over 18 epidemic acting under 18

Unlike the last post I find more over 18year olds acting immature. Example: caging, pushing, cussing, spamming, talking trash etc.... just because you can hide behind the screen does this give you the right to act immature? Don’t you feel any embarrassment? Do you act this way in RL in front of friends and family?

I guess we need to start a thread here that list what you should NOT do in SL.

1.when you meet someone new, Don’t say HEY GIVE ME SOME MONEY!!!
2.when you see others chatting, Don’t walk up and start pushing the others around.
3.when you come on to someone’s place don’t just go walking in and act as if you own the place
4.WHAT WOULD YOU ADD HERE?

Don't make unsolicited sexual advances.

This was an occasional thing, but since the Yahoo exposure SL got, it's gotten worse.

I have had comments made about my ass by newbie strangers I've never seen before.

I have been asked point blank to go have sex (and not in a nice way) by newbies.

I have been told I was a cunt, a bitch, and so forth for not responding to these types of advances.

What in the hell is wrong with people who get so horned up over a mass of pixels? I understand getting passionate with someone you've gotten to know and have some sort of mental connection with... but to just get all wound up looking at a pixelated person you haven't even spoken to before?

Who are these people and what sort of parents raise people like that?

Based on recent encounters with new players- Treat SL as an extension of RL

New to the game and looking for a job?

Dont be disrespectful to your potential employer.
Dont show up at their house uninvited and expect to have an interview.
Dont stalk them after they advise you of the appropriate channels for interviews.
Dont constantly harass them for money or "donations".
Dont blame them for your problems.

Do
Be able to take constructive criticism and feedback
Be curteous or cordial to other players
treat others how you want to be treated - Put me in a cage if you want and i'll put you in one you cant escape.
If someone says i will be with you in a minute, be patient and they will. They are probably in the middle of something they need to address or finish

Ditto to the above, plus...

For the English speakers, use reasonably good English. I'm no wordsmith and I may never write for The New Yorker, but I don't ever use "2", "u", "4", etc. in place of real words. That is definitely immature, no matter whether they are >18 or <18 y.o. I don't think I'm a snob as I can tolerate the occasional typo, but that kind of blatantly poor grammar just rankles me.

As for pushing, I'm willing to excuse it if it's accidental. After all, with slow lag and rezz times, a recently-arrived avie could be walking to what looks like open space to them because I have not rezzed yet. However, if they arrived before me, and things are fully rezzed for me, then it's not so accidental.

The one problem with this thread is that the people most likely to need the advice are those who are least likely to heed it. Still, I could toss a few things on the wish list.

1) Read someone's profile before chatting them up. Why people don't do this is beyond me, since someone's profile will often have an ice-breaker or two in it.

2) Announce yourself before walking into what is clearly a residential building. We don't have doorbells (as far as I know) but "Hello, anyone home?" will usually suffice as a substitute.

3) Be aware of your surroundings and know when you're the outsider. For example, don't walk into a club called "Furries r Us" and complain how demented you think furries are.

4) Friends lists are for friends. Simply saying "hello" to someone generally doesn't qualify. Don't offer friendship to strangers, or at least don't be offended when they say "no".

5) Don't ask a lot of questions up front about someone's First Life. If they wanted you to know they'd put it in their profile (see #1, above).

I agree, Lewbowski.

In my first few days in SL I met a guy who instantly started asking me about where I was from, what I did for a living etc. When I told him I didn't want to answer those kinds of questions he acted all offended and said, "Don't you want to get to know people here?" and things like that.

Well, yes, I want to get to know people, but where I live in RL is none of his or anyone else's business unless I choose to make it so. Now that I have a house in SL I will answer that question with "Kyonu" (and maybe my coordinates if I like them). They don't need to know anything more than that. I go to SL to get *away* from my RL, not to talk about with strangers.

I think the single piece of advice I'd give to the people who are the subject of this thread is "grow up". We are all adults here (supposedly!) so act like one and talk like one.

Grace
Who sometimes wears a child's AV, but is definately all grown up.

Oh yes, definately Lebowski and Grace! that's a big peeve of mine as well.

I have been approached by guys in SL and immediately asked about my RL location and job. That is just so weird. I've met people in nightclubs in RL, and been asked less personal info and in a longer period of time. I guess "polite" just goes out the window for some when they are anonymous.

