Projecting Yourself Onto Others

They actually believe they can project positive unto others. Is this going into the field of ESP, maybe?

No, it is not.

Ricardo,

In the terms I originally posted about, I'm not talking about changing someone. I'm talking about the observer influencing their observations of another with their own personality. The other person doesn't change, but they are not perceived in a realistic fashion by the observer.

So imagine I do that, and then I fall in love with them. What exactly has happened?

I think this is a big part of why drama flares so fast and often in SL. We fill in the blanks of what we know and assume, and when reality doesn't agree with what we thought... BOOM!

My take on that is that you would be in love with your idea of them.

Wow, Miles,

This is so deep. It's got me spinning and it's not even Friday night.

I wasn't directing my post to you directly. I always speak in general terms. When I do speak to someone I write their names letting them know it's them. Actually, I didn't see who wrote what when writing the post you responded to.

But you already know I was being sarcastic.

I agree that you used the wrong terminology . This is not projection.
This is a good post- really made me think.
I had never thought of it before, but I can admit that I sometimes form my own idea of who an avatar is ..especially if they dont have a very distinct personality.

But I didn't know it was Rhetorical

Shame on you.

I know, I need to be spanked!

OKay! Pie now?

Indeed. But since my post was the origin of many of the comments, I thought it vaguely possible that you had misunderstood the thread in general.

As in Rl.......the early stages of love carry many layers of "projection".
Your beloved becomes beautiful in your eyes..........faults and blemishes recede......points of symmetry and connection become magnified.

You are bathed, in a chemical bath of optimism and joy.........life is sweet........exciting...........the pulse races.......the appetite diminishes.........you have permanent beer-goggles on.

When this state overtakes you........their is a natural reluctance to contaminate this Rosy glow.......with mere reality.

The intersting question becomes..............will these feelings survive the receding tide of this adrenline tsunami.

http://www.cyberparent.com/love/love-being-in-love-1.htm

"Lord what fools, these mortals be"

I remember that 20 minutes of my life so well. Sigh.

That's how we got The Joker and a handful of superheroes. Chemical baths are well known to give superpowers. They aren't quite as good as being born on Krypton or being bitten by a radioactive spider, but they'll do in a pinch.

If I knew where I could find a giant vat of bubbling green chemicals, I'd jump right in. I always wondered why there were catwalks directly over the vats. Aren't there workplace safety rules in Gotham City or Metropolis? It just seems dangerous.

20 minutes seems to be about how long it takes for some people to get addicted to being in love with people who are nothing but pains in the neck ever after.

20 Mins is about the attention span of most men to begin with.

I did it once. Regretted it immensely and still do.

But seriously though, i read somewhere that the brain emits the chemicals that make us feel like we're in love for about six weeks. Then the honeymoon's over.

One thing I noticed in SL is that you can keep that feeling going a lot longer than in RL. Why is that? Is it because we never have to take out the garbage?

"Experience is cheap at any price," seems more true when more time has passed since the experience.

slight difference here in the term as PI can include projecting the positive or esteemed qualities as well....

Projective Identification (or PI) is a term first introduced by Melanie Klein of the Object relations school of thought in 1946. It refers to a psychological process in which one person projects a thought, belief or emotion to a second person. Then, in most common definitions of projective identification, there is another action in which the second person is influenced by the projection and begins to behave as though he or she is in fact actually characterized by the projected thoughts or beliefs. This is a process that generally happens outside the awareness of both parties involved, though this has been often debated. What is projected is most often an intolerable, painful, or dangerous idea or belief about the self that the first person cannot accept (i.e. "I have behaved wrongly" or "I have a sexual feeling towards ...." ). OR it may be a valued or esteemed idea that again is difficult for the first person to acknowledge. Projective identification is believed to be a very early or primitive psychological process and is understood to be one of the more primitive defense mechanisms. Yet it is also thought to be the basis out of which more mature psychological processes like empathy and intuition are formed.