Polyamory

First off I have no idea where to post this thread, so I'll try here, Jeska feel free to move this where it's more fitting.

This is an anouncement of a new Group in SL called ~Polyamory~. If you don't know what that is, here's a brief description:

Polyamory is a relationship style that involves an openness to be being involved with more than one person at the same time. Polyamory is about responsible non-monogamy. Polyamory is not about cheating, or dishonesty. Polyamory pre-supposes that all people involved consent to this arrangement, and are honest about what is going on.

Polyamory is NOT swinging

There is a major distinction to be made between what is called "Swinging" and Polyamory. In swinging, the intent is to engage in non-monogamous sexual behavior without the development of love, affection or personal intimacy between oneself and the secondary partners. Swingers generally seek to engage in recreational sex without emotional intimacy. With polyamory, there is no such restriction, and the intent IS to allow such emotional intimacy to exist, develop, and grow between the people involved.


Borrowed from http://www.polyamory.com/


This post is basicaly just announcing a new group that is centered around the idea of exploring this life style, it's not purely a networking group, or a "dateing" group though I imagaine that is how it will start off. The group will become more of a community, with it's own home, everyone pooling together their skills and rescources at they're own descretion.

Ya I know it sounds kinda hippieish, but this is just one of those things you either just GET or don't.


If you get it and want to be involved send me an IM requesting a group invite.

~Syd~

sounds lovely! youll be hearin from one of my alts

Are there a lot of orgies?

Hmm, well I suppose if the Couple/Couples involved wanted to. But this group isn't "sex" oriented, there are plenty of groups like that already if your looking for that. This group is about the community. I'm sure there will be sex, it's just not the focus.

Thanks for the question.

~Syd~

Love, without attachment or possession. It's like the Jedi Council.

*snort* I love it

Since when do you need to be madly in love with someone in order to have some fun with them?

Since Hollywood.

Hehe, I hope my first comment didn't come off as too snide. Being an alien (or at least alienated), the issues of couplehood, possessiveness, and jealousy have long perplexed me. These seem to be things of the body and reproduction and don't come naturally to me.



Similarly, I've always been frustrated that it seems such a requirement that you have the standard "fun" with someone in order to be madly in love.

On the flip side, it's no use ignorning how people feel. Some people feel neither possessive or jealous, others do. I think it's more a matter of recognizing how you feel, then virtue vs. vice.

Ya, I personally am quite a jealous person. And I like being with one person and so forth. One person's complicated enough I can't imagine juggling two! Or three!

Do you have to be part lesbian or gay?

Consider this. If you are in a threesome, you have three relationships. You and each of the individuals, then the three of you together. It takes first a natural absence of possessiveness/jealousy, good rules, a very high degree of honesty, a lot of materity, good conflict-resolution skills to succeed at this.

An there are all kinds of polyamory. Frankly, with as much time and effort as it takes to be intimate with one person, I don't have the energy anymore for multiples.

No you don't, you don't have to share in your partners affections for they're other partner, nor they for yours, you can have whatever your preferance is.

The only restrictions is what you and your partner make, whats comfortable for you.

Surreal you are very right, Honesty is a must, and this isn't a lifestyle for everyone.

Thanks for all your comments guys.


Any other questions I'll be happy to answer as best I can.

No thank you. Despite my onetime wicked wicked ways (and yes, it's true that I personally deflowered an SL virgin at a cost of L$700 before a dungeon full of cheering onlookers), I have repented of such acts and am now deliriously happy with my dear Sansarya... who is presently out of town and apparently without SL access, which is why I am banging my head on my desk.



P2

pho i thought you told me you wouldnt never tell anyone that is how i lost my sl virginity!

Well geesh, I must have missed the MM article on this

It was all over the now-hidden site, "Snapzilla After Dark"

Heh. This was pre-M2, folks. And no, AFAIK, there's no video, and I ain't namin' names.

P2