My Final Good-Bye

After an almost 3 month break from SL I tried to come back. What I found was the man that I married was in anothers arms soon after I left, probably within weeks. I know my leaving hurt him but we kept in touch on msn. Even three days ago he was telling me he loves me and I need to realize he is going nowhere. Yesterday I see his alt profile and his engagement to another. If you know me you know the terrible time he had to get me to marry him so you will understand how this makes me feel to know he was with another so soon while talking to me on msn. I don't hate him and honestly do wish him and her the best. I just don't like lies and deceit. I'm moving on, not sitting here crying, well not too much. I will be loggin in probably two more times to wrap things up, couldn't finish it this morning. Send me a pm for my email and msn if you want to keep in touch. Love you SL!!

P.S. no, there are no alts for me. Mysturuy is being cancelled too and I will not be making a new one.

As The World Turns...

- Ace

The world will always smile on lovers..... as time goes by....

SL has the ability to reinforce or tear down people emotionally, and I'm saddened that the latter is the case.

Take care, Asha.

Welcome to my drama. This is my way of closing a chapter of my life, if you don't like it continue to the next post pls

Out of curiousity...if what you described happened in RL, would you have also "left" the RL?

aww Asha *hugs*

I am curious if this person was the only reason you were staying in SL? If not, the world is getting bigger every day. You could always mute him and try to avoid him till the hurt wears off.

If he was your only reason for being in SL though, then I understand your wanting to leave.

All the best to you no matter what you do!

Exactly, leaving SL wont cure drama nor will it help you find a 'safe' relationship.

Hmmm, my mind can't conceive of this happening in RL...I mean...is it even possible? I'm not sure I even understand your question. Would I kill myself if I found my husband cheating during a seperation? Been there done that, still alive. I did move out of state though....still don't think I'm following your thoughts.

Noooo Maxx, does it hurt, yes! Hell yes. I'm a strong woman and this will make me stronger. God I've been through worse. Please don't feel sorry for me any of you. I'm moving on and am going to be absolutely fine. I just realize I have to close this book to do that so consider this the final pages. Maxx, you're one of my very favorite people I've met here. I've always loved the way you carry yourself and I have a lot of respect for you. Pls know that I'm not torn down emotionally, just wounded. But like my profile says I've also done the wounding.

*huggs Maxx* I hope you keep in touch!

Asha!! Will miss you much! Be strong hon *Hugz*

Which post is actually your final goodbye?

I'm a little puzzled by this. The guy works hard at your relationship, works hard to get you to marry him in SL, and then you leave, and expect him to not find another woman, but instead pine away for you and place you on an alter?

Did you have an agreeement with him when you left that said he would wait for you to come back and not see anyone else??

How was he cheating?

I experienced a similar incident in SL. After an 8 month relationship with a wonderful women in SL, where we were partners in everything, lovers and friends, she left, with little more than a one paragraph email telling me she was leaving SL, and wasn't sure if she would ever be back.

While I didn't immediately jump into another relationship, by rights I certainly could have, and it wouldn't have been cheating or lying. I was the one left standing there.

Maybe my take on this is all wrong. Maybe he did tell you he would wait for you to return. And in that case he should have been honest with you if he decided not to and told you up front. But if you just left him standing there, then you have no right to complain or call him a cheater.

And Asha, if he was your only reason for being in SL, then I could see whay you would leave. But time will heal your wounds, and there are tons of great folks in SL, probably even some great guys , so perhaps you should find a few friends to hang with that can distract you, and give it some time.

P.S. - Sorry..I guess you didn't call him a cheater, you just implied that he was deceitful and lying.

asha you are one of my oldest friends in sl ,its saddens me to see you go.. its funny how someone you never met in rl can leave such a impact on your heart. but i for 1 know the pain you are going thru right now, be strong hon.
if you need some1 to talk to you know how to get intouch with me i will always be there for you.

i love ya asha and will miss you *hugs*

Awwww Asha! I know how much of a rough time you went through before you got married and how terribly hard it was for you.

I am reaaaaaaally sad to see you go, hit me up with a PM and gimme your msn details hun.

Or... add me >.>

[email]Squishee18@yahoo.co.uk[/email]

*huggggs*

Don't confuse me, I know it's this one...or the next...you'll be the first to know k?

Willow....girl...BIG huggs! Brave girl posting your addy here and since I look up to you as always I'll post mine too

[email]Mysturuy@comcast.net[/email]

Keep having fun Willow and showing others great times like you're so good at, love ya!

Moved to Notices and Well-Wishes.

Assshhaaaaa don't leaaave, who's gonna save me from sunny?
and the snow monkeys with high heels?

I'll misss yoooooou

LOL Frostie...there's always paste ya know.

*Just looks at David and laughs, hard*

Asha, I'm sorry things did'nt work out for you. You are one of the nicest people I've met. Good luck to you, and take care!

I know exactly what your going through, I went through a break up that was basicaly 2 weeks of being ignored, lied to, or only being given half the truth, and by the time it was finaly over it could of all been said in one 10 min conversation. After that i realized that SL started to represent nothing but pain...its a stupid game why should it make anybody feel this way? but luckily you can uninstall, you can walk away, and if you feel anything like i do, you know your so much better off like this. good luck.

Fish again Asha

want some worms?

Consider staying.

SL isn't virtual "play house". There's plenty of ways to discover yourself as an individual here.