SL Wedding Protocol

On 18th Jan 07, my SL man, proposed to me, rather romantically. We immediately had our names added to our partner boxes. A few days later, we decided to do something to celebrate, and that we can invite friends to.

We have a virtually non-exsistant budget, so options are extremely limited.

We are hoping to hold it in the place where we first met, and so far have organized friends,
decided on the place (awaiting the owner to come back to us) and have gathered various of the free foods and drinks around (remember we have very little L's!), though not sure how the whole, dispensing of those happens either! lol

I am also trying to organise some of his favorite RL tunes to be played, but the likelihood is that we will end up telling guests to turn simply the radio on, and dance! lol!

My question is really.... is there any rules in regards to length of exchange of words ? and party?, and general goings on? We really just wanted a friend to run the service, and say a few words, and nothing is going to be taken seriously...we just want it to be fun for all involved, and then everybody head off to the party.

Having never been to an SL wedding - I am clueless, and simply cannot afford one of the many planners on SL...and also, we kinda just wanted it low key and CHEAP! lol

Any suggestions on what is vital for an SL wedding ? Or is what I've got, enough to go on?

Many thanks for your time.

Congratulations There are no rules for SL weddings...at all. Some want the big, fancy celebrations with 40 people; some want to rent a gazebo and have only the two getting married. I would say the only rule is to make it about the two of you...oh and if you're going to have a lot of people, tell people to turn their bling off and go easy on the prim hair

I am marrying my SL partner (and RL love) next week. You're welcome to come over and check out our ceremony I think it will be fairly small but the detail that went into it was quite a long process. We have been engaged for 2 months Let me know and I can drop you an invite with all the details

Congratulations. I've only been to a few sl weddings, and both were pretty big affairs. But just like in RL, you do what you want to do.. it's the day for you 2, no one else.

I agree with Gillian, if you're having a lot of people, even if the ceremony is short and sweet, ask the ladies not to wear flexi dresses... yes they are beautiful and all, but they cause a lot of lag and will very possibily bring the sim down if you have 40+ people there. You can find a lot of really nice gowns that have no prims, you just have to search for them. Yes, go easy on all the bling too. The best thing I think would to have a beach party.. then everyone is in bathing suits... no bling.

Anyway, good luck, and I hope everything turns out for you.

If your location falls through, I've always allowed people to marry for free at the SL Botanical Gardens....

Isablan - what a lovely area the Garden is. I actually got engaged there We visit often. Thanks for providing that to the community.

Thank you, Gillian. The Gardens are moving to a full sim (currently under construction) in March - the name of the sim is The Botanical Gardens (but it's only about 1/2 completed, so wait to visit...)

ooooooo can't wait

Jinny,

Congratulations! I have a little bit of experience helping plan SL weddings. Feel free to IM me anytime and I will give you a hand. And like everybody before me said, your SL wedding, just like your real one, is whatever you want it to be!

K.

663 to 228 says you will wait missy!

Hey Freckles, don't forget my invite! ... not forgotten the cake have you?

Funny you should ask, Bilbo I dropped one on you this morning about 4:00 a.m. PT. It should be there when you log-in

I bumped into a SL lady last night when I was out dancing with some friends. She was married in SL (not RL) and her AV was obviously visually pregnant. She blithely spoke of expecting twins with her SL husband, and it was her second pregnancy. Being the diplomatic type, I nodded and smiled, and didn't ask questions. But it did raise some questions: what the heck was that all about? I can understand partnering at some level (not something I could conceive of for myself, but I understand why people would do so). But the baby thing? Is this a common practice? Or just that particular character's own fantasy fulfillment mechanism?

Just curious, it was an interesting discussion but gave me no real clues.

H.

IM me and I may be able to help out with the music stream for free! Congrats..

I have been wondering about this myself after I came across a birth center of sorts in world. What happens after they are born? Are there 2 more AVs running about? Or do you just get prim babies that never cry, need to be fed or changed? Not something I would be interested in in SL I'd rather shop and be free of responsibility

Great question. I have no answer. I so do not get prim children. At. All. Also, what is with all the talking bellies? "XXXXXX is feeling tired" or "XXXX's baby is resting comfortably" !!!???

I've had a similar experience and when I asked about it in an IM she replied that in RL she was unable to have children so she and her SL husband (also her RL one) decided to have them in SL. Guess that just adds up to the fact that it's your SL.

Btw, congrats on the wedding before this goes totally offtopic.

Mandy C

Well, I have to admit that I understand neither the wedding thing nor the baby thing, but also know that some people like each of those (and so I have been involved in a scripting project regarding a Conception HUD). Basically, for those that choose it, the babies are prim "attachments". They can be made to do a limited number of things, including crying, fussing, and even moving. I have done a little work on creating one that might seem to toddle around (but that project is still in its "infancy" . . .

Just to answer a question or two.

And congrats to all who have found someone with whom they can share this only-somewhat-virtual experiment called Second Life!

Baron H.

@ Mandy - good point. Never thought of that. You're right though...who am I to question someone else's choices within their own Second Lives Thanks for the pov.

>> tw, congrats on the wedding before this goes totally offtopic.<<<

Well, it was sort of tangentially on topic, as she was married in SL!

BTW, no judgement implied at all. SL is the shadow puppet theater of RL wish fulfillment, and the ultimate safety zone for trying out new things buried deep in your psyche. I was mostly concerned with "what happens next? two AVs, instead of one?" -- the mechanics of the thing.

To bump back ON to topic, congratulations on the impending nuptials, and huzzah times three!

V/R
H.