where to find sl parents

I am just wondering how does one go about getting a family in secondlife such as I want parents, what do I have to do to get this.

Hmm... I think you would have to find people who want to roleplay as your parents. Then for most believability, you could pick ones with the same last name as you. However, if the parent is created now, your birth date will be older than theirs.

Do a search for 'adoption'. There are some adoption agencies out there - some much better than others so shop around and ask questions.

Lmao!

I'm gonna assume yer playin' a kid. If your an adult avatar, well, it might be a bit different.

First off, many kids go through adoption agencies. Look for Gateway Clinic, among a whole lotta others. Also, you can sometimes just end up finding potential folks out and about (I did!) or through other kids who might know a person or two who are interested.

Mari
(Who has the bestest mommy an daddy on the whole grid)

In addition to what Mari said, I suggest you add something to your profile that says you are looking for a family.

I would avoid the adoption places unless you are feeling impatient.
Just mention it to your friends, and put something about it in your profile.
Best yet, hang out with some kids and see if any of them already have a family and want a brother or sister. This gives you a leg up, because you know that the parents already have experience working with kids. In other words, some other kid has already tested them out I know this isn't really fair to the childless parents on waiting lists, but unfortunately in my observation many adults THINK they want kids but they might not really understand what that entails.

Finally, while you are waiting, do the most important part. Spend some time thinking about what kind of family you want. Even if you feel flexible when you think hard about it you may have something in mind you didn't even realize. SL people come in all shapes in a sizes, and families are as different as the people who decide to come together and RP them. Every [decent] adoption application form will ask you this question, so you might as well prepare it now.

also, don't discount current friends, some of them may be interested...

lil girl me has several aunts and uncles that look out for her and some friends to play with... parents... currently unknown

It's just tragic...

...all those FIC oldbies with dark pasts, leaving young unmarried noob mothers weeping and crying with just $L 35 and a child avatar to support - no WONDER society has such problems!

So many young gals just trying to make some $L and put some prims on the table, going into escorting and other related businesses, and then this.

There are ten million stories on the grid, and this is an all too common theme.

Think of the prim babies!

It's rife in all communities. When was the last time you've seen a Gorean driving the kids to school? Furs have large litters too, and many have very free lifestyles yet this problem is never mentioned is it?

I hope you find your parents. Who knows, your real name may have been Omega or Chung - if I were you, I'd check around and maybe check for avatar paternity.

Perhaps you have some evidence. A brand mark on your upper arm, perhaps a child's music box with the Caledon tartan, perhaps soft dark cat ears with a streak of white, just like your mother's?

There are registries where you can get people's avatar UUID and then you can compare it to your own.

*looks around*

And no, I never had yiff with that catgirl...

*shifts eyes*

Dat was kinda sorta how I got my mommy in the first place, though it wasn't intentional. One of my cousins -- who happens to be a very close RL friend -- lived on the same land with my aunt an uncle, and I had come by to visit. My mommy already had experience with my cousins, and was interested in having an SL kid of her own.



'tis true. We can require some investment of time an energy. C'course, dat varies depending on the people involved, but it really *isn't* something you do for a week than find something else fun to do.

An example: in our family, we meet up on a near-nightly basis and spend time together. We also regularly, frequently IM with each other. I've known some families that were more flexible than this, an some dat were very rigid, requiring a very regular committment for taking care of the kid in question.



Yup, yup. An by all means make sure the parents know your needs and vice-versa. You may even need to get some OOC time in every so often to make sure everyting is what everyone wants.



Oh ya. I have a few aunts an stuff dat are friends I've made in world, as well as a couple who were friends of mine before SL.

Mari

LOL That is funny Desmond.
Actually when I was a prim baby I was orphan I checked out those agencies but truthfully I was uncomfortable with them so I decided to be orphan and wander around on my own.
I even went to Amstradam when I was prim baby and found out that certain tattoo's had nothing do with the four legged kitty's.
I hung out with kids and parents in SL but it didn't really work well for me.
Eventually I grew up to small elf and I have friends.
I don't role play any role well so it didn't entirely work out for me.
My current closest friends get bit creeped out when I drag out the Asian baby avatar.

I'd be curious to know how children such as yourself choose the right agency, along with the right family.

I'm not one to roleplay much of anything - the interest is merely due to the fact that one such agency is in close vacinity to my own land, and the legitimacy of the agency as a *non-sexual* ageplay meeting place is of question.

