Feeling A Little Lost

After recently parting company, and completely losing my SL best friend, to a RP that I simply didn't fit into, I am feeling more than a little lost and lonely in this Virtual World. I've been in world for a while, but with this recent parting, I feel like I'm starting out all over again, as all our friends were mutual.

I've been to various clubs and places and had great times, meeting new people, etc, but just wondered if there are any nice places to meet, chat, and make friends, with people?...I'm not talking about for that 'one' thing either! lol!

I found a SIM I really enjoyed, but it's now always empty when I turn up and timezones are a pain. I'm in the UK (8hours in front of PST) and lots of places I attend are very un-populated when I log on. Maybe I'm doing something wrong, but just thought I'd post here and ask, if anyone knows of any really nice and welcoming places to meet and talk with people.

Thanks in advance!

I read your post and feel empathy for you. I'm not sure if this is a proper response in this Forum, but here goes. If its not, I'm sure someone will yell at me or remove it or something. I am a hostess at a Country Western night club called The Lone Star Saloon in Heartland. Its a great place filled with warm, friendly people. It is niether a sex palce or apick up joint. In fact, it seems like mostly couples. I am single but its nice to go to a place withnice people and not get asked "Let's f**k" every five minutes. It may not be a good fit for your time zone and youmay not like Country Western music, but its an idea.

I have fun there and am always among friends.

Thank you so much!

That is exactly the response I need!

I shall check it out. I like all sorts of things, as long as its peace loving, and music, as for most people, is very close to my heart.

Any more suggestions... the more the better.... you can never have to many friends !!!

I recommend the Blarney Stone Pub, in the Dublin Sim. It generally runs according to UK time..and it gets pretty lively. Nice people, good music, some live events.

I can vouch for "Sooz", she's the best.

Awww, Pansy...thanks. I want to try the Blarney Stone Pub in Dublin now. It sounds fun, but I am concerned about time zone differences. I am on the West Coast of the USA. The times I am usually on would be the very wee hours of the morning in Ireland and the UK. Sounds like its worth it though.

The crowd at Sukka Mire are a fun bunch, mainly European, and they have the biggest and best beach in SL.

Rock

Been there, done that (so to speak). The worst thing you could do is to try to make up for the loss and bring back the "good old times" just with different people.

I mean, don't be in a hurry. Go around, visit places but don't have any expectations. If you just have fun (it can be possible) and you're open with people (give them a chance to get to know you), you will be fine sooner than you think

Worked for me.

I attended a wedding there once. Can't really vouch for activity, but i sure had a blast while there.

As for the subject at hand, the only problem i really see is that everybody is looking for something different. Personally, i refuse 80% of the offers to engage in sexual poseballs yet i have met the vast majority of my friend's in orgy sims or strip clubs - either from trying to fit in during an event, or from talking to the people who appear to be ready to break out in giggles every time a new player walks in with 14-foot genetalia. Other potentially unobvious places i've met new friends are game locations, and sandboxes.

My grandfather once said to me in first life, sometimes the most geniune person in the room will be the one shadowed in the corner. You just have to know what to look for.

Try the Mowry Bay Yacht CLub. They're a great group of folks. Lotsa gab time. hehe
Also boat races, live music, dancing, and Lehua's Hawaiin strytelling! See ya there!

Try posting in: http://www.slprofiles.com/secondlifeprofiles.asp

It's like MySpace for SL.

This is probably off topic, but the original post got so many INTELLIGENT and helpful replies, I thought I would at least broaden the inquiry. Where does a nice lady who is NOT interested in working as an escort, stripper, or sex club employee find decent guys for dancing, conversation and maybe, just maybe a nice, fun, wholesome romance? I've visited some nice places, but everywhere I tend to like are either couple oriented or over populated with females. I read somewhere that the population of SL is 75% [apparant] female...is this true?

I can't vouch for the numbers...but from what I've seen and experienced I would say that's a fair estimation at the least.

As to where to go to meet a decent fella? Geeze. I honestly don't know. I do know of some really nice clubs/venues/etc....but they seem to be mostly set up for those who already have someone. I suppose one thing to try would be to attend building and scripting classes. Usually a bloke or two about there. And even if not...at least you start picking up skills.

Failing that, as was mentioned previously, game locations (Slingo, Pizza, Greedy, etc) are also great places to meet people from all areas, time zones, and walks of life. There's a game area in Hubbard I used to frquent, and IceDragon's Playpen is always packed (if a weeeeee bit laggy ). Hmmm....there may even been a group or two in SL for people looking for friends.

Again...failing that....Roleplay areas are another slice of second life one can explore looking to meet like minded people. Doesn't even have to be anything fantastic or science fiction based....but it never hurts to peek. Walk about a Star Fleet or Star Wars sim, or slap on a visitor tag and check out one of the Urban Rps like Midian City. Heck...there's even a few High School based Rps....the first one springing to mind being Kindly High School.

Oh...and go to clubs you normally wouldn't. I find just because a persons style and taste in music differs from your own, doesn't mean they still can't become a good close friend. Slip into a goth club or a country and western venue. My In-Game sister, who was a total fashion diva, settled down and got married after somehow finding herway into a Punker sim.

There really are a ton of ways and places to meet people. Just takes a little patience and some lateral thinking.

Joseph,

Those were great suggestions! THANK YOU! I feel a bit foolish now because like somany good ideas, they seem patently obvious in retrospect, although they sure weren't obvious to me when I posted the query. You're right - I'm not going to run into too many available guys at places that are geared toward couples or females. One of my jobs is Hostessing at a Country Western night club that seems to attract mostly couples. The few available guys tend to go forthe "hotties" so I have little chance there. My other job, which I will actually start this weekend is at a high end clothing store as a greeter/salesgirl/model. Although the store carries mens' clothes too, guys just don't do as much shopping as woman do. So, good advice there. I probably won't meet any guys at either job. I will explore some venues that I would not normally go to, sort of broadening my horizons so to speak.

I REALLY like your idea about attending some scripting/building classes. I am TOTALLY clueless on both skills and I might learn something which could be really useful !!

Thank you once again for your very thoughtful and nice response. Its appreciated.

Susanne

To the OP's question, I heartily agree with the Blarney Stone....and it rocks during US time as well! Fridays from 7:00 - 9:00 SL time are always fun, as is the blues music on Mondays at approx. the same time.

Three Lions Pub is also good - another UK timezone friendly place.

As for classy, romantic places, you simply can't beat the Blue Note or the Red Velvet. Both feature great music and ballroom-style dancing.

And if you ever need a guy to dance with in any of these places......gimme a shout!

Rukos,

Thank you for the good advice. I will check those places out. I am in Pacific [west coast U.S.A.] time zone. I'll look for when I get home from work and have some recreational time! I will shout! Thanks again for the advice. One good thing about SL is we're all good dancers!

Susanne

Other clubs with a nice atmposhere and great music would be...

The Red Room - Highly recommended and usually quiet, so you don't have to worry about griefers or guys walking in with their "Hey...nice shoes...wanna #$^#" attitudes

Phat Cat's Jazz Lounge - Another really great place. Fills up quickly and stays full, but a nice outdoor venue with nice people and smooth jazz. (Avoid if single...you'll want to hang yourself )

Plaisir d'Amour - Jazz/Swing, Blues, Motown, R&B, Classic Rock, 70's, 80's and Funk nights, Country and Western...something for everybody.