you are you are standing in front of a wall of dances trying to decide which one to buy, without thinking anything of it!

I went to my local supermarket on Sunday morning and I looked at the shelves in a completely different way!! You won't believe this but when I pointed at the food on the shelves and right clicked - nothing happened! I had to actually pick things up and put them in my trolley! RL is so rubbish!

Sandy

Elora nooo! not the Slut Milk LOL This was later, I think it was cold slut or something. I mean, I assume it's a real cocktail. Maybe Marty will spot this and help out

Today's noob could be tomorrows ex-partner!!

No, no .. stop that!!!! No, todays noob could be the partner that stays with you and goes to the next best thing with you!

Heheh....Amen to that...I hear ya! Its the SL vicious circle
"I am never putting myself through that again...until the next time"

Someone will probably give you a landmark before I finish typing this but go to map, enter Allana. Go there and explore. You'll find the hangout with its neon sign soon enough. I don't know if it shows up in search. I think that costs money?Oh no! classic symptoms. Didn't take you long Sandy!

My fiancee is still on her slave galley in the Med and I had an empty day yesterday. I *did* have RL stuff to do. Strangely though little got done. I manned the bar at the hangout for a while, I explored, I danced at a RL friends SL club, I wrote a notecard for a Children in Need event and I showed a couple of chums around the hangout.

..... I *think* I had food .. or was it just pie?

That's a UK charity right? Are there inworld events around that? I'd love to know!

It's soo cool to see happy posts here, people enjoying things, learning new stuff and having fun! a nice change up form some other threads. SL *IS* Brilliant =) please don't lose that shine too soon k?

the friends thing, I'll add almost anyone, if I don't hear from them for a month or three I generally drop the card. the notes thing helps with that, because some I wouldn't drop ever... but it's nice to have a reference of things like what a person is into, hobbies, etc... things you might forget if you don't talk for awhile... I'd say don't put personal things in there, just in case your account got hacked, you wouldn't want to give that person easy access to your friends lives.

cold invites are a pet peeve of mine, and I've dropped a few cards because people would randomly send me TP's out of no-where, that only read "join me in XYZ"...even though I tell people NOT to do that. I'd much rather an invite prefaced by an explanation... as I tend to stay very busy

@ Sally:
you can find people on map still IF they have it enabled, most don't... I'd rather have my friends ask me what I'm up to then drop in unexpectedly, especially if I'm lost in scripting, as I'll seem rude just standing there ignoring them because I can't see past the script window I have plastered across my view =) I still have a friend or two that leaves it on though

Yeah I know. I was referring to TPing people without them being on your friends list. That can't be done (which IMHO is a good thing btw).

Oh and I'm not a big fan of the visibility on map thing, I only share that feature with one person. I like your description there....... I wouldn't have a screen full of script, but might just have a gazillion textures blinding me completely

Hi Sally!
Brenda kindly passed my notecard out on the Forum Cartel group but it's not private. Basically, and this to anybody interested, look up EUTAFFIA in groups. It's a group specifically for the event. Joining costs 5L$ which goes straight into the charity pot.

7.00am to 7.00pm PST, 3.00pm to 3.00am GMT event with one hour shifts of live singers and DJs at two of the best clubs in SL. Should be a real blast. Funds generated through the event all going to Children In Need.

There's a tee shirt for the event. I was given mine but I think the shop at Taff's Bar, Cymru might be puting a vendor up for it.

Come one, come all

Sounds like another SL addict has been born Who am I to talk though? I go round the town in RL looking at the buildings and thinking how many prims it would take to build them!

On friending - I always ask before friending someone - but I accept all offers as I never want to offend anyone and then maybe I will clear out the friends list some months later. If you want to make polite contact, but are not sure about friending, then you can give people your calling card.

Thanks for the reply! Unfortunately I'm famously maxed out on groups, so I can't join that one. Also not a member of the Cartel group, which probably exlpains my ignorance on the subject apart from my hair colour.
I hope it'll be listed in events, if it is I'll be sure to check it out.

Under the Client menu .... enable 'View Admin Options'

That way when you search for people the 'Offer TP' button becomes visible... would help you with your noob shopping trips rather than having to add everyone to your friends list...

