People who live togther is SL - how do you handle the prims?

If you and your lady (or boy) friend are sharing the same parcel of land (the answer to this may depend on who'd payng the rent/bills!) how do you handle the who rezzes what and who has what prims situation?

Ideally (for me) there would be an option in the World menu to allows a named avatar to use a fixed pre-set amount of prims, so everyone had their limits.

You (example) may be tweeking your builds to squeeze out each little extra prim to save, and then your other half supprises you with a Satue of an elephant that soaks up 200 prims in one hit, and it cost a lot of money so your stuck.

It would be cool to set named avatars and personal prim lmits within the 1 parcel, but I know that's not possible now.

So how do you handle this, and does it cause problems on your parcel ?

Geez, if you're living with someone and can't work out this little issue, I'd say you've got bigger problems than prims.

Have to agree. I would think that most of the stuff rezzed would be approved by both people. Just as in RL when picking out furniture for your home. Maybe a couple of odds and ends that are tolerated by the other. But for the most part I would think it would be all agreed upon no? Personally,I would never live with anyone in SL. I am a prim hog and refuse to share.

/me thinks most guys are going to do what ever it takes to keep the lady of the house happy.

Piggie, if you're on good terms then it should no be an issue who contributes which prim. Deed the parcel to a common group and share.

If you aren't on good terms, then go for separate parcels. This prevents a lot of unnecessary drama.

Yeah, I'd have to agree with Honey.

Prims is such small potatoes.

Hmm …. I believe the word is called “Communications” Like having a conversation with your other half on this subject. Just like in the real world!!!!

If it becomes a big enough problem, and you own the land, just draw a big red line down the middle, and cut it into two parcels. This side is yours...that side is his.

Or maybe that's not what you're looking for?

he he....

I know my posting may have come over a bit bad sounding

I think though it would be cool to "allocate" avatars prims (save arguments !!) LOL

You know what I mean though, some people "get" the whole prims thing more than others.

Myself I'm a bit of a savng prims junkie and will hunt around and often not buy the items I really wanted due to it's prims value, or makie something myself as I think I can do it a different way and save 2 or 3 prims from the 20 prim item.

If I "was" living with someone, and my saving prims in mind, I'd have a hard time accepting a 200+ prim statue just cos it looked pretty!



Unless I had 15,000 to play with of course! LOL

If your going to argue over prims then maybe you should not be sharing a home.

I live with a wonderful man and he built the house and landscaped it, I decorated the inside I have use more prims than him but then we both use all that is in it.
We also have spare prims so he can rez his boat or plane and i can rez what i wish. We have been living together for 2 yrs now and we still get along fine

I have a little more than a quarter of a sim, which I pay for. My Partner and a dozen or so friends all call my castle and lands their homes. Some of them even have their own personal skyboxes or homes set up on my parcel. But most of the prims are mine, set up for everyone to use. The others only use between 50 and 250 prims each, while I have over 3000.

For us, it works. But I've been pretty careful in planning the stuff that I build and the purchased content that I leave set up in-world, so that we can all enjoy it. As a result, most of the others don't really need to rez much of their own stuff in-world and leave it set up.

Piggie, the obvious solution if you run out of prims is to move to a bigger parcel. Luckily that's much easier done in SL than in RL.

what I should of asked (and to be honest would be more an issue) is HOW to do do this in-world on rented land?

If you are lucky you have the 3 land options:

1: only you can build (and you set autoretun o for the odd aircraft or boat that crashes onto your land.

2: Goup can build (which you don't want as they often means all your neighbours can make things on your land - but you could use Autoreturn set to 1 min which might be ok.

3: The whole world can build, but we don't want that.


Now then. How does your "other half" rez?

you can't set autoreturn on as their stuff will go.
you can't put them on the group as then you will have to put group on and you neighbours can rezs on your land also.
Same goes for anyone can build.

So you have to have autoreturn off

I wish they'd allow you to NAME allowed builders on a parcel.

How you can 100% secure from other peoples crap and still allow your sweetheart their freedom as well?

Splonk some real cash down, buy a decent swath of land and just be happy sharing what its got. If a man is mean with prims it means a man who is mean in other things. Its like in real; kinda man who counts teh budget down to teh matches he buys is destined for mediocrity. Dont partner with him.

Another one of many good reasons not to get hitched . . .

Pep (Only one good reason to do so)

Form a two member group, deed the land to this group. Allow build for all and set a reasonable autoreturn period.

Whatever you or your partner builds and what is set (doesn't have to be deeded) to the land owning group won't get autoreturned. You can check who has used how many prims in the "About Land" window.

Whatever someone else rezzes on the land will get autoreturned after some minutes.

Nice. Easy. Clean. Friendly to neighbours and visitors (e.g. vehicles).

Create new group for only you and sweetheart and set land to that group.
Then allow only that group to build.

I would suggest that in a land group, have an alt be a member also just so you don't lose the land in case of a break up.

Use this option, and allow the renters to deed their land to their own land group. Then you and anyone in your land group can share prims, build, and treat the land as their own. All group roles and permissions then work as they should. Plenty of private island rental landlords allow this option. If it is you renting, and your landlord won't allow this option, find a better landlord. No risk to a sim owner, as they can reclaim the land at will if you default.

On Mainland, or on a private island where the landlord is not the sim owner, a rental landlord can give their tenants almost as much leeway by allowing the land to be set, but not deeded, to a land group. The landlord keeps the parcel in their name, temporarily joins your land group, sets the land to that group, and then leaves the group. They still own it, and could reclaim the parcel if you default on rent, but at least some of the group specific permissions will work.

thanks for this "Tech" info on how to arrage it.

To be honest I never thought you woul dbe allowed to deed land to your group that was already owned by the group of your landlord

will be useful for the future (hopefully)

If I had a SL live-in lady friend or wife I'm sure we would handle the situation just like we would in RL. When an issue like this arose we would sit down and discuss it. After all, communcation is the key to a good relationship. We would both state our needs and opinions, discuss the pros and cons, and reach a decision that met both our needs.

Then, we would do what ever she wanted to do in the first place.

Did I rattle your cage?

Well, usually to deed the land to the group involves selling the parcel to the tenant and letting them deed it, OR, the landlord joining their group in a role that allows deeding land, and the landlord deeds the land, which they own directly first, to the new group.

No, you can't do that. You only may deed your own land. Sorry if I misread your post!

*Grins* Remember, it was traditionally the lady's role that SHE held all the keys to the castle!