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Lindal Kidd
Dances With Noobs
Join date: 26 Jun 2007
Posts: 8,371
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05-05-2008 11:40
From: Desmond Shang *shifts eyes*
Ah... It Is Said (not by ME, of course!)... that teh griefing is Purely Hypothetically a great way of curing all sorts of afflictions of oldbieness...
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It's good to hear you are helping new residents! But now that you are an official oldbie, here are ways NOT to help them:
Do not, under *any* conditions whatsoever, give freebie weapons and a helicopter to a noob, and tell him of 'big game' regions where there are lots of large, anthropomorphic animals.
Do not tell them that the vampire "^V^^V^V^V^ Howlzzzzzzz ^V^V^V^V^" thing you gave them is the coolest thing, evar, at a club.
Do not blind-tp 40 of your newest friendship-starved, don't-know-anyone-else friends into the sky, 400 meters above another oldbie's skybox humper-bunker. Especially when occupied. Doubly especially after giving them the Benny Hill run-around flashmob animation.
Never, ever, ever under any circumstances rename a gorean click-for-chain collar as "cool diamond necklace" and give it to a noob. And especially not in conjunction with 'fun roleplaying landmarks.' It is just wrong.
It is harmful to tell someone that they are actually stuck as the Zebra avatar permanently, and to make the best of it.
Do not ever casually refer to a noob as "ok boss", then "yes sir Phil" or say "so just what are you gonna do with that $L 50 million?" just out of the noob's chat range. It confuses both the noob, and all the gold-diggers in the nearby vicinity.
Last of all, it is VERY important that you never role-play that you are a weak-willed, incredibly sexy 19 year old girl who is beginning to rediscover her faith amongst a group of bible-thumping guys. It is REALLY, REALLY, REALLY wrong to make a guy fall for you over three weeks... especially if you suddenly 'reveal yourself' to be a man on voice, loudly and publically in a large group just as he was saying lovey-dovey things to you. Bad! Bad! This is sick and wrong.
... Desmond, I want photos and/or chatlogs! Especially of the platoon of newbies skydiving onto the "humper-bunker". Just for hysterical...um, historical purposes, mind you. (Folks, methinks the whimsical creator and Guvnor of Caledon is more whimsical than formerly suspected.)
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Colette Forster
The Real Deal
Join date: 4 Apr 2008
Posts: 221
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05-05-2008 11:42
From: Desmond Shang It's good to hear you are helping new residents! But now that you are an official oldbie, here are ways NOT to help them: LMAO - really!
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ConductorX Nieuport
NO LONGER RELEVANT
Join date: 29 Nov 2007
Posts: 86
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05-05-2008 11:45
From: Oryx Tempel I did this in RL once. Only it was all his stuff.  I think I might pretend to be a weak-willed 19 year old, rediscovering her faith. Sounds like fun! Thanks Des. OH you're the one.  |
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Colette Forster
The Real Deal
Join date: 4 Apr 2008
Posts: 221
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Read This Please
05-05-2008 11:47
From: Graphicguru Gustav Well, remember who you are,and that you ARE the wonderful gal who deserves better. Do not let ANYONE wear down your self esteem. There are parasites who infest the mind and do not give up untill that mind has surrendered to its will...I call them control freaks, manipulators. those people who are like that have puffed themselves up to seem so important, but at the same time have such low self esteem themselves that they are not happy if anyone else has higher self esteem that they...thus the struggle...and to hell if a heart gets hurt in the process. we humans (behind the avatar) have fragile hearts and are easily wounded. /me raises megaphone I KNOW THAT IT IS EASY TO VILIFY THE HEART BREAKER, BUT IN DEFENSE OF SOMEONE THAT I DEEPLY CARE FOR, THIS WAS NOT A SITUATION OF MALICIOUSNESS, DECEIT, OR INTENT TO HURT OR CAUSE HARM... IT WAS JUST TWO HEARTS NOT BEATING IN UNISON. HE IS SWEET AND KIND...I WOULD DO IT ALL AGAIN, HURT ALL OVER AGAIN JUST TO HAVE THE SPECIAL TIME BACK.