I have seen this trend too. More and more often.
One person walk right into my house and was asking point blank questions about lands and such...
No a " oh sorry to disturb you..." or "thanks for the info"

This is not uncommon anymore unfortunately.
Seems like beeing polite is a thing of the past...

That's what I always wonder - it's quite bizarre. One eager youth said he wanted to see what was under my dress. I felt like telling him it was the same as the dress - a lot of pixels - but in the end I couldn't be bothered [SIGH]

My question to them always is - What kind of a libido is it that looks for satisfaction from people who think you're an idiot?

I also think quite a large propotion of those guys are logged in drunk, which gives their poor avatar control a much more comprehensible background (I don't understand those people who only ever have sex while drunk, either - but I know a few!)

When people come over from another form of group-chatting (IRC for example), asking where you're from isn't necessarily meant to impose on your RL, but more of an attempt to start a conversation with someone they don't know. I honestly don't like or care for it either but I will treat it on the same level as "how are you?"

Recently I've just started side-stepping answering and instead answer something along the lines of "you're new so you may not know but " and a quick explanation that those kind of questions are not going to make a great first impression, especially on older residents (before the mass sign-ups). Most seem puzzled by it, and a few continue to get offended, but overall this method seems to work for me at least .

Most importantly...Do NOT plead innocence when all your left behind cages and bullets show your name printed black on white all over the damn place(stupid morons) GROW UP!!!

I have nothing to add, but I just wanted to:

*applaud*

They should include this in the welcome cards!

When people ask me where I'm from (at least, people I don't know well), I say "I'm from the internet!"

lol, I say from my mother... then they ask where she's from and I say my grandmother!

There is an option under peoples profile to mute them. Just mute them if they are bothering you. Problem solved. *hugz* Teddy

I occasionally say "so, what brings you here?". Two nights back someone actually said "A computer!"

Cute, gummi!

Not much bothers me in SL, either what people say or what they do, but one recent night was an exception.

I had had a HIDEOUS time trying to get a script to work, wrangling with it for a couple of hours beyond the time when I should have quit.

A neighbor im'd me to tell me that in case I didn't realize it, there were a bunch of people "setting up shop" on my lot in Azure Islands. I told her the names of the ones officially living there, and thanked her for letting me know. Then I thought - hey, maybe I'd better go check. Anyway, it was time to quit tormenting myself with that script and go home from my shop to relax.

So you can imagine what kind of a mood I was in already.

Well, a friend of mine I've known for 4 years lives with me on my land, and SHE had a real-life friend who wanted to live with us, and I had said okay earlier that day or the day before, and THAT girl had a couple of guys on my land when I arrived, along with my original friend.

So I land, then all of a sudden I'm way off by the bridge at the other end of the sim. I'm thinking it was a game glitch.

So I fly back home and my friend newf is sitting there, and I say, "Dumb-ass game!" to her.

Whereupon one of these GUYS who I didn't know from ADAM and hadn't even NOTICED yet, immediately says, "Well why don't you stop playing it then."

So I got in his face. It's funny, but even though games aren't real, on the rare occasions where someone has made my blood boil, the first thing I've done is walk right up in their FACE, haha.

"I have to tell you I'm not in a good mood," I said to the guy. Then I proceeded to tell him he was standing on MY land, which I PAY for, which I WORK for, and I hadn't been talking to him in the first place, and how dare he smart off like that to me, etc. etc.

"Oh," he says, "you're the person who owns her (the girl's) land?"

"Grrrrrrrrr," I say. "Yes."

He sort of slunk away pretty soon. Funny thing is, I wouldn't have gotten nearly so mad if I hadn't been so frustrated with that script, and going home to relax, only to get bounced off my own lot then fly back to have some stranger tell me I should quit the game.

I was so mad about what he'd said, it took me till much later that nite to suddenly realize that the "game glitch" of bouncing off my land to the other end of the sim had never happened to me before, hmmm.

He was probably just in a cheeky sort of party mood, maybe drunk, who knows, and didn't know where he was in the first place, and just trying to be funny. Or something.

But you'd think people might at least CONSIDER who it is they are being rude to, that they might actually own the place, or better yet, consider just not being rude in the first place.

I told the girl there had better NEVER be anyone on the land who couldn't be polite, and wasn't polite and considerate to the neighbors. Boy was I pissed.

coco