Observations of SL Relationships..real emotions or just roleplay? How do you see it?

Jerry Springer show was quite interesting..lets see how this turns out. Tell about your encounters and why things went wrong. I doubt many with touch this. lol.

whose hair can i threaten to rip out?

Have you ever been cheated on and how did you feel about that?

Did you feel it was only roleplay or was there real emotions involved?

.... I was gonna post on this, but I'm a total tramp, so I'll back away slowly and hope none of my GFs troll the forums...

That's a very good question....is SL love real emotion or roleplay.

I'd say a bit of both...

Cause you give your trust to your in-game love.

Once you get past the realisation its a game you will adopt the no drama life style. Its a good life style its fufilling and rewarding your heart doesnt get hurt and you dont have to worry about your spouse catching you diddling with your in game partner...LOL

<<<<has seen people go...shush dont type the spouse is comming and you can see their avatar anxiously running around trying to make the screen text hurry up and dissappear...LOL

I've seen both sides of the spectrum, and all kinds of in between. I know couples who met in SL, and it progressed to RL, even to marriage - and has been successful. And I know people who are married in RL, yet maintain an exclusive relationship with someone in SL. Then there are the people for who SL relationships are all a game, just for fun.

I think it's just about communication, and being honest about your intentions. I'm so glad for those who have found successful relationships through SL, but I've seen many people hurt by lies and manipulation.

I that is definately true..and I find that alot of females that play this game are married in Real Life.

Cmon....a little self manipulation never hurt anybody.

Let me put it this way..I have a tough Profession.

If it does, you might be doing it wrong Unless you're into that sort of thing.

This is the sentiment I was going to post, but Hose beat me to it I agree with her on all counts, especially the part I've highlighted above.

well sometimes people take it kind of seriously and get upset in r.l ..for some people sl is only thing people have..sometimes they dont care but i think its a ify situation

Now I know what Elvis went through lol.

Elvis was a man whore? (can I say man whore here?)

haha

ive been cheated on sort of it aint no big deal...but then again im unusual anyhoo....my iw partner artimus i love deeply and that is rl emotion behind the av...hes a sweetie, i put emotion into everything i do from dealin with my iw chillins to my rl son so its all the same to meeee

I think we all have feelings..weather we let them get in the way or not...and Jealousy will drive you mad if you let it. The hard part is maintaining the friendship that gets battered in the emotional rollercoaster.

I have never had an SL relationship and would not presume to belittle the emotions of others -- but for me, there would be no question: I couldn't have one and feel anything -- deep -- for my SL partner. Affection, yes. Lust, desire, love, infatuation? No.

Communication is indeed the key. To some, SL relationships are just a way to pass the time and possibly act out some wild fantasies, to others a place to build and chat without any intimate/sexual relationships, while to others they can be very deep and emotional. I think it's wise to never assume that someone you meet in SL feels the same about in-world relationships as you do. If you find yourself becoming emotionally attached in SL with a partner/lover, that might be a good time to sit down and talk about it. Discuss limits (does it go beyond SL and into RL, even if just by phone), are there others that might be hurt by this (RL spouses, other in-world lovers, etc) and what are you both looking for?

We recently had a nice discussion about this during our Wednesday D/s Discussion Group at Perilous Pleasure (plug) and almost all agreed that real emotions are definitely involved and that, due to it being based almost purely on communication (with some nice visuals), many SL love relationships can become quite serious, alhtought I think they are generally not as intensely so as RL, and to a large degree, easier to end.

Wha.. Huh, can I help you Maeve?

A little less conversation, a little more action please
All this aggravation ain't satisfactioning me
A little more bite and a little less bark
A little less fight and a little more spark
Close your mouth and open up your heart and baby satisfy me
Satisfy me baby

I think a discussion before hand is very important. Setting up the ground rules so they are clear to each other. I have been with the same person (online) for over 18 months now, we traveled to SL from TSO. Knowing what will be acceptable beforehand, where the relationship will go is very important to know up front. We spent a good deal of time working out what is acceptable to us both. I can say we have been very happy

Hohohosey put it so well. Yes, spectrum. I like that word. Relationships are not a binary thing, and neither is sexuality and expression of affection, adoration, love -- whatever you choose to call it.

In the end... it comes down to the individuals involved who have chosen to unite in such a bond. Each individual is unique, so I cannot generalize and make a blanket case.

That being said, I'm sooo happy to be with my sweetie Jadey. We are together and I am honored by her. While I roleplay certain elements of SL like the whole timetravelling angle and the whole "cyberpunk princess outta control who rides on giant watermelons in the sandbox", this is not roleplaying. It involves real thoughts + feelings. On SL, I have found an extension of myself leading into the future timeline, and I am very excited about what is yet to come.



Trust... communication... like David said, ohyes.

Communication is always a key factor in ANY relationship. It makes no differance if this involves RL or SL. People forget sometimes that there are real live individuals behind these avatars, an we all have feelings. To quote my father who is a war vet:

"A lack of communication can get someone killed..."

Oh how true, how true......