profiles

i was talking to someone today and they were talking about that i have not set up my profile yet and i should so people know more about me, can anyone pelase tell me where i got to go to set this up

Right-click on your av and choose Profile from the pie menu.

hi Stryker1, welcome to the forums!

You set your profile up inworld. Right-click on your avatar, and choose "Profile" off the pie menu. There are several tabs you can fill out as you wish. Remember to hit "OK" instead of just closing the profile when you're done, otherwise your changes won't be saved.

Anyone can read anyone else's profile, just by right clicking on them as above.

Have fun!
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While logged in to Second Life, find your profile panel by clicking 'preferences' on the top of the screen, then click 'profile' on the list that drops down.

You can put as little or as much as you want on your profile - leave it blank if you wish, there's no compulsion. There are various tabs at the top which bring up different sections of the profile you can fill in.

(or select profile by right-clicking avatar, as stated in previous post - there are often more than one way to do things in SL!)

thank you very much for taking the time to help me on this matter and i will g check it out soon

Just remember that your profile is public. Don't put anything in it you don't want generally known.

Oh crap. No wonder people look at me funny!

Seriously, your Profile deserves your attention.

It's the first thing people look at when meeting you...or even BEFORE meeting you, to see if you are someone they'd like to talk to. It's your ad for yourself...so put stuff in there that you think will attract the kind of people you'd like to have as friends (as long as it's true, of course ).

A blank Profile says to me, "This person is clueless...or so closed up that they aren't friend material." A Profile that says, "Mess with me and my Master/Mistress/Cousin Vinnie will kill you" tells me this person is probably an asshat. One that's full of weird song lyrics leaves me scratching my head. One that's full of weird dark sexual roleplay groups tells me that this person and I probably don't have a lot in common (but can make you a lot of friends with similar interests, so that's OK.)

Note that the various picture areas have different aspect ratios. Crop the pictures you want to put in them accordingly, so they won't be squashed or stretched.

The school where I teach, GQ Start, has a class on Profiles. I recommend it.

When I see a blank profile I think that maybe this person did not want to use that optional tool, or perhaps they favour telling you about themselves when you talk to them.

I had a blank profile for a very long time and yet am not clueless or extremely closed up at all. I just preferred people to ask me about myself, made for better conversations too.

I actually dislike someone looking at my profile at first meet and then using that to begin their first conversation with me, it seems so unnatural and creepy. If that person in RL were meeting you for the first time would have no idea of what you like, are into etc.

They would have to ask, and I would tell them. Trends do seem to be that people have to describe themselves in great detail (even in a fantasy sense) to anyone, profiles, myspace, facebook etc.
I am just not in to that at all.

I have put the minimum amount of crap so that I don't get shunned by people who cannot understand that about me and a little to explain to people about the whole IM/notecard/business hours thing.

That's why I put a lot of thought into my profile until it was perfect.

I agree with that mostly. Someone I met early on absolutely refused to read profiles, preferring to get to know you the old fashioned way, by conversation. I used to be a serial profile reader, but I don't do it as much anymore, at least not at first.

A blank profile may not turn me away from someone, their picks can also tell me something about themselves, as well as their groups. Some people aren't big on talking themselves up, and I am somewhat befuddled by the MyFaceSpaceBook culture that makes people put out all their intimate thoughts and details for all the world to see. It's sort of like walking around in RL handing out dossiers on yourself to everyone you meet on the street. I tell people tp put as much or as little as they feel comfortable with. Sometimes, less is more.

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I do think that the profiles can actually hinder meeting people in some ways. A person's group interests may not be in line with yours, and that may dissuade you from striking up a conversation. Those probably aren't the only interests a person will have, but you may never get to know that if you go solely by what you see in the profile. In a place where we can explore our fantasises and express our creativity, we can sometimes get awfully judgemental based of the most trivial things. It's also why I don't read First Life Tabs. I don't care who or what you are in real Life. We aren't going to interact anwhere but in SL.I've been considering hiding all my group listings in my profile, and just keeping my RP picks with backstory info, just to see if it changes how people approach me.

I tend to agree with Gabriele and Brenda on this. I use my profile mainly as a tool to let people know if I will be away for extended periods of time or other contact information.

But I don't mind other people using them for personal information, it's their space to write what they wish.

To each their own; with around 50,000 in world at any given time, I think there is plenty of room for all of us!

In my profile the description says something like 'please go to my store', in the web tab I have a link to my slexchange items, in my picks tab it has a link to my store, and my classifieds tab has my ad. There's very little space left to tell you about myself.

I actually keep a lot of my groups hidden. Honestly, I'm in a lot of staff groups, and figure other people don't care about that.