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Maggie McArdle
FIOS hates puppies
Join date: 8 May 2006
Posts: 2,855
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05-05-2008 11:55
From: Colette Forster Seriously though, this pain so f***king raw...any tips on how to move on and stop caring so much? go to blockbuster and rent three movies, one horror, one tearjerker( watch this one last). and one action adventure. buy your favorite ice cream flavor. get in your favorite veg out clothes( do NOT invite your girlfriends over, this is your road to healing time and they will so not be helpful). watch movies, eat ice cream. when you get to tear jerker movie, bawl, cry as if its the end of the world. you will fell better. return movies to blockbuster then rent 3 comedies(a fish called wanda, dude where's my car, and anything monty python)  . huggssss and if you need an ear to bend im
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Colette Forster
The Real Deal
Join date: 4 Apr 2008
Posts: 221
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05-05-2008 12:00
From: Maggie McArdle buy your favorite ice cream flavor. get in your favorite veg out clothes( do NOT invite your girlfriends over, this is your road to healing time and they will so not be helpful). watch movies, eat ice cream. when you get to tear jerker movie, bawl, cry as if its the end of the world. you will fell better. LOL I am pretty much doing that today. I went to work this morning and my boss told me that I looked like shit and told me to work from home. Can this count as working? Well, Maggie...you are my girlfriend over right now...and you are helping. Seriously though, unless you know what SL is like, other GFs are totally useless. Maybe that is what I should do...a SL slumber party! LOL Except I think all you menfolk would crash our GNO. 
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Graphicguru Gustav
Accepts head scritchings!
Join date: 5 Oct 2007
Posts: 775
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05-05-2008 12:05
From: Colette Forster /me raises megaphone
I KNOW THAT IT IS EASY TO VILIFY THE HEART BREAKER, BUT IN DEFENSE OF SOMEONE THAT I DEEPLY CARE FOR, THIS WAS NOT A SITUATION OF MALICIOUSNESS, DECEIT, OR INTENT TO HURT OR CAUSE HARM...
IT WAS JUST TWO HEARTS NOT BEATING IN UNISON.
HE IS SWEET AND KIND...I WOULD DO IT ALL AGAIN, HURT ALL OVER AGAIN JUST TO HAVE THE SPECIAL TIME BACK. Awwww... Well I am glad he is a nice guy and not a vile guy...I wish you the best Collette, you seem like a nice woman with a tender sensitive heart...I will look for a metronome to help your two hearts beat as one!
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Maureen Boccaccio
TWJKFA
Join date: 28 Feb 2008
Posts: 14,484
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05-05-2008 12:05
From: Colette Forster So true Maureen...hey, wasn't it you that I scared out of the hot tub? hehe - I don't think so! I did have to pop out of SL for a bit, so it may have seemed as if you scared me.. but no! Bec and I were happy for company. The more the merrier! (thanks again, CX, for having us over yesterday!) |
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Maureen Boccaccio
TWJKFA
Join date: 28 Feb 2008
Posts: 14,484
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05-05-2008 12:08
From: Colette Forster Seriously though, this pain so f***king raw...any tips on how to move on and stop caring so much? Surround yourself with friends! Hang at the hangout...enjoy all that SL has to offer (so many places to see! such breathtaking builds!)...and breathe some First Life fresh air on occasion (I do that, once a week, whether I need to or not). |
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Maureen Boccaccio
TWJKFA
Join date: 28 Feb 2008
Posts: 14,484
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05-05-2008 12:10
From: Desmond Shang *shifts eyes*
Ah... It Is Said (not by ME, of course!)... that teh griefing is Purely Hypothetically a great way of curing all sorts of afflictions of oldbieness...
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It's good to hear you are helping new residents! But now that you are an official oldbie, here are ways NOT to help them:
Do not, under *any* conditions whatsoever, give freebie weapons and a helicopter to a noob, and tell him of 'big game' regions where there are lots of large, anthropomorphic animals.
Do not tell them that the vampire "^V^^V^V^V^ Howlzzzzzzz ^V^V^V^V^" thing you gave them is the coolest thing, evar, at a club.
Do not blind-tp 40 of your newest friendship-starved, don't-know-anyone-else friends into the sky, 400 meters above another oldbie's skybox humper-bunker. Especially when occupied. Doubly especially after giving them the Benny Hill run-around flashmob animation.
Never, ever, ever under any circumstances rename a gorean click-for-chain collar as "cool diamond necklace" and give it to a noob. And especially not in conjunction with 'fun roleplaying landmarks.' It is just wrong.
It is harmful to tell someone that they are actually stuck as the Zebra avatar permanently, and to make the best of it.
