Do all the Event places stink?

You bring up a good point FD, how do introverted people connect with others over the long term. Interacting can be exhausting for us so its a good question. I solve the problem by arranging lots of alone time and recharging.

I really admire your courage for seeking to be accepted as you are.

Thanks.
I accept myself 70 percent of time but its sort of hard to live on the world alone too.
Be it SL or RL.
It weird thing to be a introvert who realizes they also need others...odd thing too.
I know some think we all are in it by ourselves but if that is true why do we have people around us too in rl?
Yet in SL it just gets to be too difficult to have large group of people to interact without
problems be it computer, server or whatever.
And even at maximum amount of people online SL still feels like very laggy ghost town sometimes even 5 years later.
Sometimes I think I like SL to be bit more like real life.
When you go place people are there actually interacting with each other if their are people
not this weird nightmare world where people stand or do whatever animation staring out in space.
I need a lot of alone time myself but starting to wonder if that is always good thing.
Yet when too much is going in rl or sl all the same time it is very difficult for me.

Unfortunately I have no clue how to promote anything either, but I think "Creative Queens Support Group" has a certain ring to it.

I guess I don't really see it as a "support group" in the honored tradition of twelve-step programs and daily affirmations, though--just more a social club. (But I still think the "Support Group" name has a cool, semi-ironic tone.)

The "Creative" part of it is important because a group kinda has to be *about* something, in order to not be about something else. That is, a gay group with no more precise charter is apt to be or become about sex, inasmuch as sexual orientation would be the sole defining characteristic.

I suppose the "Queen" thing is less than ideally inclusive for the L, B, T, etc. parts of the broader community. Maybe the other orientations would forgive us our alliteration... or maybe wide inclusion wouldn't even be essential to the intent.

I run a private twisted brotherhood group, very few of men, most of women are brothers....so after many jokes the women decided we need sisters added but joke still is the sisters are brothers. haha
It not as active as it use to be its more for land purposes now if anything else.
If Sisters can be brothers then
anyone can be a Queen if they want to be.
Yeah not too sure I want to create 12 steps in how to recover from being creative queen be it drama or the other...haha
Sexuality and sexual images can be very creative. I recently been delving in this with art. Human body and human sexual expression in form of part a tree but bit stuck right now.
Personally it just personal art for me, I don't know exactly how it fits with others yet because I don't know.
I was a part of the sex positive communities but I didn't find anything affirming personally I guess it just seemed like opportunity to have sex parties but it wasn't like their was many choices for expression or connections that would apply to me.

The Events problem: Too few flowers, way too many weeds.

it is not just the homosexual areas that seem to be a let down, all places be they geared to the homosexual crowd, or the straight, or the somewhere in betweens, they all seem to be dead, dying, or full of zombie campers

I tried bar/club hopping and each time it was the same result, either empty place, or those who were there AND talking, were only talking to each other, with the canned welcome to the club, then you are forgotten, and THEN the flood of grrrowwwls and hoooo's (god I hate ppl who gesture flood)

so I decided the heck with it, and put my own club back out there. I enjoy it, even though it is empty (I am working on getting the word out to dJ's that want to have a place to DJ at, without the hassel of following a clubs massive amount of rules) even so... I still like it even when empty

it feels warm and inviting me to, and if you happen to come in and I am there, you can be sure (or semi-sure) I will talk to you (unless I happen to be AFK or in photoshop, etc)

So.. I invite you guys, (anyone lurking or posting) to drop by and check it out.. feel free to bring a friend or two, maybe even go fishing outside if you want... it is there to enjoy, it is not there to make money, or draw traffic for shopping (I do have some rentals that may or may not stay.,. still undecided (need to talk to the couple renters there first))

I guess I rambled enough, bye for now

PS you can find the club/bar (I hate to call it a club... it is more of a bar) in my profile picks in world it is called back seat norm

Hi I sent you a lM to mission beach inworld, please do give it another chance it is a fabulous place with just chat and no sex/nudity allowed. Just basic friendship and parties amd chat etc, sounds just liek what you are looking for. They have in-house DJs who regulary stream music and just lots of fun and chat. IM me in world and Ill go along with you and intro you to the regular guys there

The truth of the matter is that places cannot be staffed 24/7. If there is a particular place you like for its build, you will have to join the group and find out when their events are. European places are active in European times, American places in American times. And prime time for all time zones is in the evening of that time zone, say 6 to 9pm. So Europe will hit its stride around 12pm SLT, Americans around 6 to 10pm SLT, etc. Asians/Australians would hit it in the morning SLT. You have to know where to go within the relevant time frame.

What Cristalle said. One brief visit when nothing is really going on at the time isn't quite enough to come to any conclusions about a given place. Anything worthwhile is going to take an investment of time, effort and a fair bit of patience.

Thanks all who responded.
Sorry if I came off sounded like I was whining and went into drama queen code.
Yeah I think also when I explore its late at night during the everyone has gone to bed or hooked up and left.
I usually create, sleep about 4 hours on good day hang out with my friend for few hours in the Aussie dinner hour til she goes to bed, learning stuff from her if I am feeling rezzed that day I go explore for few hours after 4 am til sun starts to get me crawl into my coffin bed i mean few more hours to sleep then start to create all over again until nap time or rl stuff needs to be done.
That on good day the last few weeks I am lucky if I can produce a texture or outfit a day and friends want to do fashion show before my birthday of my creations in few weekends but I don't know if they are really ready.
My male friend in real life usually comes and visit me when I am not shoving him away during the weekends...
If I am creating I am at it 12 hours at time, sometimes when one of my female friends are working together it may be 24 hours at time or more when I am not I am bit lost.
Luckily my rl situation permits creating 60 hours a week but there are weeks it harder then others.