Marriage

Hi everyone, I'm new so I have a couple questions regarding marriage. What exactly is the benefit to getting married on SL? Also, can you plan weddings and have an actual ceremony? Thanks!

1. pointless
2. yes

Hi Kennedy,

There's no "legal" or monetary benefit to getting married in SL. i.e. you don' t suddenly share all of your objects, lands or accounts with your SL spouse. It doesn't decrease monthly premiums or increase weekly stipend. It's more of a commitment thing. For me, I "married" my RL fiance in SL; it made me realize that I sure as hell don't want to plan a REAL wedding, so we're eloping in Las Vegas (yay!) Some people are serious about getting "married" in SL while for others it's a fun thing to do, and to do often. Heck, when you can buy a wedding dress for USD$ 4 and know that you've got the perfect figure for it, why not?

Anyway, yes you can plan and have weddings in SL. There are ministers you can hire, dresses and tuxedos to wear, "licenses" to frame, cakes to cut, music to dance to, etc etc. It's a pretty big industry, just as it is in RL.

Also, if your GF wants one, WATCH OUT!!!

There is a point - some use the number of marriages they have had to keep score.

I know someone thats had over 20.

Theres not any tangible benifits to getting married - except as some would say it hastens the end of the online relationship in many cases.

Also tends to some unplesant property disputes. when such time comes.

It also pays the marriage business money! Don't forget that! So there is a point--it makes the economy go round and lets drama queens (of both sexes) have some fun.

What is the difference in sl between being married and having a partner? A partner is more like a living together arrangement but not necessarily marriage? Or is it a sign of a monogamous relationship? Is it the same as marriage if you dont also have a marriage ceremony at the same time? Or is it whatever you want it to be? I dont know for sure.



Elinah

An SL partner can be whatever you want it to. It can be romantic, friendship, or business. I get IM's from people every now and then, trying to contact my SL partner (romantic) because they assume that he's my business partner.

An SL partner is a relationship authorized by LL. You have to apply for it, and the other person has to approve it through the SL website.

An SL wedding between two people does NOT mean that they are SL partners, and vice versa. Some people get married in SL on the day that their partnership is solidified, others never get married. If you get married in SL, you are not automatically assigned partnership through LL.

I actually got married in SL through a RL unitarian minister who happens to have an avatar in SL. She was wondering if it constituted a "REAL" marriage because my man and I are engaged in RL, but we figured out that we'd have had to sign papers and fax them around the country, etc to possibly make it real.

I have never read or been told before that a partner in sl can be business related ... sl makes it clear on this website from the way they describe it that its romantic in nature to them, I wonder if those people just didnt understand what the word partner means here ? Perhaps it should say romantic partner on the profile ? I had a partner too we were engaged to be married in sl but things didnt work out... I had wondered what being a partner with him actually meant and if it was the same as a marriage, if we were already married? I assumed its a committment to each other but what form it takes is up to the couple.

Does anyone who has a partner or is married in sl ever feel confused about what the relationship can or should mean in rl? How would you feel if your husband/wife or partner told you they had found someone special in rl? Would it upset you at all?

Elinah

Papers don't make anything real either, that's just there to pay for the lawyer's motorbike fund. Neither does insisting on having two ceremonies under God - all that is apparently meaningless.

What makes it real is honesty, truth, commitment and love. Although the money was real of course, $36,000 to get a new PC, a holiday in Europe, new rented house, a party in Vegas, flights up North to meet a new lover, motorcycle lessons, vet bills, dog food, 29-sided dice, and God knows what else...

1. The point? SL often becomes an emersive experience. Many people, including me, actually fall in love with peole they meet in SL. What do you do when you fall in love in RL? Often you get married. So...you can do the same thing in SL.
2. The ceremony is a very good reason to get married. Many of them are very beautiful and leave me with RL teary eyes. My typical response to an SL marriage is "maybe I"ll have to get married again, just to have another wedding..." It's all so perfect! We're all beautiful, with perfect figures as we promise until death do us part, or the grid crashes, whichever comes first. =D

Heh heh heh. Can we use these forums to ask rl quesions too? So what is the benefit to getting married in RL?

There's tons of benefits. A disadvantage, however, is not being able to mute your spouse with a mouseclick.

"Your World, Your Imagination" (or personal preferences)

My SL partner and I held a partnering ceremony....which we called "A Ceremony of Love" on the invitations.

It was done in Medieval attire (as we both love this type of genre and my partner belongs to the SCA RL), it was not a "wedding" as we spoke no "vows" and had no one to officiate. It was a way of indicating that we were committed to each other and monogamous in SL and a fun time with our friends.

Reason: For us marriage is held very sacred. We did not want to "enact" something that holds great meaning for us considering we have an online-only relationship.

As many people as participate in partnerships will probably have as many reasons

Heh heh heh I am getting deaf and all I got to do is turn off my hearing aids

Or instantly teleport out of an argument into a remote, undisclosed location, where an endless supply of porn, loose women and martinis is close at hand.

Know of various people who have cemented new or existing marriages on SL. Includes one couple who didn't have 10p to rub together when they got married rl years ago, so they had the wedding they missed out on.

Most people's weddings are grindingly boring (sorry but they are).

We haven't had an "Is it Cheating" thread in awhile...I just knew one was due.

I guess we all experience things differently. The SL weddings I have attended (including one of my own) have left me teary-eyed and smiling, just like RL weddings.

I muted mine...permanently.

Good lord!

Zombies are getting married now?

Oh noes!
/me wonders if Czari's cell has broadband?

5 years to life?

Papers don't make anything real. Only commitment, honesty, truth and love. Papers are just there to pay for the lawyer's motorcycle fund.

Money is real though, $36,000 US Dollars can buy a new PC and graphics card, a trip to Europe, new rented housing, a party in Vegas, vet bills, dog food, flights, motorcycle lessons, 29-sided dice and God knows what else...

I'm hoping he's just using earplugs and superglue.

I just knew someone would jump to that conclusion...lol.

D-I-V-O-R-C-E! (As in the old country/western song title.)