Do not ever casually refer to a noob as "ok boss", then "yes sir Phil" or say "so just what are you gonna do with that $L 50 million?" just out of the noob's chat range. It confuses both the noob, and all the gold-diggers in the nearby vicinity.
Last of all, it is VERY important that you never role-play that you are a weak-willed, incredibly sexy 19 year old girl who is beginning to rediscover her faith amongst a group of bible-thumping guys. It is REALLY, REALLY, REALLY wrong to make a guy fall for you over three weeks... especially if you suddenly 'reveal yourself' to be a man on voice, loudly and publically in a large group just as he was saying lovey-dovey things to you. Bad! Bad! This is sick and wrong.
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Congratulations on your oldbie-ness. Now you can whine with the best of us. Keep on leveling, and eventually you may make Feted Inner Core someday!
Good luck. This is a great list of things to add to my SL "to do" list. I may have to contact you for further instructions. |
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Roisin Hotaling
Pixel Manipulator
Join date: 3 Jun 2007
Posts: 300
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05-05-2008 12:20
It just takes time to get through the heartbreak. Surround yourself with friends and develop some projects. Having something to create in SL helped me tremendously, in part by giving me something to do in-world when my friends were offline or busy.
I knew I was over it when I could wear my zebra print bikini without being sad.
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LittleMe Jewell
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Join date: 8 Oct 2007
Posts: 11,319
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05-05-2008 12:43
From: Colette Forster /me raises megaphone
I KNOW THAT IT IS EASY TO VILIFY THE HEART BREAKER, BUT IN DEFENSE OF SOMEONE THAT I DEEPLY CARE FOR, THIS WAS NOT A SITUATION OF MALICIOUSNESS, DECEIT, OR INTENT TO HURT OR CAUSE HARM...
IT WAS JUST TWO HEARTS NOT BEATING IN UNISON.
HE IS SWEET AND KIND...I WOULD DO IT ALL AGAIN, HURT ALL OVER AGAIN JUST TO HAVE THE SPECIAL TIME BACK. And I second that. No matter how it hurts now, I will never regret the time and emotions that I put into that relationship and would do it all over again even knowing how it will end.
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Why do you sit there looking like an envelope without any address on it?
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Optimism is denial, so face the facts and move on.
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Macphisto Angelus
JAFO
Join date: 21 Oct 2004
Posts: 5,831
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05-05-2008 12:48
Hi CoCo. Yes, it sounds like you have weathered many of the storms that SL present to us. Especially the biggest of all.. heartbreak. Hang in there and know that there are great people in SL. I have grown extremely fond of many of the posters on this very board. There are good people here. *hugs* to you for your heartache. *hands diploma* And this is for your seasoned SL. Welcome to the asylum. We never get out alive.
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From: Natalie P from SLU Second Life: Where being the super important, extra special person you've always been sure you are (at least when you're drunk) can be a reality! From: Ann Launay I put on my robe and wizard ha...
Oh. Nevermind then.
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Allegria Kanto
Trailing clouds of glory
Join date: 28 Nov 2007
Posts: 1,004
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05-05-2008 12:52
Collette, I think you do what we do everyday, pick up and go on, accepting that this day and maybe tomorrow will be sad, but one day will be happy again.. There will be lots of sad and happy days in our SL lives, but each one in which we live with what we are feeling, not trying to shut down or avoid the pain, will make our lives richer. Accepting comfort from friends helps a lot, too. /me sends hugs. Congratulations on surviving your newbieness.
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Morgaine Alter
dreamer
Join date: 10 Jan 2008
Posts: 1,204
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05-05-2008 13:00
Oh sweetie I am so sorry.  You can always call me up in world anytime for some good fun or just to talk about it I am sheding my newbie thing too something in common. I am sure it was worth it I would have done it again too just like you said. I know what you mean about these milestones amazing huh. Yeah I was not looking for any romance myself but it just happens when you dont look for it. I am sure like someone posted it comes on quick and hope the pain goes just as. Good Luck to your adventures. Take Care
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Colette Forster
The Real Deal
Join date: 4 Apr 2008
Posts: 221
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05-05-2008 13:24
From: LittleMe Jewell And I second that. No matter how it hurts now, I will never regret the time and emotions that I put into that relationship and would do it all over again even knowing how it will end. You know LM, we seen to see eye to eye! We will need to hang out in world!
