Would you take back your "ex?"

It means he is a prick, literally, and you deserve a man who is more than that. IM me if you want to talk *hugs*

He is a prat, plain and simple and like Katy said, if you ever want to talk please PLEASE IM me.

I know how you feel, it was the same for me and Fred, except we never did the meet thing.. I wanted to, but apparently it was never going to happen, even though I was willing to uproot myself, my child and my life *shrugs*

I too used to look at pics and cry, almost ringing him EVERY time to beg him to give us another chance, and I did ask him constantly for that for a few days, till I realised that it soooo wasn't worth lowering myself to that.

*hugs you*

=( ouch Nisa.

Thats a very disappointing end to something you put a lot of yourself into.

You arent sad or pathetic, you were wronged.

I came to SL to forget someone .. it was easier when I stopped trying to be her friend after all that happened.

Am not sure the "hope we can still be friends" thing can work till someone gets over the "BUT you said you loved me". And that can take a long time.

Hold on now ladies...

In defense of the man, if he honestly didn't feel that chemistry or "zing" when you met, it was far better and more honest for him to explain, and walk away.

Would you prefer he lied and stayed? Come now..shame on you all!

If I get along wonderfully with a lady in SL, and then I meet her and she doesn't feel the RL love or desire for me, I'd far prefer her to say so up front than make lame excuses or lie to me.

Jeez..damned if we do..damned if we don't...

Yes, I am very much willing to disrupt my life for him, I opened my home to him. Whats really really bad is all of his belongings are on their way to my home! I have a month to wait before they get here and then I have to turn around crate them and ship them back to him. Why are they on their way to me, you ask? Because he wanted us to happen so badly that on the second day after meeting he went ahead and shipped his belongings to my house instead of his home in another state (he was moving back from college). On the third day things were nice but I could feel a change and by that evening, he said he couldn't do it. He didn't feel love, lust, like or hate, just care and friendship. .

So here I am, depressed, lonelier than ever with a home that was totally renovated for him. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make him feel differently. I understood that there was a possibility that this would happen, but some how I thought, like me that he would choose a stable home, companionship, common interests - we never fought or argued, we communicated so much and so well -gah- what's the point. He wanted passion, and he never gave me the chance to show him mine.

I'm such a mess, and everyday I have to step out of my home and pretend that I'm not.

I never said he was wrong...I've always preferred brutal honesty to white lies.
I am only lamenting the fact that I hurt and even though I hurt if he were to say tomorrow, "Baby, I was confused I really do love you" or "I may not feel the spark but it'syou I choose to be with the rest of my life" I would take him back without question or regret.

I also wish, pathetically, that there was some way I could woo him or court him..plead my case because I am such a sop.

*hugs everyone*

This thread is making me tear...some of these posts I can relate to...

I have been wronged in the past...in RL...all I can say is do your best to move on...get out there, meet new people, try not to "think" about it. Eventually we will find the right guy, or he will find us, who will respect our thoughts, desires, interests, does his best to sweep you off your feet everyday, and feed you jello while relaxing in the hot tub. Or relax in a hot tub filled with jello. With him of course. *dreams away*

But please, don't give up on yourself, I know what it's like to feel so down and trapped in an abyss of misery...just keep your chin up...

That probably didn't help, but this topic hits the heart for me...

Oh, and don't watch chick flicks...your worst enemy....I watched this really bad one and it still made me cry...grrr.

You damned man you !!! p.s. I LOVE THE ISLE OF BLISS, so all is forgiven for that man thing.

JELLO!? I think this one is worth strawberries, whipped cream and champagne...at the very least!

The sad thing is he promised me all that, as I promised him the same.

I am doing my best not to say to him "but, you said you loved me". I think the closest I've come to saying that is "you've picked me soo many times". Referring to different situations where he could have taken a different path. I remain friendly because it's the only taste of him I'm allowed. Online with him is like methadone to crack baby...

Nisa honey, they ALWAYS say that...*hugs*

Hehe, that was primarily a small light-hearted joke.

I would prefer sushi and sake.


*hug Nisa*

I'm kinda going through that with someone right now...but the need to talk to this person is slowly fading away from me, because I know that it won't be the end of the world and I have done everything I can to preserve at least a friendship, but if it's how it's going to be, I will learn to accept it, and move on. It's hard for some, and I know it's hard on you, hun. It's such a risk opening the doors to your heart...much easier to open than to close them...

mmm, "sushi and sake" - yep I like you!

It wasn't easy opening my heart to him. I am the kind of person that does not love or trust easily, and he spent months pursuing me and my attentions, just as we spent months developing things.

The rational me, knows it's not the end of the world - but the part of me that was candy coated with a hardshell topping is complete bruised.

