True Pixel Love

Since SL is down.. and its Summer Break.. im bored out of my mind.. so I sat here and pondered until my buzz wore off..

And i thought -- ive read a lot of SL profiles.. sometimes i get insanely bored; but one thing that never ceases to amaze me is how frequently and how quickly people get over their "True SL soul mates."

Profiles are often wreaking of prim perfume and love sworn to forever be true - that is until next week's flavour arrives.. It amazes me how people can quickly replace their "one and onlys" with the next "here and lonely."

I, personally, find attachment to be a bitch.. Any thoughts?

Yea I agree, I also find it amazing how easily "partners" are replaced in game. Makes you wonder, if they replace their partner in RL just as easily, and if so... imagine the STD's they must be carrying... LOL


Scary!

Last I checked, this was just a factor of internet dating - not Second Life.

hmmmm, yeah, I've seen a lot of here today/gone tomorrow SL love but I have also noticed a lot of SL-RL interaction and lasting friendships. Love is difficult in real life and so so easy in SL, too easy perhaps, but let's not lose sight of the fact that it is make believe until you actually talk to your 'partner' outside of the SL environment, and my guess is, with cams and mics most people who are somewhat serious will go beyond SL into RL if they feel they have a connection...and my gut says that there probably is a connection between how you treat your SL partners to how you treat your RL ones....

Sorry.. i didnt do any investigative/ scientific research into the matter, nor am i familiar with internet dating.. im trying to start up a discussion here, please dont smother my flame, with your broad sweeping conclusive statements.

SL definitions 101:

STD = Scriptually Transmitted Dataloss??

I read somewhere in one of those crazy profiles about some chick there having "herpes" eeeewwww that is just soooooooooo disgusting! lol

I agree with you Rice!!!!!!

This has been brought up a few times in other threads of late.

I think its really as simple as this.

Becuase of the nature of the communication, preople slant the way things are said to be how they want them. Projection.

Thus the person becomes "perfect" for them. Soon though, once the infatuation wears off, in many/most cases they realize it wasnt what they thought. But instead of re-evualating what went on, they blame the other person and proceed to repeat the same pattern.

Ive heard it said in dating online 1 week is like a month. It does seem that many people approach it that way. I dont think is really true, but the math seems to work out with how fast things develop, how long they last, and how quickly people recover.

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Would also like to not that a completely Opposite projection seems to work on forums. Some people, no matter what you say assume the WORST possible meaning.

LOL - u agree with not smothering my flame, or you agree that all ppl are replaceable?

Collette, I agree with you that pixel relationships are set on fast forward, with the occasional freeze frame. But, you must admit, it makes for a great laugh when a person i ssoooooo in love and talking about RL.. and at next glance.. they are soooooo out of love and moved on to the next victim cum lover.

there are always exceptions...one of them is the love between Vanillia Tapioca and her RL husband....even though I don't know them personally, I'm inspired by their love in both worlds

All the time. Add in the fantasy element in SL, and what they're doing is projecting their fantasies.


Easy come easy go?

We can't make generalizations here. I know a number of people, including myself, who have become adept at compartmentalizing their online lives from their RL lives. Others either have a void they're seeking to fulfill and aren't making the best choice to get it filled, or else they're still maturing and haven't realized that loving someone involves more than logging on for a few hours a day of poseball cuddling.


I think it's probably even faster than that. Online communication is closer to the speed of thought.

You know, I wasnt even gonna bring the element of a RL relationship into this equation, but since many of you have commented on RL relationships.. i feel this sudden urge to add my 2 cents worth.

I know its been said that some ppl can compartmentalize (big word) and separate their RL from their SL.. but i could never justify telling 2 men simultenously that I love them.

I do admire the ppl that are able to carry their RL relationships in game and be able to share an SL experience with a RL partner.. but sometimes.. when i notice ppl are married in rl and partnered up with someone else in game.. and their RL partner plays.. it really does make me go .. not that theres anything wrong with, its just not the course of action id prefer.

My favorite online romancers are the ones who have a real life husband or wife, but still profess their undying love for an online man/woman everyday.

This humour is intensified when the person's RL partner plays the game with them and are confessing their undying love for someone else. .. I knew one couple that helped each other cyber their SL mates.

Eh? Just bringing it up as a point. You're more than welcome to your own discussion, so I'll shut up.

Isnt it just SICK!?!?
Its just so funny how some ppl start building castles in the sky, (knowing they have a rl relationship) and start confessing how in love with you that person is, saying "oh how i wish i wasnt married in rl... yadda yadda yadda" but then they let you go cuz they cant handle the fire... they get burned... and then they get a new flavor of the week and they start the same sequence over and over again... Fulfilling a feeling that they cant get in real life? no, i just think is just a sick mind that likes to play with other ppls feelings

OK now I knew one lady that attended her rl husbands online wedding to another woman ( wow that sounds confusing).... but cybering WOW. Maybe they are swingers??

Snickers n walks out of thread...thanks for the laugh this morning

Shadow

And I totally agree with you. Thats just an excuse! I dont care if its a game or not. I wouldn't disrespect my partner that way. Cheating is cheating

My generalizations reguard mainly those people who Yoyo date and have serial "true loves" since that was the OP's question.

Wouldnt those people of whom you speak NOT fit into the catagory to whom this thread is addressed? If they are only looking for fun they wont have "true pixel love" and thus the yoyo "true online love" dating wouldnt apply to them then.

Not sure its fair to say that you can not have love only off-line either. Perhaps I am misreading what you are saying about "a few hours a day of poseball cuddling" it comes off Kind of dismissive.

And im saying that as a person who really doesnt get the marry once a month idea either.

I dont like crtiquing maturity either in such a way. For eveyone in a wonderful RL marriage one day , can be a Lonely Divorcee a year later.

Would such a person NO longer be mature if she dated online and hoped to feel love?

But like Rice said... it gets even worst when the rl partner helps in the whole situation... like i would say in spanish "se forma un arroz con mango" ... and the problems start arising... they get burned... and cant handle the fire...
And the funny part is that they wont ever learn the lesson, and keep on to the next victim... Now i ask myself, do they not have feelings? or do they have a sick rotten mind?

Looks at quote...looks at name......

Looks at quote......Looks at name.......

Snorts coke all over plasma screen....ok where is that plasma cleaner dang it.

Walks back out of thread laughing even harder now.

Shadow

Well cheating is cheating, reguardless, we had like 10 page thread on that already , its off topic I think of the original thread.

Personally though that person will have to live with their actions THEMSELVES.

If they lie and profess things that arent true or lie about being married and profess love, then they are wronging that other person.

Someone who says "I wish I wasnt married so I could be with you RL" is going MUCH farther then an online dating situation. It is saying the same thing that single people in online relationships who start making plans for a RL meeting.

At some point relationships either come to a peaceful Online only equilibrium, last a while and end. (I know one thats two years old btw , so this can be a long time)

OR - move to real life situation.

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Beleive it or not Some People Beleive it is possible to love more than one person at the same time its also possible to love someone but not want to move on to a real life relationship with them.

Whether or not others agree , isnt really the point.

have to admit I thought the same thing about the name you are commenting on