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Your Creativity and your Sl Partner

Tya Fallingbridge
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10-05-2005 23:07
I have never seen this question posted, though I am curious. Has your SL business, job or project caused problems with your SL partner not understanding what you are trying to accomplish and been unsupportive?
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Jonquille Noir
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10-05-2005 23:11
Thankfully that isn't an issue for me. The closest I have to a SL partner is a RL partner who is also in SL. And if he gets uppity and unsupportive, I can go kick him.
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Tya Fallingbridge
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10-05-2005 23:39
Its nice to see couples in RL enjoy a SL together. Only one person that I have spent time with in the last two years in this game , understood and was supportive.

If anyone is going through this, dont feel guilt over your desire to create. SL is an outlet, use it to the full extent that it offers.

This is where boy toys come in handy :P
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Torley Linden
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10-06-2005 00:05
My partner has always been supportive of me. :) Sometimes I know I am like a crazy kitty spinning around balls of string and I wind her all up and make a mess rearranging the furniture around the house (figuratively), but Jade Lily has been here for all my storms.
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Kris Ritter
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10-06-2005 00:42
From: Jonquille Noir
Thankfully that isn't an issue for me. The closest I have to a SL partner is a RL partner who is also in SL. And if he gets uppity and unsupportive, I can go kick him.


How does it work the other way round? Does he get miffed when you roll your eyes disdainfully at his latest poo-flinging flying toilet project?
Eddie Escher
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Join date: 11 Jul 2003
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10-06-2005 02:07
How can anyone roll their eyes at that, Kris? Siggy has taken toilet humour to a whole new level! :D

Fallingwater and I both feel exceptionally lucky having a partner who is creative. We both get a kick out of seeing each others latest creations. Its a big thing in our lives.
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Siggy Romulus
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10-06-2005 02:14
From: Kris Ritter
How does it work the other way round? Does he get miffed when you roll your eyes disdainfully at his latest poo-flinging flying toilet project?


Newp! If she rolls her eyes it generally means I'm heading in the right direction!
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Rose Karuna
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10-06-2005 06:27
Only when it interferes with his RL dinner. :rolleyes: :p
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Omaire Abattoir
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Join date: 26 Jun 2004
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10-06-2005 06:36
Nope.

She's my number one supporter and thinks I'm way cooler than I really am.

She rocks.

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Lordfly Digeridoo
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10-06-2005 06:41
During my last relationship, my creativity actually went UP when she was around. Maybe I just work better with a crowd or something.
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Margaret Mfume
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10-06-2005 07:19
From: Tya Fallingbridge
Its nice to see couples in RL enjoy a SL together. Only one person that I have spent time with in the last two years in this game , understood and was supportive.

If anyone is going through this, dont feel guilt over your desire to create. SL is an outlet, use it to the full extent that it offers.

This is where boy toys come in handy :P

I'm basing this on RL having nothing to go on in terms sl :D. It would seem that any relationship would likely have a better chance of longetivity if it was born of a shared project, pursuit or activity. Where'd you meet these dudes? :p

That said, the truth is that some guys tend to need control as a means of self validation and can be just as insecure about your interests as they would be about another person. Others can be very "all about me" and are cool with you doing things to keep busy when they aren't available but not very supportive when your stuff is taking too much of your (their) time. There is a breed of man who's self assuredness allows them to get past this junk. To them your creativity as well as other signs of intelligence is not just something to be supportive about but is the very essence of what attracts them to you.

Your second paragragh is a very healthy sign suggesting that you'd settle for nothing less than the last type. Others would do well to heed your advice.

As far as the last part, well, DUH!
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10-06-2005 07:39
From: Jonquille Noir
Thankfully that isn't an issue for me. The closest I have to a SL partner is a RL partner who is also in SL. And if he gets uppity and unsupportive, I can go kick him.


me too...and it hasn't been an issue. we have different interests in sl, and let each other do our thing. :D
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Jonquille Noir
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10-06-2005 08:10
From: Siggy Romulus
Newp! If she rolls her eyes it generally means I'm heading in the right direction!


Sad, but true. My usual response is, "Oh.. lord..." and he knows he'll have a hit on his hands.

Siggy and I also have different interests in SL, which works for us. I have a built-in person to test stuff on, without having someone hanging around wanting attention all day.
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Katt Kongo
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10-06-2005 10:21
Most of the time when I mention an idea, Phoenix jumps right in and brainstorms with me. The only time he was not very enthusiastic about something I wanted to do was when I was thinking of holding an auction to raise money for victims of Hurricane Karina. But I went ahead and did it anyway. :D

I'm blessed to have someone in my SL who thinks I am the "Katt's Meow."
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Pypo Chung
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10-06-2005 10:28
From: Lordfly Digeridoo
During my last relationship, my creativity actually went UP when she was around. Maybe I just work better with a crowd or something.



You just like being certer of attention most the time lordfly ^_^ hehe We cant blame ya at all for it tho :D
Fey Brightwillow
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Join date: 17 Mar 2003
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10-06-2005 11:25
Interesting poll I thought.

