A milestone for me...

that I think are worth sharing!

I think that I can officially shed my newbie-ness....

*I have been asked for help by two new newbies and I actually had the answers.

*I have been annoyed by newbies.

*I have heard the scorn of old timers...seen someone leave promising never to return, and come back.

*I have been swallowed up by drama and spit back out.

*I have seen players turn into boyfriends (not mine).

*I have started to be able to identify the people who are genuinely cool and those that are out just to excercise their prim penis (or vagina).

*I have made a couple real friends! For all you ladies, you should know that CX is a great catch...Hey, nothing like pimping a good friend LOL

*I attended my first forum party and had a blast! Even met a super cool person. Did we scare you out of the hot tub? /me smiles sheepishly

*And the biggest milestone...I have had my heart broken. I came in jaded with the naive assumption that this was just a fun past time. Forget it! This is the real deal.

Therefore, I have vowed to no longer refer to SL versus RL...it is SL and FL. Emotions run the same and cross over - good and bad!


I may still be a neophyte, but I have ripped off my own newbie title.

I think a party is in order. When I stop wallowing in my heart ache...I will have to have a party at my place! I'll keep you posted.

Hugs to all of you here at the Forums who have helped me rip off bits of my newbie shell (you know who you are...oh okay...you deserve my props...Lindal, CX, Jimmy, he who shall not be named AKA heart breaker, Jez...am I missing anyone?),

Love,
Coco

LOL - welcome to the sanitarium !

ROTFLMAO

TY

Welcome, Coco! Glad to have another fun person around!

So sorry about the heartbreak...we may be using Barbie and Ken dolls in SL, but the hearts and souls of the players are very real.

Colette,

Thanks for the undeserved praise. You have fallen in with a great group of people. I could make a long list as well. People that helped and encouraged me. People that stood up for me when I didn't deserve it.

As to being a "catch" I don't know about that. I think someone has caught me already I am just waiting to see if she throws me back or not.

"CX"

Hi Colette! GOLLY GEE! I was going to flirt with you myself but I think Claire has tamed (if not tamed...captured) the beast in me and now I seem to be stuck on her, and I like it!

Anyway...its good to have good people like you in the group, I hope you feel as welcome as I was made to be felt by all! And if they get a bit heated in their debate here on the forums don’t take it personal, when it’s all said and done they are all very nice in world when interacting and such (the forums are a different story LOL!)

WELCOME!

So true Maureen...hey, wasn't it you that I scared out of the hot tub?

Damn, just rub in my broken heart for the man I could not capture.
/me whimpers

JK Hun! Glad to hear that you two are happy.

Seriously though, this pain so f***king raw...any tips on how to move on and stop caring so much?

Oh how true that statement is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wait until you've accidentally deleted your home and had to start again from scratch!
That is the final initiation right. If you survive that without giving up you're a true SL-er!

Scotch.

Make it a double. Hell, a triple

OMG, yes. I can so relate to this. *hugs*

Isn't it a shame that it sometimes takes a heartache for us to realize just how powerful this place is.

It seems to me that the deep emotions develop quicker in this environment, and therefore it is my hope that the healing will come quicker also.

Well congrats on your non-noobness~!!

I like the SL vs FL.... I think I will have to adopt that philosophy when I move since I too will be a FL resident soon. Though I do still cling to my yankee girl status by default...I spent most of my life in Mass and that will always be home.

All you stated is so true...I can relate on all levels except the heart break part....I don't take anything too seriously in SL. I've made wonderful freinds and they are as dear to me as any other friend.....but since I don't get into the romance bit I have steered clear of any real let downs. I've run into a few wingnuts who seemed cool at first....but when they turn out to be wingnuts...I just forget about em. Sorta the same way I would with anyone else I meet, for that matter. ((((hugs)))) Your heart will heal.... and in the mean time... Party with the rest of us sinatarium folks, hehe I mean sanitarium.

Way to look at the bright side girl! LOL

*shifts eyes*

Ah... It Is Said (not by ME, of course!)... that teh griefing is Purely Hypothetically a great way of curing all sorts of afflictions of oldbieness...