Like Bilbo said the Hangout was built so the group members would have a set place to meet each other. We started with a spur of the moment gathering at my house, and it went from there. Members would send out a note to drop by their place, and whoever could make it showed up. insome ways, I miss that, it was nice seeing other members' homes and such. Our first formal event so to speak was the Halloween Open House, which was a lot of fun. But most of the time it's just a few people trickle in, and all of a sudden pies start flying. Using the group IM is a good way to get things going, unfortunately lately group IM has been very unreliable, at least for me.

YAY! Thanks for that tip! ......... Still learning

Bilbo .....asking for a slut ...was better than asking you for a screw *wink* ...


but as for the hangout ...... its a brilliant place .... theres a lot of times there isnt a soul there, when there an event its really good. We have tried to make it as welcomming as possible and allthough some people dont like it ...cartel group chat is important and ISNT just for notices, theres often a lot of banter that goes on within that.

Theres some very good people in the cartel, but isnt there in SL anyway... if you see a noob help them out .. I remember I got helped out first day in world anf loads of people on my friends list i cant remember and a lot more who have never returned even after pruning.

Marty

Sally, I'm sure group membership won't be compulsory for the event. There'll be plenty of opportunity to spend more than 5L$ there I'm sure!!

Hey! just find Taff's Bar at Cymru now and meet the regulars. It should be a great night!

We've recently had a few of the Neighbors drop by and enjoy themselves at The Hangout as well, which is nice.

Ha ha ha!! I *really* felt for poor Katherine sat there though .. and I mean felt sorry!!!!

Heck! I didn't realise that deleting friends didn't delete their calling cards till just the other week .... hundreds of the blighters! LOL

Come on My hobbit friend .... im a loverly guy, i know you wouldnt exactly trust your sisters, daughters and proberly mothers with me .... but still a loverly guy *lol*

Walks into a bar .. stands next to a female stranger ...... asks for a slut .. then leaves.

Loverly guy .... yeah, right!!



distant humming: mmmmmMarty ... mmmmmmMartyyyy!

Sandy, the easiest way to meet someone from the forum is to note their name and use Search button ("people" tab). When you pull up their profile, if they're ingame and haven't blocked this, it'll say "currently online" in the upper right corner. (Pull up your own profile to see where it is.)

Whether they're online or not, you can send them an IM and hope for the best (IM button at bottom of profile).

And a note about unsolicited IMs. Don't expect an immediate response, even if the person is ingame. They may be busy and have reasons for not using the "busy" indicator (which few actually use when we're engaged in something). Sometimes we just don't notice the indication that we got an IM. Be patient. If you get no response, try again another day -- sometimes IMs don't go through, or aren't noticed before someone logs off. In other words, treat them as considerably less reliable than the US mail. Don't flood someone with IMs unless you know them well enough to be confident in doing so.

Most folks do try to respond promptly but there are plenty of cases where we don't, and IMHO it's not considered rude to take a while to respond.


And welcome to SL! It's refreshing to see a positive post -- too often we tend to come to the forums to complain.

Disadvantages to accepting 'friend' are few, and you can always delete.

Disadvantages:
- your list gets long
- you get more blue popups (but may not want to turn them off, because you want to see when your real friends come ingame)

Advantages:
- easy for each other to see when ingame (unless specifically blocked)
- easy to teleport/IM (but you can do these without Friend, using Search & their profile)
- you can give them permission to edit your objects (but don't unless you know what you're doing) or find you on the map at any time from anywhere. You have to turn these on, they're not on by default.

Finally, even if you delete a friend (or they delete you), you'll still have their calling card. (Same as if they'd used 'give card').

And it's common to Friend someone you'll be doing business with, even if for just a while and delete later, as a convenience. For example, I often do this with script customers who need support, until they have their issue worked out.

When you delete a friend, your name silently disappears from their list.

I'm going to chime-in regarding your OP a little late Sandy--

This is completely subjective--as long as you are aware that if you go around freely adding friends, your friends list will be fairly extensive in no time. You won't know who the majority of people are, and you'll get notification when they all come online. It can be a bit frustrating...even with a reasonable friend count.

If, however, you don't mind any of these attributes, and you like the idea of collecting acquaintances...add as many as your heart desires. It's all up to you.

A nice trick, to remember...any time you add someone, be sure to make a note in their profile notes...as to where you met them, who they are...and perhaps a little copy/pasted dialog...I do this with not only friends, but EVERY one I meet. It really helps me keep track of residents and the what and whys...