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Colette Forster
The Real Deal
Join date: 4 Apr 2008
Posts: 221
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05-05-2008 13:26
From: Allegria Kanto I think you do what we do everyday, pick up and go on, accepting that this day and maybe tomorrow will be sad, but one day will be happy again..
not trying to shut down or avoid the pain, will make our lives richer. Such sound advice! Thank you! You will have to be my official pep talk giver! LOL
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Nyoko Salome
kittytailmeowmeow
Join date: 18 Jul 2005
Posts: 1,378
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05-05-2008 13:31
;o my such a fast-learner this one is!! is she the mistress, or the apprentice(sssss I've paid my dues, time after time... I've done my sentence, but committed no crime... And bad mistakes - I've made a few... I've had my share of sand kicked in my face, but I've come through!! (and to go on and on and on...) We are the champions, my friends... And we'll keep on fighting till the end... We are the champions, we are the champions... No time for losers 'cuz we are the champions... of the world... I've taken my bows, and my curtain calls... You brought me fame and fortune and everything that goes with it - I thank you all!! But it's been no bed of roses... No pleasure cruise... I consider it a challenge before the whole human race - And I ain't gonna lose!! (and it goes on and on and on...) We are the champions, my friends... And we'll keep on fighting till the end... We are the champions, we are the champions... No time for losers, 'cuz we are the champions... of the world. We are the champions, my friends... And we'll keep on fighting till the end... We are the champions, we are the champions... No time for losers, 'cuz we are the champions...
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Lindal Kidd
Dances With Noobs
Join date: 26 Jun 2007
Posts: 8,371
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05-05-2008 14:13
*hugs CoCo*
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Derbor Torok
Lost soul
Join date: 21 Jun 2007
Posts: 1,016
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05-05-2008 14:19
From: Desmond Shang *shifts eyes*
It is harmful to tell someone that they are actually stuck as the Zebra avatar permanently, and to make the best of it.
Good luck. I was doing ok until this one... now I have a bunch people wondering why I am laughing at bad corporate news. You are a sick man Desmond... You forgot to remind her not to ever tell newbies that the white dot above some avs is a mark the the lindens use for avatars in 'probation' .d |
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Rhaorth Antonelli
Registered User
Join date: 15 Apr 2006
Posts: 7,425
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05-05-2008 14:20
From: Colette Forster I came in jaded with the naive assumption that this was just a fun past time. Forget it! This is the real deal.
real yep, so real I married my SL partner in RL how is that for real hehe as for getting over it, just give it time, a new romance will bloom and you will forget about the heartache (things tend to move faster in SL than in RL)
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Derbor Torok
Lost soul
Join date: 21 Jun 2007
Posts: 1,016
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05-05-2008 14:33
From: Colette Forster Seriously though, this pain so f***king raw...any tips on how to move on and stop caring so much? I am not sure if you ever forget... but time will make the feelings less raw and the pain, anger and sadness will slowly turn into a sweet or painful memories. In the mean time do what people suggest here, I am biased to exercise.. physical pain can do wonders for emotional angst. Start with the list that Desmond suggested you NOT do... i can guarantee that by the time you get to the end you will feel a whole lot better. .d |
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Colette Forster
The Real Deal
Join date: 4 Apr 2008
Posts: 221
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05-05-2008 16:23
Thank you all for your sage advice and insight. I really appreciate the friends I have made here. Y'all rock!
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Trout Recreant
Public Enemy No. 1
Join date: 24 Jul 2007
Posts: 4,873
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05-05-2008 17:03
From: Oryx Tempel I did this in RL once. Only it was all his stuff. I think I might pretend to be a weak-willed 19 year old, rediscovering her faith. Sounds like fun! Thanks Des. Note to self. Keep my stuff away from Oryx. She burns things. Hey - can I watch the 19 year old thing? That would be some serious entertainment.
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Claire Silverspar
Pokes Badgers With Spoons
Join date: 31 Oct 2007
Posts: 5,375
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05-05-2008 17:16
From: Maggie McArdle go to blockbuster and rent three movies, one horror, one tearjerker( watch this one last). and one action adventure. buy your favorite ice cream flavor. get in your favorite veg out clothes( do NOT invite your girlfriends over, this is your road to healing time and they will so not be helpful). watch movies, eat ice cream. when you get to tear jerker movie, bawl, cry as if its the end of the world. you will fell better. return movies to blockbuster then rent 3 comedies(a fish called wanda, dude where's my car, and anything monty python) . huggssss and if you need an ear to bend im seconded...this is a great way to help heal...not just from heartbreak either.
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