In love

People in love are just setting themselves up for a fall. I've grown up believing that you "need" a partner like you "need" a new mobile phone or a BMW; because the media scream at you twenty-four hours a day that you do need these things.

Ok, but you have an image to keep up luv, I was trying to help you, you really are a cuddly, fluffly bunny wunny and I luf you









(please don't hurt me now)

You need a hug

I don't NEED a partner (Mind you I don't HAVE a mobile phone or a car!). I'm one of the most independant, non social people you'll ever find. But I ENJOY spending my time with my partner. And sure, if it ended it'd hurt. But you can't deny yourself love because, well, it will all end in shit one day!

I don't care how many bad experiences you've had Charlotte, you just CAN'T condemn all partnerships and love in general that way. People are all different. And one day, you'll find the person who will make you feel complete - assuming you don't deny yourself the chance through bitterness at past experiences.

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Hehe. I don't have any image to keep up... I'm just me. Which, by the way, is a SQUIRREL not a bunny. Does the huge great bushy tail and lack of floppy ears not make that clear? pfft!

See!?...

Squirrel, Bunny, wuteva!!! your just damn kyoot

Wanna tackle Charlotte to the ground and hug her?

Yeah, just because I love watermelon doesn't mean you have to, too.

There are things I don't go for personally but I can see the beauty in them and how they have touched other people's lives.

If past all the clutter and BS you truely are passionate about and desire something, then hey, it's your life to live, yours to enjoy.

I never imagined being in love in Second Life, nevermind being here in the first place. Life is full of crazy shiznit, and all sorts of kinks and twisted turns.

For me, total 100% dependency on something or someone is dangerous. Thankfully, it's also impossible by all probability. And yet... right now... I can't imagine myself without what I have.

I've done the whole evil jaded thing in my earlier years -- so been there, done that -- and now I'm being Jaded in a good way. ^_^

I don't understand enjoying spending time with someone. I'm probably the exception to the rule here, but even in the "happiest" relationship I had, I found myself sitting back, passively watching the relationship almost as if it was a film. I can't see myself being together and happy with someone for the rest of my life; because I believe that love is simply an artificial construct for the control of the people.

Wow.

Well, given that kind of attitude - and given that you don't seem to believe in or actively participate in your relationships, I guess you could be right. But I find that really sad.

But you're still cute, if severely jaded! If you ever need a hug or an ear, shout

I have an arm or a leg going spare if you need one Charlotte

You need to come back to Slootsville, we had fun that night

*nods at Lotte and Kris and Willow*

*huggerz*

Well, if we all only aspired to what we needed, we would be wearing potato sacks and eating soybeans.

I don't need someone in my life but damn if it isn't nice to have someone around.

I always hate these "need" conversations. When it gets down to it we need very little. It is what we want and what brings us joy that makes life worth living.

Ok.. I know all the parties involved too, and Gabby is one of my best friends on here... and I'll be the first to say, ALL of you ppl need to get all the facts before you start judging people.

I have all the facts, because I have seen things Gabby has said, seen things James has said, and have seen things Anya has said.

Anya... I don't know where you get off posting such a thing, after the crap you have said. You encourage their relationship, I have seen things you have said pushing them together, telling her how much James loves her and needs her, begging her not to break up with him, etc. You even practically beg Gabby to meet you guys in RL, so I think you need to check yourself before you go posting such BS to make someone look bad.

Gabby in NO WAY WHAT SO EVER encourages James to hook up with her in RL. In fact, she has her priorities straight, unlike you. She knows SL is a game, she knows he's married in RL.. and she is NOT the one trying to take things beyond this game. I'm not blaming anything on James either, because James is also a good friend of mine, and I love em both. But Anya, I suggest you go check your facts, before you go airing your dirty laundry on a forum trying to make Gabby look bad. You need to stop encouraging crap yourself if you're feeling this way. After seeing the post you just wrote, knowing the things you have said and encouraged, I just laugh to myself.. if these ppl only knew how you are and the things you have said *shakes head*.

I could embarrass you Anya.. like you just tried to do to Gabby, and post archives of crap that was said from you and your husband as proof of who is wrong here, and who is the ones trying to take this beyond SL (definitely NOT Gabby) but I won't do that... I won't stoop as low as you. Because first of all, I won't disrespect James due to your jealous tantrum you're having here, and second of all.. its not all of SL's business. I just wanted to make it known, ppl should not be feeling sorry for you... because you are the one that sits there and encourages their reltionship, pushes RL crap, etc etc.

Get a clue Jess, and leave Gabby out of your psychotic episodes.

I think the post immediately preceding this one proves my point.

That people have difficulty in relationships sometimes? Of course they do.