Thank you everyone for the hugs... I realized I've had a pitty party here and I'm sorry.

Bottom line, is yes I would take my ex back. The dilemma is that he doesn't want me back.


And Arbel I'm in Arkansas, how far are you from the southern state line?

I hear you hun and have been right there where you are at. I hated it. The one-sided longing, the hurt to my pride, the doubting my appeal to the opposite sex, the overwhelming urge to foolishly pursue what I knew was already gone. Thoughts of them running through my head day and night, "What is she doing right now? Who is she with? Does she even think of me?". Most of us have been there. *hugs*

It's a tough, tough time..and one in which the saying, "Time heals all wounds" is very very applicable. Time will heal your heartache, as I'm sure you know. It's just no fun waiting till it does.

What say us girls get together for a fun slumber party?!? Slip into our nighties, have a pillow fight, then a tickle fight..talk about boys..talk about experiments we had in college...maybe skinny dipping...eat lots of strawberries and chocolate! Listen to sappy love songs..

*backs away from the torch weilding mob* Wait..ok..ok..sheesh..was only a suggestion!

Seriously though Nise, I do know what you're feeling and feel bad that you, and many others, have to go through it

Now..if you still have room in your house....

You're post made me laugh... I have a guy friend, married and has a little girl, we call him Sister Geraldine, because we treat him like one of the girls.


Actually I do have the extra room in my house. 3 bedroom ranch style on 17 acres. I hate how hollow the house is, and I guess I could advertise for a room mate. Don't need one but the company might be nice.


I LOVE HIM DAMN IT!!!!

17 acres?? Woot! Can we have sheep??

erm...I'm thinking you're not wanting to make sweaters in Arkansas.

It sounds wonderful to me!

I'm all up for a slumber party! I'll bring the double-ended...*looks around to see agape faces*....hairbrush! Yessssss....


Hmmmm, I think I'm 5 hours from the border, Nisa. My dad lives in northern Arkansas, and I live way in the south of Louisiana, and it's a 10 hour drive from here to there, so yeah, I'll half it.

Red Stick area? Monroe, Arbel? No need to disclose, it's just cool to have an SLer so close.

Hehe, it's ok, I already revealed my location in another thread. I'm in Lafayette.

Very Cool, Texarkana here, have family down that way.


and once again staying on topic... I love him damnit, I would take him back.


If I say it enough do you think it will come true?

nah I didnt think so

I came into this thread late and thats alot to read lol.. but to answer the original question.. Hell no - there all crazy lol .

I wasn't especially making light of it. I suppose some people can transition faster that others, And I wasn't singling your case out, so I dont understand the reason for a vield attack.

In my own expereince, In SL, I have been told by someone that I devastated her world when I told her I was not going to be invovled with a married woman. Two days later there was line on her profile aboiut a new man who had restored her faith in all men. In my mind this is fast, which means that either I didn't hurt as much as she said, or that having someone was in fact more important than who the person was. And I do think that there is a lot of emotional frivolity in SL, after all it is only a game, and people don't always think that an SL relationship is meaningful. (It should be axiomatic that not all realtionships are frivolous and not everyone thinks that SL relationships are just a game, but I suppose I should spell that out to stave off the next assault on my logic).




Emotional tarzans and serial monogmists are not entirely contradictory concepts. In both cases I see people who are insecure emotionally and afraid to ever be out of a relationship. Most emotional tarzans I see are essentially monogamous, they just have a hard time letting go of the last one before the next one is secure. I don't in any way see these people as "players" (a whole other issue). They are dangerous because they set the emotional expectation bar very high.

As far as seeing that it is possible to know immediately, this is not covering the bases. This is because in fact, in my own life I knew five minutes after I met her that I would marry the woman who bbecame my financee. But it took time to build that relationship, and a lot of pain and a lot of joy and a lot of love. Of course at the time I had been bitter and single for a couple years lol.




On this we agree absolutely.

Nisa sweetie, I am for some reason compelled to give you some advice. You seem so sad and that hurts my heart too.

Begging for him to come back will never work hon. What you need to do is move on and find some other great guy, and there is one out there, I promise. If your guy ever does change his mind and ask to come back it will not be because you pursued him and changed his mind. It will be because you did in fact move on without him and he discovers what he has lost. Either that or he moves on too in which case you will be much better not pursuing him anyway.

As long as you hang around and make it known that you will come back at the drop of a hat, he still has you. Take away that comfy feeling and perhaps he will regret it when you are not with him or available at moments notice.

It will be better for you this way hon. I know it hurts but move on. If he doesn't come back, you are better off without him and the only way he will is if you are in the seat of power.

Just my opinion sweetie, I hope it helps you or at a minimum gives you some things to think about. Some guys just like the chase, once you are caught they loose interest.

Huggles... Billy