Avatar Graphics Issue

I'm having a problem whenever i try to change clothes or go into appearance mode. When I change outfits, it always cycles through all the other textures nearby before it goes to the clothing texture. This has taken up to 10 minutes before. It also happens when other avatars try to change clothing as well. Appearance mode won't even work for me as every time it's opened, the squares that show you the changes being made are just cycling random textures and not what they should be.
I've tried clearing the cache, and that's not working. I'm at a loss.
I'm using my new laptop, granted it does have an intel graphics card, i don't understand why i'm having this problem. SL works fine on my Desktop.
Is there some settings on my graphics card i need to change? Or in SL? Please help.
Thanks.

What does your desktop use?

intel graphics card = are pretty useless for anything but normal office use.
(not supported by SL either) ~.~

My desktop uses an ATI 9500 Graphics card.
I guess i'll just have to never use the Appearence part and suffer through 10mins of cycling textures.
thanks anyway.