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Brenda Connolly
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08-21-2008 06:52
From: Victorria Paine Which is a perfectly reasonable, and not uncommon, way to approach SL. It does appear that there are many people who cannot, for whatever reason, get past the "cartoon character" aspect of SL, and that therefore neither seek nor understand the relationships that others can have here. Again, this is all fine, provided that the groups stay separate -- what leads to disaster is when one person is in SL to have some laughs, and the other is not. Again, communication is key. It's not always a case of not being able to get past the "Cartoon" aspect, sometimes it's just a choice of approaches and interests. Choosing not to form any personal attachments here does not signify a lack of understanding necessarily. Communication is key, you are right. But the groups don't have to be seperate. A lot of people I meet and have as friends are invested deeper into SL more than I ever will be, financially, emotionaly, whatever. They are Residents of SL , while I consider myself a just Visitor. That doesn't mean we can't interact and respect each other. Like you said , it takes a little communication and sensitivity. And maturity. That's where things get sticky.
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Bella Posaner
Just say it how it is FFS
Join date: 8 May 2008
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08-21-2008 16:50
From: Brenda Connolly It's not always a case of not being able to get past the "Cartoon" aspect, sometimes it's just a choice of approaches and interests. Choosing not to form any personal attachments here does not signify a lack of understanding necessarily. Communication is key, you are right. But the groups don't have to be seperate. A lot of people I meet and have as friends are invested deeper into SL more than I ever will be, financially, emotionaly, whatever. They are Residents of SL , while I consider myself a just Visitor. That doesn't mean we can't interact and respect each other. Like you said , it takes a little communication and sensitivity. And maturity. That's where things get sticky. I agree Brenda. I certainly respect that people do get emotionally involved and think it's perfectly ok, we don't all process our thoughts in the same way or manifest them in the same way. Perhaps because I have a partner in RL, whom I am very much in love with, I don't see people in SL from that perspective. But I do believe people regardless of their personal perspective can and should interact. I have 2 really good friends I met online, via message boards, I now know both of them in RL and have been friends with them for many years. So never say never  My good friend happens to be someone who gets very emotionally involved in SL and she is one of my best friends, so it is possible for all of us to get along |
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Victorria Paine
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Join date: 13 Jul 2007
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08-22-2008 05:42
Oh I think all kinds of people *can* interact -- that's beyond question. Personally, I've seen more than one of these types of relationships blow up at some point (whether a romantic relationship or not), so at this stage in my SL I prefer to generally avoid users who use SL differently from the way that I do. It works for me.
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