I am SO gonna hug you when I get inworld. You really seem like you need it today

That emotions build up, that people are too tied up in living up to the traditional imagery of romance to show their emotions in any real way, and that eventually they burst in such a smorgasbord of screaming argy bargy, and the whole thing fucks up.

Ever thought that Anya has logs too?

I see your sticking up for your friend here, but this is way outta line, WAY outta line... I don't think that Gabby's been shown up in this thread at all, I think the one highly embarassed in all of this is Anya, having her RL husband post this about another woman, don't you?

Willow, I seriously doubt you have seen half as much of their convo's as I have seen, so I doubt you even know what you're talking about here.

And it seems to me, Anya should be talking to her RL husband about her RL issues... not airing her dirty laundry for all of SL to read, don't YOU agree?


If SL is that much of a problem, causing RL problems... handle your RL and take care of your issues. Don't go blaming other ppl for your problems.

No I seriously doubt I have, cos I don't need to see all of my friends conversations. But I think I know enough to know I lost a good friend cos of jealously issues, so don't feed me the I don't know shit crap ok?

And yes I am sure she does need to talk to James and kick his ass, but I don't see her dissing Gabby in this thread do you? I see a very upset wife, complaining about a thread her husband started and his SL gf replied to.

I am not saying anyone is in the right here, but she has a right to get upset about this and not be called fucking psychotic don't YOU think?

well, i really didnt want thiis to turn out to be some bitch thing but now i suppose i have to defend myself ............well for one ashly you dont know me ....and me and james have a very open relationship in rl and sl ....he dates people there for fun and i sit there and watch him lol ...hell when he cybers i go no say it this way ....we just have fun together doing it ....but ...with gabby she has been having issues with only having him in sl ....now at first he wouldnt address these and just say" i'm sorry i'm married "because i said he had to be nice about it ,but more and more she has been adressing the rl issue and he was still going along with it "well if this were different i would love to date you " now i am feeling like it is going to far , and i need him to stop but at this point if he just said to her we gotta stop the rl talk she would get upset and leave him so i still let it slide .......then i wake up and james shows me this thread and i'm like wtf i have friends on here thinking my hubbie just left me in rl for a sl chick so i had to reply and let people know whats going on ..........and to adress the rl meeting gabby thing ...umm ask willow ...i told her i was going to fly her down and get it on with her lmao that is just all in fun ...yes i would meet gabby i see no harm in that ,..............what i wanted from this thread was to see how other married couples deal with ingame dating and how far is it taken

Yes I am going to fly to James's have his babies and then run off with Anya while he works and pays for us

Wasn't that always the agreement

No, I don't agree with you AT ALL. I don't need to see friends convos either, and the only reason she shows me the convos is because she freaks out about the feelings HE has for her, and she asks for advice on how to handle it.


Not even 2 days ago, Anya was begging Gabby to come meet them in RL, which is insane if she's feeling this way. She encourages this crap between them, and SHE is the one trying to take it to RL, and then turns around trying to make Gabby look bad on here... and trying to put the blame on her, which is not the case.


Anya's post: "he wrote this post cause his "partner in this game " has been telling him how much she loves him in rl life and he feels like he has to tell her the same to perserve the relationship"

THAT right there is dissing Gabby... and its a crock of shi*t. Once again, you don't have all the facts to judge.

*sigh*

I know Anya, I know James, I know Gabby somewhat but not well. I do know and she has admitted herself when she first met James she was jealous of the fact we were so close, and he stopped hanging with me. So clearly she means alot to him, that much is obvious.

I am not judging and anyone that thinks so, is clearly unable to comprehend what is called *my opinion*, in *my opinion* I don't believe Anya is at fault here, James shouldn't have started the thread, Gabby shouldn't have replied if she is trying to push him away, she should have told him to take it down if it bothered her that much, or is that too hard?

If I was Anya I would have lost the plot posts ago, but no, shes handling it well, for someone that has been betrayed to some extent by ppl she loves in the public forums.

I think the fact remains that both James and Gabby know its a game, so why the hell has it gone this far already? Both of them are at fault to some extent and yes maybe Anya did point out that James is replying to Gabby with I love you cos he feels he has to, and maybe that is dissing, personally I think its just her venting some anger, which she has every right to do so in this situation.

Now I suggest we all butt out and leave it to them to sort out, before we all like like queen of the harpies

*shakes head in disbelief*


Advice to Gabby... smartest thing you can do at this point, is steer clear of them all. You don't need their drama. You're an awesome friend, and I love ya hoooo!

Yeah, the advice I gave James a LONGGGGG time ago, funny how ppl don't listen huh?

Sure is, cuz I gave Gabby the same exact advice when she met you