friends list glitch

me and a friend are having a little problem. im listed on this person's friends list but i always show up as offline on hers and she doesn't show up on mine anymore, this is a weird glitch cuz it seems to only affect her. and she definately didn't remove me. its just a glitch. we have tried removing all instances of my name and adding again, but to no avail, everytime we try to add each other, my name gets listed more than once on her friends list meanwhile it doesn't show up on mine and the authorization doesn't work that usually happens when people try to add people, nothing happens, she doesn't even get the request. it just doesn't seem to work. and so i show up as offline when im standing right there

The IM system has generally been messed up since they re-implimented it in 1.9.0, and so is the friends list, as a result. Ims often dont appear.. people appear offline when their not, or online when their not. I often get 'this user is offline' messages when they are really online.. it even emails the messages sometimes. Offline ims fail to get stored/emailed more often that I'd like to think, expecially with false the 'online' status problem. I've even had the IM system completley forget to put my name infront of the IMs. I could send annonymous messages to groups or people.. My name wouldn't appear in the im window, and the profile button didn't pop up my profile.. It was interesting, and could certainly be exploited if it happened to the wrong person..

Its messed up, and I think most people are aware of its buggyness by now..