Do you offer your Friendship card in SL or wait for it to be offered to you?

I know a lot of ppls, but I don't friend ppls often, I find I either don't want to play, fail at social skills or ppls don't take the time to get to know me.

I have never used calling cards, except when setting up group IM sessions.

As far as friend offers, I usually wait until I've talked with someone for a while and then offer.

Maybe half the time they beat me to it.

I clean up my friend lists ever couple of weeks too.

I rarely offer friendship but I will if someone asks but doesn't send the request in a timely manner.

We really need to improve the whole friendship mechanism in SL. I joined this rinkydink mmo game and it had this friendship window that had you in the center and people were little circles that orbitted you. The more interaction you had the closer they showed up. I think there were bonuses to having a lot of people near you. Unfortunately there wasn't much to do there.

So come on LL let's see some changes!

Yep, got pretty much fed up, sick, sore and sorry with the whole SL friendship-in-a-can thing within the first couple of months myself. I prefer the old-fashioned method of getting to know people over time.

Partner 1000 people in a month and win a free teddy?.

Well, turn on all IM logging and a few weeks later check you log folder, list it by file size, and voila! a list of people you interact most with is before your very eyes.

Ok. In that MMO you speak of, could other people see you friendship interaction circles or just you? That idea does sound cool, but what determines it?

Should it be IM log size and proximity? And each one reflected differently by a color gradient so that way you could see that some people you were around a lot and talked to very little and other people you were never around but talked to a lot.

This would be very cool Bree.

BUT until now, check that log folder by file size! It may surprise you

I usually wait, but the technical answer is both.

i usually wait unless for some reason i want to stay in contact .. for information of something or what not... they i ask but usually i dont

That's the difference between "making friends" and "social networking", a term I absolutely despise.

i dont accept or offer friendship till i get to know someone. like one person said, they usually disappear anyway.

lizzie

Networking? I'm up for that: the great thing about being a ferret on the internet, is the internet is a series of tubes.

Yea the "social networking" term and what it represents to me is rather ugh. Sounds like you are engineering a social circle, manufacturing a circle of friends using some check sheet....it is just all so contrived and false and the majority of people who are part of those "social networks" drop off the face of the planet on a whim or delete their MySpace page emo style weekly.

I 'social network' by surrounding myself with people who i find interesting regardless of whether or not their core world and social perspectives are not aligned with my own and then i hope to be brave enough to reach out to communicate once i found that circle of people to be around that meet those qualities.

Like some of the Forum Cartel people...I'm just slow in talking to people i guess.

Though i did go see Marcel when i saw he was at the hangout today. And i did almost come to see you this morning when you were there...Brenda

I wait for them, kinda.

If I've known them a while and talk to them often, I may ask if I can friend them, but otherwise I'll leave it up to them. If it's for a business or support matter, then I'll tell them that if they like they can add me for ease of contact, but I still leave it up to them.

Awww....I would have ben there longer, but the dog wanted to go out for a walk.