I went through preferences and checked "use default system color picker" in the first menu and holy cow, everything now looks amazing! When I unchecked the default system color picker, it didn't change back to what I had which had been dim or too bright.
So now it looks amazing as I said so if you have trouble, give that a try.
Edit/Preferences/General/Use default system color picker.
Now I'm all excited about this new look and its possibilities. Hopefully I won't screw up my days and make them 4 secs long!