Financial Support for Your Partner.

Do you agree that partnerships in sl also have financial implications and obligations?

I am totall onfused by teh "free for all" philosophy around sl (and real, actually). I firmly believe that in sl partners should share the bill for land and purchases for such like. Also why not an allowance if one partner is finacially advantaged in real?

My partner and I have made our financial arrangments which are positive and beneficial.

But I wonder how many men and woman really give - give, freely, mind you - to their partner. Do they "pay" their sl wife a weekly gift so she can buy what she wants to be happy? If she is richer, does the woman grant teh husband gifts? Does she send her toybozs a few lindens to cheer them up?

I am a firm believer in any partner not getting soemthing for nothing - sl is dependent on linden dollars - Men dont be mizers with your cash. Every woman likes diamonds on the soles of her shoes. Women, give your husband a couple thousand every so often - it's what you'd do in real so why not here also?

Good gods no!

At least, no, it shouldn't be an obligation. Shouldn't you be partnering because want to be together? Gifts, yes. Treats, yes (even in cash, but gifts are better). Romantic trips, love notes, wild impromptu sex, yes. Whatever makes it work.

A major difference between RL and SL is that no-one can starve, freeze or otherwise suffer for lack of money. No-one *needs* support from their partner. If there's an expectation of an allowance from the richer partner, I can see an increase in 'gold-digging' behaviour.

What if one person says they cant afford to pay cause of RL obligations but they can they just choose to be a free loader or they use the " I have sex with you so you pay the bills" you know the FWB deal

Definitely not. What percentage of SL partnerships last for years? I'd think it's quite low. And what percentage of them end without some degree of il-feeling? I'd think that's quite low too. So, what percentage of the ex-partners would feel like hitting back?

I've come across enough instances of people screwing (not sex) their ex-partners - both business and romatic partners - to always recommend never trusting significant money to a partner.

I don't have a partner, but I do have friends. If I see a friend longing for something on SL that they can't afford, I will buy it for them in a heartbeat. Because it makes them happy, no other reason. A friend of mine went with me to see Weston's art display and fell in love with one of the paintings. They were no trans, though; I contacted Weston and paid him direct, and he sent the painting to my friend. I've done that a few times, whether I know the seller or not, and never had a problem. People do seem more thrilled with gifts, or giving them money for something in particular, than with just dropping random Lindens on them.

I love doing this with people. I am lucky in that I can afford to not pay too much attention to the lindens I am spending and so i absolutely love dropping surprises on other people. For a few, that seem to feel guilty or indebted at accepting something from me, I have used an alt to drop gifts or L$ so that they do not feel obliged to return it or make a fuss.

On the topic of the OP, when I was involved in my first long term SL relationship, we did share the cost of the land and we each provided furnishings for the house. When we split up, he paid me for half the land at the going rate.

Entering my 4th year with Hal as my partner.

When I was partnered I paid my partners Premium , because I wanted to and wanted the tier for the group land. Lots of gifts and stuff in SL . the prem member gave her an allowance as well. But it was because I wanted to not because she thought I should. the relation ship was in RL as well, and although dissolved now, I have no regrets . I like to share what I can including with Friends

You sound wickedly brill. (That is a compliment, if you not sure).

Mine and I work as a DJ & host/ess pair and have access to some land. (I am building their castle and will maintain it, the exchange is hosted prims and shared group ownership.)
I split all the tips I get down the middle or balance them if we get different ones. I also split our pay evenly. This normally means that they have more as I cover the cost of the stream.

I just feel that is right and part of a -partnership-, everything equal.

If *I* want something, then I pay for it.
If *he* wants something, he pays for it.
If *we* want something, then we negotiate.

That's assuming we can't find the "something" for free or figure out how to make it!

We also help each other, and sometimes friends, as needed when the L$ ebb and flow; this is considered a gift and we don't keep a tally.

my partner and i have been together a little over a year. we split the rent with me paying a slight bit more. i do very little shopping for myself because i just dont care that much about fancy new stuff very often, but on the occasional times we do see something i like or that she just feels like surprising me she pays or helps pay for it. she on the other hand buys something new just about every other day and even though she is financially much better off than i am i still like to sometimes get her something with my money instead of hers, just because i like to.

i agree with you Jig about there shouldn't be 'something for nothing' and i think that no one really ever does give 'something for nothing' even if they want to believe they do and want others to see it that way; the something they get may be how they feel by giving, instead of some material gain, but it still isn't for 'nothing'.

I do everything with other people's money in RL and SL. It's more fun that way. (^_^)y

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I don't think finances and SL partnership have anything to do with each other. It boils down to what works for each couple. One of my good friends in SL owned land and ran a business for quite a while with his partner.....I'm pretty sure they both contributed to the finances. But when they split just recently.....they had to sell everything. (way too much like RL sometimes) But I think this is an extremely personal issue and one that is best decided on a 'per case' basis. I've had a roommate in SL who gave me L's to help pay our tier. He was not a partner by any stretch of the imagination....but we both had a very strong sense of fairness about things and he insisted since I had the rental in my name, that he would pay me. It worked out fine.

The only time this is going to be an issue is if two people have very different expectations & ideas about how they should handle their SL finances....in which case, it seems likely a partnership wouldn't be in the cards anyway. But no, I don't think there is any sort of given rule here.......I think people need to proceed with caution and do what feels right to them. Personally...I think bringing money into a cyber relationship on any level only further complicates it. Generosity is one thing.....but planning a virtual life down to the dollars and cents just sort of sends little red flags up everywhere in my psyche. I would have a very hard time with it. (but, I don't partner anyway so mine is not likely to be the popular opinion)

Well heck I didn't know that. I tipped the 2 of you differently because of the extra work I knew that you did. /me makes note to advise Rock to get his partner/manager a tip jar. It's a nice/good idea.

Just don't go there. There's far too much drama involved.

Partnerships mean different things to different people. There are as many different ways to arrange a partnership as there are couples. People in SL also have vastly different RL financial situations that affect how much they can spend, or want to spend, on their SL. That is a very deeply personal matter and one to be worked out between partners in a way that makes each of them comfortable.

My sl husband is a sweet man. It is His property that W/we live on, He had it before I met Him, He also pays all of the tier. But then He is a prim whore so I never really asked about helping Him. If He needed my help He knows that I would in a heartbeat. Besides if I paid part of His tier, He might feel quilty about tossing my ass out when He gets upset with me. He is a manly man.

I think each person contributes in their own way. There are many ways to contribute other then money.