As for the 1st life tab, I've always had a smartass line in that box, usually along the lines of "yeah I have one, nothing to see here", and I NEVER put up a real life picture of myself. SL is like Vegas. What goes on in SL stays in SL.

While the ladies may not realise it, their profile is *much* more important than their skin/shape/clothes/lackofclothing - well, for guys that can read, that is, although I realise that for some literacy can be intimidating.

I reckon that inadequate profiles are probably the cause of most of the Forums' plaintive cries of "why can't I find people/friends/partners/intimates?"

And saying "just talk to me" works fine if you don't want discriminating guys to talk to you, which is one way of marketing yourself to a particular sector of the population. I'm happy to explain further but this post is getting too lengthy.

I occasionally help people improve their profiles (I keep thinking I should make a business out of it but . . . ) with surprising success. One escort went from averaging one trick a day to one an hour and made enough to retire after a couple of months (sore fingers apparently) and another girl whose profile I adjusted on a Friday afternoon called me on the following Sunday to ask if I could turn down the pulling power as she couldn't cope with all the interest she was generating.

And all because when I was a noob I wasted a quarter of an hour chatting up a girl who seemed to laugh a lot at my jokes, but who turned out to be Serbian and almost illiterate in English.

Pep (Profiles are personal marketing; if only there was a rl equivalent!)

Respectfully I disagree, people have many reasons in SL for not being able to find like minded people, just as they do in SL. Groups are far more useful for directing you to like minded people than what is written in profiles.

I for one am not here to "market" myself to anyone for anything. I am not selling myself here, I really care not for people who cannot be bothered to look beyond a blank profile.

"Just talk to me" always worked just fine to me, again I think you are off the mark. I get far more attention than I want mostly, always have even when my profile was blank - I believe it is due to personality, though good taste in the selection of what your av is wearing plays an important role also.
Most people are attracted to the av's look initially, then they talk to you and find out if you are interesting.

Well if selling yourself in that way is what you are after then I have no doubt a profile can be a good way of advertising it.

My profile is like an SUV... It's big, bloated, I won't really use it, but it feels good to know it's there. (^_^)y

Ran into a girl one time who had an interesting profile.
Went like:

Dances 50L
Table Dances 75L
Lap Dances 100L
...

and went on from there to discribe various states of undress and or sex acts.

Bet she had lots of friends...

I have a RL pic in my 1L page but you could never pick me out of a crowd with it

I have had a few guys IM me about it, till I tell them it's a 30 year old picture lol

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I'm not concerned whether "discriminating people" talk to me or not. I don't discriminate, I'll talk to anybody at the outset and go from there. I'm not using SL as any sort of dating service or serious social networking avenue, I'm just a tourist wnadering about. .

While I have no problem with blank profiles, I don't generally start conversations with "blankies".

On the other hand, if I see something in a profile that catches my eye, I may very well chat about it, particularly if it's a common interest and no i'm not looking to pick someone up in doing so.

So I guess for me, blank profiles say one of three things to me (my perspective)

1. Doesn't want to share anything
2. Doesn't have anything to say
3. Is a newbie and hasn't figured out how

Sometimes I wish guys would read mine, particularly the advice about what will not work as a come on.

I think profiles are really important as an expression of the person. After all, we dont have facial expressions or the nuances of stance, perfume, hair, expression and even our personal space and aura that really tell what a person can be like. We often mix with people in the real world and within five minutes can "suss" them out. Here we must advertize ourselves. I spend happy minutes adjusting my profile to match me. My pics are there and something of myself in real. I express my likes and dislikes in the real world. I love it when people read my profile even if they think I am a complete narcissist.

I am always disappointed when I meet people who have absolutely nothing to say in their profile except the first sex clubs they landed in or where to get freebies.

Profiles express ourselves in an intense way.

My personal opinion is that it's easier to start a conversation with someone if you have read their profile and know a little about them. I don't want their Myspace page or all the intimate details of their drama filled lives or anything, but if their profile says something about their interests or reasons for being in SL, that's really helpful for starting a conversation. I agree that group memberships helps as well, though. I don't see it as a form of marketing (unless you are plugging your store or something), I just see it as a way to help people know who you are a little better, and it makes you more approachable.

Given a choice of starting a conversation with two people, one with a blank profile, and one with an interesting profile, I'm going to pick the interesting profile virtually every time. Although same choice, but instead of an interesting profile, it's one of those awful ones that says, "if you mess with me I'll kick your ass seven different ways and my clan of werewolves will eat your liver and you'll rue the day you were born! No drama, either! I hate drama.", then I'll pick anyone else to talk to.