Hi everyone,
I am feeling rather distressed, which might account for why I am writing this like a letter. Probably because I would like to write this same letter to non existent GMs, from what I can tell.
My beloved is showing as being online in our group and their profile but in the friend list they are not, I can't find them on the map, they are not ghosting where they logged off and our picture is gone from their profile picture.
I sent them an e-mail and IM'ed but it is a horrid waiting game at the moment. I was told that ghosts do happen but this is the first time I have seen it.
Anyone know how to check things out and be certain?
Thanks,
Jen
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Jenshae Werefox
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12-19-2009 10:31
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Treasure Ballinger
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12-19-2009 10:44
Hi everyone, I am feeling rather distressed, which might account for why I am writing this like a letter. Probably because I would like to write this same letter to non existent GMs, from what I can tell. My beloved is showing as being online in our group and their profile but in the friend list they are not, I can't find them on the map, they are not ghosting where they logged off and our picture is gone from their profile picture. I sent them an e-mail and IM'ed but it is a horrid waiting game at the moment. I was told that ghosts do happen but this is the first time I have seen it. Anyone know how to check things out and be certain? Thanks, Jen Hi Jenshae, That isn't ghost behavior that you stated here. When someone ghosts, it has nothing to do with their profile pictures, that wouldn't change. Unless someone 'unchecks' you on their friends list, they will show online, even if they are ghosted. Not seeing your beloved on your friends list as online but seeing them online elsewhere and your pic gone........and no response to your IM and email, would be a big hint to me that they don't want to talk to me. That's just my opinion, hope I'm dead wrong. _____________________
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Johan Laurasia
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12-19-2009 11:00
Since you're significant other doesn't have the balls to say it, I will, you've been dumped. Sorry to be so blunt, but obviously you're having difficulty coming to that conclusion on your own, which is understandable. So, I'll just come out and say it.
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Milly Enyo
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12-19-2009 14:09
Sorry
 To me is sounds like they may be off sowing their wild SL oats...taking you out of their profile, unchecking you from being able to map and see when online in their friends list etc... I wonder if you had not noticed, would they put you back in their profile, check you name again in the friends list and act all beloved again? SL can be wonky sometimes, but if this was me, I would take it as them being busted and they would be promptly removed from my profile  Good luck with however it turns out xx |
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Phil Deakins
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12-19-2009 14:14
Since you're significant other doesn't have the balls to say it, I will, you've been dumped. Sorry to be so blunt, but obviously you're having difficulty coming to that conclusion on your own, which is understandable. So, I'll just come out and say it. _____________________
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Milly Enyo
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12-19-2009 14:18
This ^^ But... Maybe they haven't been dumped! Maybe this naughty ghost is wanting the best of ALL worlds? |
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Raudf Fox
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12-19-2009 14:40
But... Maybe they haven't been dumped! Maybe this naughty ghost is wanting the best of ALL worlds? All the more reason to bust the ghost and send it packing. _____________________
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Milly Enyo
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12-19-2009 14:48
All the more reason to bust the ghost and send it packing. Oh I agree! I would be exorcising it pronto! As I say, I know SL can be wonky, but this sadly reeks of the poor op being played. Making their profile look all "single" for a few hours! |
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nikita Jefferson
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12-19-2009 14:55
My partner and i have two good friends who are sl lovers,.We noticed one of them coming on sl with her alt avy and had an idea what she was up to so i went on with my alt which she had never met,.
I went to the sim she was on and to where she was and walked around like i was just taking in the sights,it was'nt to long until she hit on me. We never told the other partner but in the end she did find out about her partners wayward ways |
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Void Singer
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12-19-2009 15:13
show on map and sow online status are both features you can uncheck on you friends list, and I frequently uncheck both for just about everyone on my friends list. not because I'm dumping them as a friend, or sneaking around doing things behind their back, but because I don't want to spend every second online responding to other people at their convenience when I have other things I'd like to do, or am working.
