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Hi, I'm a Newbie, so go easy on me.

When I log in all the friends I have in My Friends folder are notified that I am online. Some then may decide to drop in and TP to me. This is usually welcome, but there are times when I am making something and don't want to be disturbed, or in a delicate situation that I do not wish any of my friends to see me in (you know what I mean). So my questions are:

1. Can I inhibit My Friends from being alerted when I log in? or,

2. Can I login anonymously? or,

3. Can I make myself invisible to My Friends?

My last question is on a slightly different topic. I did not like the way a friendship was going, so I deleted the person from My Friends.

4. Is that person notified of me having deleted them from My Friends?

Many thanks

Rock Ryder

1. Can I inhibit My Friends from being alerted when I log in? AFAIK, No.

2. Can I login anonymously? No.

3. Can I make myself invisible to My Friends? No.

4. Is that person notified of me having deleted them from My Friends? No. Well, AFAIK.

Most people will put in their profiles something like this:

Map+TP=removal from friends list

It's quite rude just to TP to someone, and frankly, with that tactless move, I'd remove them anyways, since they do not respect me or my time.

1. Can I inhibit My Friends from being alerted when I log in? No.

2. Can I login anonymously? No, but see note below about using an alt.

3. Can I make myself invisible to My Friends? No.

My last question is on a slightly different topic. I did not like the way a friendship was going, so I deleted the person from My Friends.

4. Is that person notified of me having deleted them from My Friends? Yes. They get a message saying you no longer want to be their friend.

If you don't want friends mapping you and teleporting themselves to you without asking permission first, tell each one, politely, that doing that is a good way to get removed from your Friends list. It tales very little effort to IM a friend and ask "May I join you?", and is far more polite than just appearing out of nowhere.

The only way to 'hide from your friends' is to create an alt account, make no friends with that alt, and tell no one that alt is associated with your main account. A lot of people do that when they want to practice building or want to explore, and don't want to be bothered.

I never get that message, and I'm sure someone has removed me in all my gametime. Is there a setting for this? Not saying you aren't right, I'm sure you are, I'm simply asking why I never get that.

God only knows how many friends I've made and deleted after not speaking with them for a long time. I would think someone would have removed me.

Absolutly,the message is gone since a few months

I've gotten that message at least once, but they may have ceased doing that. I'll admit it's been a while since I got one. I'll have to check by 'unfriending' someone while they are with me in SL, and see what they get, if anything.

As a courtesy, I usually will tell someone just before I remove them from my Friends list. Usually I am removing them because I am weeding it down, and honestly can't recall the last time I talked to that person, or even who they are! I get a lot of offers of friendship as part of showing people around or helping them with SL, and often I never see that person again. I'll also get a lot of Friend links because I was deailing with a customer service issue for someone, and later, after that has long since been resolved, I have no reason to remain in touch.

The message about removing a freind only gets sent if that freind is online at the time. IF they are offline, they get no message. It is not store, nor sent via IM (so no e-mail). They'll still have your Card but will not have you on thier list anymore.

~Jessy

Yes, would be nice to have an option to check for notifying all on my friends list when I'm online...or not notifying them.

Also busy mode without it appearing above the head would be nice. I don't like to be in a romantic setting with someone with busy showing beside my name so I leave it off and just ignore IM's if I need to. A (busy) following the name in the friends list would be nice too.

On a similar note, if you remove someone from your friends list will they still be able to see when you sign on and off and will they still be able to map you? Or is this dependent on them removing you from their list?

If you remove someone from your friends list, then you are automatically removed from their list too.

I don't have a friends list, just a 'People I have spoken once to' list

I double checked this. When you remove someone from your Friends list, they do not get a message, and you are also removed from their friends list. They do, however, retain a 'calling card' for you, and you retain one for them.

Thanks for the responses. I also checked it out for myself. It does make sense that if you delete them it would also delete you, guess i was just surprised looking at my list that some of the "people I talked to once" still had me on their lists. =)

If you delete their calling card on your list, does it delete your card from their list?

Personally, I wish they'd remove this feature of you being able to be mapped. It's rude, annoying and bothersome to be mapped, yet it happens everyday to people all over.

I don't see the benefit of this. Instead the flipsize is large with arguments. broken friendships and harrassments caused by mapping.

No, but if you delete your last calling card for a person, you get removed from each other`s Friends list. You can have Calling Cards without being Friends, but you can`t be Friends without having Calling Cards.

Or give us the option to turn mapping on and off, either for periods of time or better yet for individual "friends". There are times that I don't mind friends dropping in and other times that it could be a bit awkward. Then there are some people that I don't mind having on my friends list but am not happy about them just showing up when I am busy with other things.

That would be great. I had a guy that I danced with once keep IMing me one day from the second I logged on, and when I wouldn't answer he just showed up where I was. Luckily I wasn't in a compromising position (YKWIM). That just really pissed me off, and he's no longer my friend. Who do people think they are that because you talked to them once they can follow you around like a puppy dog. yeesh! LOL

One thing you can try is exchanging cards. I make a folder inside of the cards folder for different situations, i.e. neighors, a certain club or an event I go to on a regular basis. When someone offers me friendship, I say, can we exchange cards instead? This way I still have a way to contact the person plus I can remember them better when I put them in a folder that has a reference but they can't track me. It takes time to explain, but if more people did this, it would catch on.

The other advantage is that you can make copies of the cards and put them in an IM folder and if you want to create a "chat room" with a group of people, you can click on the folder and chat with just the people whose cards are in the folder.

ooooo.. good idea!

I've got a couple of serial friender/unfriender "friends" and definitely don't get notifications when they remove me. If they did, I'd stop letting them re-friend me (as it stands, I find the continuing soap opera amusing). I did however get an email last week when somebody I haven't spoken to in four months defriended me:

"[13:02] Second Life: Your privilege to modify [name omitted]'s objects has been revoked."

It took me a few minutes to realise I'd had modify objects permission all this time, and the friend deletion automatically revoked it, triggering that message.

One nice benefit is if you are wandering around with someone, sometimes it is easy to lose track of them. The beacon is really helpful then, instead of your having to constantly ask for TPs or, "where are you?"

Most can keep up but for those who don't, they have to map a few times anyways to get a correct location, and if they are flying around, by the time you tp to them, they aren't there anyways! I'd rather have them tp me there a few times, knowing I'm desired there, than to be exploring one of my.... umm... adult contented areas and have some friend of mine show up. Kinda kills the mood.... Although, it's not like I visit those places often.

I do a general rule of thumb even if I ask for a tp. I will map them and see if there are 20+ people around, then I'll ask. If it's them and like 1-5 other avs... yeah.. I won't even ask.

I would absolutely love it if we could hide our online status since sometimes I don't want all my friends to track my moves every time I log on. Is this something that can be administered in the near future? We can do this kind of thing on Yahoo! Messenger and it can be a Godsend.

Thanks!

Or even better, Map+TP = Mute.