Players In Sl

Hi is there anyone that can help me, any person who can enlighten me on what goes on in a players mind. Why do they do it.

hockey player, jazz flute player, or you mean an emotional rollercoaster big ballin' pimp n' ho player? A little clarity and I'd be happy to give you my 2L worth.


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A male who is skilled at manipulating ("playing" others, and especially at seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in sex. Possibly derived from the phrases "play him for a fool", or "play him like a violin". The term was popularized by hip-hop culture, but was commonly recognized among urban American blacks by the 1970s.

A certain class of low-rent, slack-jawed forkups has decided that backstabbing and misogyny are totally radical, so the word is sometimes used as a compliment or term of endearment between male friends, as in the greeting "what's up, player?".

Yep that is exactly what I mean, a person who is a player. Is it always about just sex

I dont think so, although that is a part of it at least when dealing with RL.. I think in SL it's more of an ego/control issue. Getting someone hot in the pants just to get your rocks off, then deciding they are no longer of much use to you as a friend or companion, may also be misinterpreted as 'playing'. For those who take SL for the adult dirty cartoon chat room that it can be, I would think there's a general consensus that one night stands are most common and even accepted by both ends.

But perhaps it's when one who is more emotionally attached and truly interested in the person behind the keyboard locks lips with one of the aforementioned types, that is when the 'playing' is felt and the relationship can be hurtful, whether you knew them 20 minutes or 20 days.

Thank you So really my next question is how do you know you have been played, can anyone give an example

This is starting to sound like Research...
If you have been played- you will know it - if you don't feel as if you have, enjoy the ride.

Honestly, that is a question with as many answers as residents. It's best not to think of Second Life as a game, though some engage in games within Second Life. It is better though of as a virtual environment, much like the environment in real life. There are many things to do and many reasons to do them. People come to Second Life to socialize, play, be entertained, as part of their business or to run one.

For me I came intrigued to the existence of such a customizable virtual experience and quickly found myself wrapped up in the social experience of it. I have made very good friends that I have become comfortable sharing my RL experiences with and who have shared theirs with me and given me guidance when I needed it, and even developed an unexpected romantic interest here. I did not come here for a relationship, but now I don't know what I would have done without my partner, she has helped me heal and grow so much from my past hardships.

To me Second Life really has become an environment where I can learn, expand my horizons in ways I could not in real life. It's a place where I can have the things I want or need that are currently out of my reach. A place where I can spend time with my partner that I truly love very much and she me, and we can share a home and our experiences.

No it is not research, and you know my problem is I really dont know, I came to sl and have never chatted before, and I find it hard to accept that there are people like that out there, actually a friend suggested I posted to try and help me to understand what a player is

Thank you Mortus, that is nice to hear that a realtionship on here is working out, I have met a lot of lovely people on here but also have experienced some sad stuff, hence the post

If they say they’ll call after a glorious night of love and laughs and they never do…You’ve been Played!
Hey this could be fun
If they say they’re not interested in any long term commitment and yet you find yourself being dragged to weddings every weekend…You’ve been Played!
If you log on to you and your newest loves group parcel to find you’ve been ejected and her and all your items gone and a bunch of rubrics cubs in your lost and found folder…You’ve been Played!

Who knows why people do what they do?

Heck, most of the time I don't even know why *I* do what I do, let alone somebody else.

Look...you'll find the same sorts of people here that you find anywhere else. Givers, takers, makers, and fakers.

Add anonymity to the mix.

Now...go read any pop psychology book and then draw your own conclusions.

No one can make you feel anything. An emotional reaction is yours alone to embrace or discard. If you feel as though you have been abused, leave that situation in your past. This is rudimentary self-preservation behavior. If the experience hasn't been gained offline then it's time to learn before exploring further online, SL or elsewhere.

There's a quote by Heinlein or Twain or some other clever person that essentially says: if you loan someone twenty dollars and they vanish forever, then it was worth paying twenty dollars to get that person out of your life. Think of "being played" in the same way. Be wiser and more wily for the next time around.

In the end I guess I should have waited for the title to be clarified. Definitely not a "Player" here, I wig out when another woman starts overtly hitting on me, and the subtle ones go right over my head. LOL I am as devoted to my SL partner as I would be to her in RL, and will remain so to I am in a position to fulfill my promise and find myself a loving princess in RL.

Sooo, you're devoted to your SL person until you find someone else? That might bring us back to previous threads about whether SL relationship are as 'real' as RL ones.
Certainly, to many, they are.

Is this how one's SL lover could be OK with their RL marriage, but still gets jealous when they cheat with another AV?

I must've missed that thread

Then my apologies - I just find it hard to comprehend how one would not know it - if you are seeing someone- in SL or RL and everything seems lovely - you smile, you laugh you exchange caring words- then you find out he or she is laughing behind your back because they are either cheating on you or telling you one thing and saying another behind your back- you are being played.

SL does not have the market cornered on "players" male or female - it does however offer better camouflage. Be careful with your heart - things are very intense in here- Mind you, careful won't matter - sooner or later you fall. It's not a bad thing- it's not a good thing- it's just life.

Yes I to have had very good friends in sad situations. I think it is really like RL where you have the good, bad and ugly in terms of partners. There are those at are mutual and caring, those that hold genuine feelings but are insensitive to their partners, and then you have the Players that just want to possess a partner for the sake of having one. The last bunch will usually get "Divorced" and have a new partner or sex slave the next day.

The way I look at it, the only reason so many bad relationships take hold is the ease of Partnering, though the mechanical part of dissolving the partnership is easy, often times the emotional and cognitive part of it is not for those being played or even those who are in a relationship that is not working even if not for malicious reasons.

this ol song keeps goin through meh mind every secon im on the grid:
"Is ya *****S crazy?
I'll bust you and be Swayze
Stop actin like a baby
mind ya business lady
nosy people get it too
when you see me spit at you

you know i'm tryin to get rid of you
yeah i know it's pitiful
that's how ****s get down
watch my ****s spit rounds
make ya ****S kiss ground
just for talkin sh@t clowns
oh ya think its funny?
then you dont know me money!"

Brann, it will not be an easy promise for me to fulfill, honestly if I could fulfill it by being with her RL I would in a heart beat. This was a promise she made me make knowing full well it was best for me, and that we could not be together RL for a number of reasons. It is something we try not to discuss because it is a very emotional topic for us because of our feelings. We get rather upset together at the thought of eventually having to separate even though we know when that happen its for our best good.

That is so sad

i know right boar Wingtops.

Well I would rather have my values then yours

Don't worry- no one really knows what any of it means- just that's it's hard to read.

heheheheheheheheh. I am the truest! name a star i aint influenced! i f2ck with ya soul like ether. SLUT across the belly i prove ya lost already!

Cue music... imagine if you will....

An avie walking across sinking sand carrying a box of type for an old fashioned printing press - he stumbles... in slow motion the box sails into the air .... it begins to fall back to the ground but the letters magically revolve above the box and lazily arc down separately, forming random misspelled words -

Now you know how those posts come about