I don't really want to name names here, but suffice it to say that the owner of the establishment appears to have prior history in the SL ageplay/sex trade.

To what extent should these agencies be required to show that they are not promoting sexual ageplay? Should passersby just turn a blind eye as long as the establishment itself claims to be within the lines of the SL TOS?

Your thoughts would be much appreciated.

I hung out when I was a baby Avatar at different places like Adoption Agencies.
I read their note cards, I listen and watched how people interacted with each other.
I never noticed anything unlawful but did run into somethings I was personally uncomfortable with.
For being a kid or baby personally was a part of my story of growing up as a Avatar, like a personal history.
Sexual parts never been more then a joke for me nor something I am really been seriously interested in as resident.
One of the major things one agency really bothered me about as new person and baby was how they went on and on a notecard about Children taking advantage of SL parents.

Papa?

smh.... SL families = unnecessary drama. You'll find that out the hard way.

Mew?

"Unnecessary" for some, but desired by others. (Admittedly, I'm not up to it, but I get angst enough with RL families--and not even my own! )

In a brief period scripting for an adoption agency, I learned that it's really difficult to keep a supply of good parents; the kids are relatively easier to find.

Most of the failed adoption trials seemed to be the result of timing problems, more than anything else: different in-world schedules, often exacerbated by different timezones, or different expectations of time commitment to the family setting.

Another problem was siblings: if a kid wants undivided parental attention, it'll be hard to get in a large family. On the other hand, some kids seemed to get more out of the relationships with their sibs than with their parents, but in any case, siblings are often part of the picture to consider. Indeed, compatible playmates often end up happy siblings--this may be the easiest way to find a good family.

... Oh, I just noticed Aki's mention of sexual age-play and agencies. The thing is, agencies can do very little, practically, to ensure this never ever happens. The agency I mentioned put up big scary signs (maybe too scary, now that I think about it; maybe it made good potential parents uncomfortable to think they were inherently "under suspicion" or something). On the other hand, this is less a problem than one might expect: while an adoption agency has this big supply of kids, it would take a particularly stupid pedophile to go through a trial adoption, all on the agency's records. Of course, if the agency itself is just a "front" it would be a completely different situation--but one easily enough determined, I'd think, by any parent or child who got involved with the agency.

Put any group of people together regardless of the appearance of the Avatar and their will always be some type of misunderstanding, stressful event which often equals to some type of drama.
Life is often like that even Second Life.
Even if you avoided all relationships of any type their would be some type of drama that would slip in at some point.

My best friend in SL is a guy and since we don't have a romantic relationship I wanted to make sure he knew how much I cared about him. I asked him to be my SL brother - and of course the benefits of having a younger brother to abuse is one of the reasons! But he ignores me like a little brother! So far it's fine. I may go in search of a sister soon but since I'm an adult I'm not looking for a mother or father ...a sugar daddy maybe..if he's rich..and lives in a mansion with a bathroom and a kitchen...and likes to buy me pretty things!! LOL

Can be, at times. Isn't that the case in any type of relationship?



'tis true!



One of my Aunties told me a lot about dat, ya. You gotta have compatible sc hedules, else it can fall apart really quick. Especially early on.



A couple of the agencies I've checked out over time have had stuff about that on their intake form. It's important to know what size family one wants to be in, an to have parents who are willing to go for that. I'm happy with having my sis an my brother, but i"m not sure how well it would work for me with more around. I've known some who require being an only child, and others who prefer huuge families.



Contact me in-world. I'd love to check this place out and see what's going on.

Mari

Midnight, not a sound from the pavement

Has the moon lost her memory?

She is smiling alone

In the lamplight

The withered leaves collect at my feet

And the wind

Begins to moan...

Memory, turns her face to the moonlight,
I can smile at the old days,
I was beautiful then.
I remember the time I knew what happiness was.
Let the memory live again.

I've been in SL a year now, and I have really, utterly, no clue as to what this thread is about...

It's about ageplay, which has now been narrowly defined by Linden Lab as a violation of the Terms of Service, I'm sorry to say..

No it's not. It's about people who wish to roleplay children in family situations, which is entirely legitimate. Not everyone who RPs children do so for sexual purposes.

P2

Ah, but the eyes illuminated

By the flickering moonlight

Glittering like jewels

As the wind sighs

I hear their mews.