Long drama thread. Enter at you own risk.

You know, there is a middle ground. You don't need to be married or be a 'boy toy' (what ever that means). Respect yourself and others, fall in love with life and all the simple things that surround your everyday. If you should meet someone along the way who is willing to travel through SL or RL with you and who brings you joy, great. They may walk with you for only a few miles, or travel the same path for many years. Either way, appreciate the moments shared and when you go your separate ways, just continue on your own path. Being by yourself can also be fun. Making plans about your future relationships is okay, but we are rarely where we thought we would be one year later. No one can really see beyond the next curve or twist.

Life is like a box of chocolates and all that...

Life is like a pair of bright yellow boxer shorts...you gotta dance life a fool with nothing else on...you never know what might turn up then guy!

It's very true you know Yosef. That post you made the other day has probably paved your way with many admirers. Be careful who you give the compassion to ...

and don't lose your rag so easy next time. It's very easy to make massive mistakes and then cut yourself to pieces - only to have someone mute you and treat you as if you're dirt. My advice is to forget about it - mute her back if you must or if she offends you but of course only if you're past caring. Don't mute her if you still care - why does she deserve that amount of your energy?

Oh yosef I read your post and it brought tears to my eyes and a lump in my throat.

I am so sorry that you have had to endure this heartbreak. I think I agree with the majority of posts and say give it time. Give yourself time to heal and get on with your life.

I have never had to go through anything like this, so don't for a minute think I am speaking from experience. I feel your pain however. And it bloody hurts lol.

From your post and other comments made, it sounds like although you did break it off, you realised your mistake but she decided to mess with you for a bit. Its crap, but you have to move on. I don't believe a broken heart ever truly heals, but you have to pick up the pieces and carry on, eventually it will sort of heal, but will always bear the scars. You will never forget, but you will learn to focus on the good and love again. If that is truly what you want. it may not be.

I think the root of it all is that you have to decide yourself what you want to do. Is being a boytoy for you? Only you can answer that. If it helps you to move on, sure. If not, maybe not. Is it a distraction what you are looking for? Or long term healing? Remember though, none of these options are bad as such, distractions can be great and they do help you heal. It is just what works for you personally.

Take your time. Heal. Move on. Someday you will look back on it all with nothing more than a mild ache.

/me laughs out loud in the office.

Wow, it's been years since I've heard anyone use that term.

Hehe, this reminded me of a saying I heard the other day:

A good man is hard to find, but a hard man is good to find.

:d lol. sorry it just reminded me of that.

Drama does bad things to your blood pressure, self-esteem, and Friends list. So, usually, does SL marriage, according to some folks.

Maybe that's why Yosef is so popular...he is good and, with prim technology, will have a hard time not being hard.

Can we clone him? My husband says I can have a pool boy.

QFT

Also when the drama ratio becomes greater then the fun/romance ratio its time to move on in rl or sl. CLEARY thats the case here.

Good luck.

I hear Starcraft is really inexpensive these days. You can shoot at the evil Zerg.


They tend to come in waves, have parasites, burrow, spit acid and sometimes fly.

But for all that, they aren't any drama.

Yosef!!!
I know where all the best plaid is!! Call me. And you know I don't fool around with boy toys so you are safe with me.

Yosef,

My best advice, for what it's worth, is just be where you are. It seems, in our Western society, we rush here and there, madly searching for the next experience, for the next distraction to alleviate our suffering, piling one upon the other, never realizing that at the core our pain roils like molten lava, just waiting to spew through the first available fissure. It may erupt in tears, anger, illness.... but it doesn't go away until exposed to the cooling air.

Contemplation, talking with good friends, accepting compassion when offered, just sitting with the feelings.... all healing activities you may find comforting. This isn't saying don't have fun, but don't use the fun times to deny your true heart. Wisdom is found in both suffering and joy.

This is not to say I always take my own advice, mind you, <rueful laughter here>.

One of your lurking fans...

Maitri

/me blinks.
You don't?
Well that settles it. No more boytoy

So do some SL women

Have to agree with Raymond on this one.

Maitri,
Thank you. You really hit home with that and it makes a lot of sense.

Share affairs of the heart with friends who know you, not the masses.

Ah, trapped another one. Drama is like a car wreak; you know it's sickening and you just can not turn away.

However, I did not know the two were mutually exclusive. I seem to have a mass of friends here. If you care to IM me in world, I will add you as a friend as well. If I ever need to talk with my mass of friends again, I will try to name the thread a little better to warn people that it contains a long drama thread and they should enter at thir own risk.

For what it's worth, Raymond is a bit of a cynic with a black sense of humor and all in all I like his posts. If you are the sme way, Czari, I see no reason not to say welcome to my nightmare, please join the mass of friends

No
I didn't post twice, the system must have a cache glitch
I went - left - vamooshed - drank beer, ate chilli, fondled the wife.....


But thanks for pointing out the bleedin obvious.



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While some drama in life is unavoidable and part of life.... I think you should ask yourself if you're really enjoying this or ready to do something else.
Only you know what is true for yourself and your situation. Perhaps to detach and truly see this situation clearly you should imagine that all that is happening is on special SL version of One life to live or General Hospital and your situation is a part of one of those soaps....
Now are you yelling at the television screen? Who are you shouting at? Or are you so annoyed with the whole story line that you change the channel? Or is it exciting, distracting you from the dirty dishes in the sink?

Well, your blatant plea for sympathy even appealed to MY girlfriend.

Nice goin' fella!

I'm with Raymond on this one.