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It's good to hear you are helping new residents! But now that you are an official oldbie, here are ways NOT to help them:



Do not, under *any* conditions whatsoever, give freebie weapons and a helicopter to a noob, and tell him of 'big game' regions where there are lots of large, anthropomorphic animals.

Do not tell them that the vampire "^V^^V^V^V^ Howlzzzzzzz ^V^V^V^V^" thing you gave them is the coolest thing, evar, at a club.

Do not blind-tp 40 of your newest friendship-starved, don't-know-anyone-else friends into the sky, 400 meters above another oldbie's skybox humper-bunker. Especially when occupied. Doubly especially after giving them the Benny Hill run-around flashmob animation.

Never, ever, ever under any circumstances rename a gorean click-for-chain collar as "cool diamond necklace" and give it to a noob. And especially not in conjunction with 'fun roleplaying landmarks.' It is just wrong.

It is harmful to tell someone that they are actually stuck as the Zebra avatar permanently, and to make the best of it.

Do not ever casually refer to a noob as "ok boss", then "yes sir Phil" or say "so just what are you gonna do with that $L 50 million?" just out of the noob's chat range. It confuses both the noob, and all the gold-diggers in the nearby vicinity.

Last of all, it is VERY important that you never role-play that you are a weak-willed, incredibly sexy 19 year old girl who is beginning to rediscover her faith amongst a group of bible-thumping guys. It is REALLY, REALLY, REALLY wrong to make a guy fall for you over three weeks... especially if you suddenly 'reveal yourself' to be a man on voice, loudly and publically in a large group just as he was saying lovey-dovey things to you. Bad! Bad! This is sick and wrong.

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Congratulations on your oldbie-ness. Now you can whine with the best of us. Keep on leveling, and eventually you may make Feted Inner Core someday!

Good luck.

Congratulations. You've taken a step a lot of us haven't had the nerve to take yet. I revel in my newbieness. I can play stupid when i screw things up and I never lose the joy I had when I initially joined.

My advice, though, is to do ALL of those things that Desmond just told you not to.

Well, romance does not always happen on purpose. I am not looking for romance - wasn't then, am not now. Although Graph has offered to play Cupid when I am ready! LOL

I am a bit perplexed by your statement about having friends but not taking SL serious. How can you be a true friend but not take anything seriously? How can you have true friendship and eliminate the chance of getting hurt...even by a good friend? My FL best friend lets me down on occasion, cause I care. And because I care and take her seriously, we work it out.

This is not meant as a judgment, just a question.

When a friend hurts you, write it in the sand.
When a friend helps you, write it on the stone.

See which one lasts longer. It took a hard lesson for me to learn this, but I sure won't forget.

"CX"

Take everything in your inventory that reminds you of the heartbreaker and box it up, so you don't have to keep seeing stuff that reminds you everytime you change clothes. Set the box out in your front yard and rezz a fire around it.. Let it burn until you tire of it, Then take box back into inventory or delete. Healing does seem to come quicker in this world for some, just give it a little time. Try to focus on the good things you got from the relationship, but not to the point where you will do anything to return to that place...bad thoughts promote more bad thoughts. Dust yourself off and move on, wiser and stronger.

Sorry for the heart ache- it goes away as slowly as in RL. Just feel it and add it to the sum of you.

Well, remember who you are,and that you ARE the wonderful gal who deserves better. Do not let ANYONE wear down your self esteem. There are parasites who infest the mind and do not give up untill that mind has surrendered to its will...I call them control freaks, manipulators. those people who are like that have puffed themselves up to seem so important, but at the same time have such low self esteem themselves that they are not happy if anyone else has higher self esteem that they...thus the struggle...and to hell if a heart gets hurt in the process. we humans (behind the avatar) have fragile hearts and are easily wounded.

My advice is to find a group (and it looks like you have with the hangout bunch) that are supportive and friendly, and let you be who you are.

Usually it is the GUY who wounds the gal, but I have been wounded by a woman a while back, and had to go through a healing process, it took a while because it was from a long term RL relationship. Hopefully the short term SL relationship with it's wounding will heal a lot quicker as LittleMe stated earlier.

I wish you the best Colette!

I did this in RL once. Only it was all his stuff.

I think I might pretend to be a weak-willed 19 year old, rediscovering her faith. Sounds like fun! Thanks Des.