My SL partner is very supportive and I hope he feels I am the same for him. I am his biggest fan *winks* I believe we inspire each other and work together on some things even. :)
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Satchmo Prototype
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10-06-2005 11:34
My soon to be wife joined my team and has become our premier scripter :) Now we get to feed off each other's SL creativity.
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Tya Fallingbridge
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Join date: 28 Aug 2003
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10-06-2005 11:39
From: Margaret Mfume
I'm basing this on RL having nothing to go on in terms sl :D. It would seem that any relationship would likely have a better chance of longetivity if it was born of a shared project, pursuit or activity. Where'd you meet these dudes? :p

That said, the truth is that some guys tend to need control as a means of self validation and can be just as insecure about your interests as they would be about another person. Others can be very "all about me" and are cool with you doing things to keep busy when they aren't available but not very supportive when your stuff is taking too much of your (their) time. There is a breed of man who's self assuredness allows them to get past this junk. To them your creativity as well as other signs of intelligence is not just something to be supportive about but is the very essence of what attracts them to you.

Your second paragragh is a very healthy sign suggesting that you'd settle for nothing less than the last type. Others would do well to heed your advice.

As far as the last part, well, DUH!


You made my day with your response :)
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Baccara Rhodes
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10-06-2005 12:49
I think I speak for both Mash and I when I say that we support & compliment each other in all our projects and work. We are constantly looking for exciting new things to do and bring to our world.
With Home Depoz, Spellbound and other business projects, each day is a delight. Working together has been even better than it was before when we worked separately.

The trick is to find a balance though, and find some time to just stop and have some fun as well. Step back and remember to just be there for each other. For me, having someone as wonderful as Mash, thats a very easy thing to do.

I see that my partner Fey has also posted...

How lucky are we both (Fey and I?)
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Trasgo Mysterio
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10-06-2005 15:02
I feel it is important to find someone that fully supports all your creative endeavors. Someone that can be your partner and your muse certainly seems like a rare find these days, but what a wonderful amalgamation of character that is.
Lisse Livingston
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Join date: 16 May 2004
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10-06-2005 16:50
My SL/RL partner logged on last night and surprised me by requesting to come over to where I was building my latest architectural creation.

We spent some time diagnosing a really odd problem with the floor where a small area of a single prim seemed to be phantom (about a 2m wide area at the edge of an 8m x 10m prim) - see the attachment for a cute picture of us floating in the floor! Then my partner suggested a loft bedroom and helped me decide on the placement.

After about 20 minutes, my partner admitted that building brought up stressful feelings, and logged off, but I was grateful for the company and shared problem-solving. My creativity is supported to the extent that I need it to be supported.

The only disturbing aspect is that we were just 15 feet apart in RL during the whole time, and yet spoke not a word...
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10-06-2005 17:03
I completely support my SL partner in any project he gets involved in. I enjoy watching him at work.

Great thread btw, I enjoyed reading most of the replies.

MJ :)
Phoenix Psaltery
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10-06-2005 18:24
Katt has always been the most encouraging person. Whether I am dealing with things like graphic design, writing my column or an article, building, or whatever it might be.

I could not possibly ask for someone more loving and understanding than my personal Queen Of Second Life, Katt Kongo.

I love you, baby doll.

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10-06-2005 18:30
From: Katt Kongo
Most of the time when I mention an idea, Phoenix jumps right in and brainstorms with me. The only time he was not very enthusiastic about something I wanted to do was when I was thinking of holding an auction to raise money for victims of Hurricane Karina. But I went ahead and did it anyway. :D

I'm blessed to have someone in my SL who thinks I am the "Katt's Meow."


Yup. And see, what does that tell you -- that little auction thingy brought in nearly L$900,000 for hurricane relief and has spawned several imitators. So that tells me I'm not nearly as smart as Katt seems to think I am. (Nor as sexy, for that matter, but shhhhhhh, don't tell her.) But she IS the Katt's meow. Definitely. Smart AND sexy -- and I haven't the slightest idea what I did to deserve someone as wonderful as her.

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Merwan Marker
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10-06-2005 19:28
I'm not a good SL partner to Mercurious. I really am not.

...

I'm not certain why this is - she's been so wonderful to me in SL - loving, fun, always encouraging me to come inWorld... She has always been very supportive of me. First with Awakening Avatars, then SLEx (hell, she really was very influential - gave me many names of people to approach regarding listing their creations for the initial launch), was the designer, and builder of my living platform in Kelham and, with River Donovan the builder of the first SLEx commerce center. And when The Troubles began, she was amazingly supportive - spending hours with me, loving me, helping my healing process, then giving me the perception of love that really was essential for my moving forward and finding forgiveness within.

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I can't even get it together to marry her - to focus to write vows, to be the partner worthy of her, to embrace the world she wants with me here.

...

No excuses - just the truth - I'm not a SL good partner to Mercurious.


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