Offline....oh really...are they really offline? lol

Hey, I was looking through the Resident Answers forum and came upon two good suggestions.

1) If a user makes it so that a friend cannot see them online in world...this decision should be shown on the Second Life web page friend box also.

2) If a user decides to appear offline to lets say "Sally Joe"...then when Sally Joe instant messages this user....they will get the following message.... User not online - Message will be saved and delivered later.

Here is the thread that gave me the idea.

/327/0d/164356/1.html#post1401457

I don't think Linden Lab would want to be sending messages that say you're offline when you're not.

Maybe it would be better to modify busy mode and have it send a message like:

"The user is currently busy. Your message has been sent to their email address"

The current 'Busy' mode sends a user defined message already. But when in busy mode, we can't hear the chat from the avatars around us and instant messages still arrive. This isn't really much use because sometimes I'm actually just busy chatting one to one.

I find it really frustrating to be trying to chat (avatar to avatar) and have some control freak in IM mode whining at me for not responding. Believe me, I've had this on quite a few occasions. Some people will take it very personal if you don't respond quick enough.

In the real world we can turn our cell phones off. Why the hell don't we have this option here?.

It reeeeeeally pisses me off!.

I sometimes think it's down to social engineering from Linden Lab, or rather - Phil the closet sociologist. Yet I would actually be more sociable if I could disable IM mode. Right now I'm afraid to chat with people because of the flood of IM's that often follow the next day. Then followed by several days of gently trying to tell my new friends to piss off and stop IM'ing me.

Don't get me wrong. I love people, but hell, I can't talk to everybody in SL at once!

I feel socially stifled when in Second Life.


To sum up:

The more "friends" you have, the more instant messages you get.

Instant Message Mode=Bad!




Okay, I'm off to breathe into a paper bag now. Byeee!

Well, with some kind of new message (without going into busy mode) the person annoying you would get this message and not say things like ....."Come on 2k suisei....I KNOW YOU'RE ONLINE WHY AREN'T YOU ANSWERING ME!?" lol

If someone starts whining tell them to "Shut up, go away, I'm busy doing something else."

I guess.

But people like to think they're special. Hell, I like them to think so too. So I'd rather not have to be constantly put in the situation where I have to spoil their special feeling.



Now Draco!, you better reply to post this instantly! Or you'll be in trouble, boy!! My ego is on the line here. Or should that be online?

Hmm....

* thinks *

What about?:

"In order to protect your ego, the user is pretending to be offline".?

Naaaah, they'd never fall for it...

I better hit the quote button and reply!

I understand about people feeling special, I mean I do get annoyed that someone I'm talking with doesn't reply within a reasonable time limit (5 to 20 minutes depending on how much other stuff I'm doing at the time). If they don't I poke them to see if their still alive, and if I don't get a responce in my reasonable time limit I assume they went AFK and I close the window and think nothing more of it.
If it's someone who I haven't been chatting with I send an initial message and hope for a reply, if I don't get one in my reasonable time limit, I close the window and think nothing more of it (ussually I'll get a responce within an hour because they went out for food or what not, occationally they'll fall offline, sometimes I don't get a responce until the next day).
I RARELY have something so important that I'll get an ego wound for silence.

You people out there who get upset:
Get a life and find someone else to talk to. There are things in the world more important than you and your ego, despite evidence to the contrary.