the simple conclusion here is that if those are off, and they are not responding to IM's then they are probably busy doing something else. it could be nefarious, it could just be that they are busy with other things or don't feel like hanging out at the moment. Solution: don't be needy and demand all their time whenever you happen to be on. Send an IM, if you get no response, do something else... if it happens consistently just stop IMing and write them off. _____________________
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Nuclear Foton
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12-19-2009 15:20
the simple conclusion here is that if those are off, and they are not responding to IM's then they are probably busy doing something else. Exactly..or someone else... |
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Treasure Ballinger
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12-19-2009 15:26
show on map and sow online status are both features you can uncheck on you friends list, and I frequently uncheck both for just about everyone on my friends list. not because I'm dumping them as a friend, or sneaking around doing things behind their back, but because I don't want to spend every second online responding to other people at their convenience when I have other things I'd like to do, or am working. the simple conclusion here is that if those are off, and they are not responding to IM's then they are probably busy doing something else. it could be nefarious, it could just be that they are busy with other things or don't feel like hanging out at the moment. Solution: don't be needy and demand all their time whenever you happen to be on. Send an IM, if you get no response, do something else... if it happens consistently just stop IMing and write them off. I would like to do that, occasionally; but unfortunately, they IM me anyway, thinking oh it will go to her email; and then of course, I'm busted as they dont get the 'User is Offline' message......and they know I'm there and just have them unchecked. _____________________
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Chris Norse
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12-19-2009 15:28
Void,
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Milly Enyo
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12-19-2009 15:35
Void, Do you take pictures out of your profile when you just want some privacy to build? Thats the thing that makes me think all is not well! At first I thought to reply that they maybe they are off shopping for Xmas for you etc... and just needed time alone to do this, so unchecked everyone on their friends list... But to remove pictures and create a profile void of any ties... smacks of a naughty ghost! I feel sorry for the op as she most likely will NOT believe us. Her wondering what was going on is not needy really, not if this is the first time she has caught him/her doing this. I think she is just confused. |
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nikita Jefferson
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12-19-2009 16:04
show on map and sow online status are both features you can uncheck on you friends list, and I frequently uncheck both for just about everyone on my friends list. not because I'm dumping them as a friend, or sneaking around doing things behind their back, but because I don't want to spend every second online responding to other people at their convenience when I have other things I'd like to do, or am working. the simple conclusion here is that if those are off, and they are not responding to IM's then they are probably busy doing something else. it could be nefarious, it could just be that they are busy with other things or don't feel like hanging out at the moment. Solution: don't be needy and demand all their time whenever you happen to be on. Send an IM, if you get no response, do something else... if it happens consistently just stop IMing and write them off. Ones partner should always be available to the other,friends i can understand,i hate being bothered when i'm busy but i am never too busy for my love |
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Void Singer
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12-19-2009 17:41
I would like to do that, occasionally; but unfortunately, they IM me anyway, thinking oh it will go to her email; I feel your pain, but if they keep it up I just block them or go into busy mode if they don't get the hint Void, Do you take pictures out of your profile when you just want some privacy to build? I would if I thought it'd help =X... no profile picture doesn't mean much though... it's one of numerous things that SL has eaten of mine in the past. Ones partner should always be available to the other,friends i can understand,i hate being bothered when i'm busy but i am never too busy for my love I couldn't disagree more strongly, there is no reason for me to occupy every second of my partners time, and I know from experience that sometime I'm doing something that can't be interrupted. I certainly don't wander around in RL with a tracking bracelet and a cell phone glued to my ear... my partner can call, and I'll get back to them, but I'm not going to pull over to answer a call, or stop talking to a customer just to answer them... not gonna happen. I give my partner the same respect and TRUST, along with knowing that sometimes alone time is needed... wanna know what I think the biggest problem I've seen with SL relationships? way too much codependence, and paranoia. give people room to breathe (or rope to hang themselves if you're the suspicious sort). _____________________
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Jenshae Werefox
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12-19-2009 20:42
Sorry for the slow response.
I had a great evening with them, which is why it took so long to check back here. A re-log fixed it and they were actually worried that I had a problem with them. Seems my IMs were not delivered either. Not going to leave myself logged in that long again. |
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Milly Enyo
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12-20-2009 02:07
Sorry for the slow response. I had a great evening with them, which is why it took so long to check back here. A re-log fixed it and they were actually worried that I had a problem with them. Seems my IMs were not delivered either. Not going to leave myself logged in that long again. His ims to you didn't work? A relog fixed the pictures of you missing from his profile? Okay, well I am glad its all sorted for you...just ask yourself how weird it was that only things about YOU were missing and he showed online everywhere but your friends list I am sorry to point the facts out....but it is pretty obvious IF you want to see it |
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Milly Enyo
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12-20-2009 02:08
wanna know what I think the biggest problem I've seen with SL relationships? way too much codependence, and paranoia. give people room to breathe (or rope to hang themselves if you're the suspicious sort). I agree with that. There comes a point where most people just want 5 mins peace! That does not negate any feelings you have for someone. |
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Pserendipity Daniels
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12-20-2009 02:21
Sorry for the slow response. I had a great evening with them, which is why it took so long to check back here. A re-log fixed it and they were actually worried that I had a problem with them. Seems my IMs were not delivered either. Not going to leave myself logged in that long again. Pep (is continually astonished at the gullibility of over-emotional "females" here.) _____________________
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Tarina Sewell
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12-20-2009 07:05
Hi everyone, I am feeling rather distressed, which might account for why I am writing this like a letter. Probably because I would like to write this same letter to non existent GMs, from what I can tell. My beloved is showing as being online in our group and their profile but in the friend list they are not, I can't find them on the map, they are not ghosting where they logged off and our picture is gone from their profile picture. I sent them an e-mail and IM'ed but it is a horrid waiting game at the moment. I was told that ghosts do happen but this is the first time I have seen it. Anyone know how to check things out and be certain? Thanks, Jen I give you big hugs. Jen im sorry to say there is no other explination.... the big clue is your photo is gone... welcome to SL drama 101. Just cry for a few days and move on... Nothing more you can do... A person who does this withot explination is not worth your stress.... Im so sorry dear..... |
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Tarina Sewell
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12-20-2009 07:09
Sorry for the slow response. I had a great evening with them, which is why it took so long to check back here. A re-log fixed it and they were actually worried that I had a problem with them. Seems my IMs were not delivered either. Not going to leave myself logged in that long again. LOLOLOL a relog and him quickly putting the picture back more likely. Now the IMs I probably can understand.... because we ALL know we miss some.... But... I would watch this one.... all doesnt seem right to me...  |
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Kira Cuddihy
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12-20-2009 11:55
I have sometimes had the problem in sl with profile pictures not showing up. Especially in a really laggy sim. Go to another sim and it is there. So who knows what happened in this case. That is when I am just profile checking, not anyone I know. So I know they didn't take it out and put it back in.
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Sparkle Mocha
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12-20-2009 12:24
i had that the other day i knew i put this pic in my profile it wasnt there then 1min later it was there its happend before too lol
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Melita Magic
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12-20-2009 21:18
Not a case of "single while at the club"?
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