.. Rude Resident....

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Me and a friend of mine was setting up a new shop in a new location minding our own business, and 2 drama queens walked in. ( They are dramatic, *past drama* )

I did not say anything because i know how much these freaks love drama.
I went on about building, they were behind me talking to my friend.

I went to walk a little more, and (he knows that i am pregnant in real life a few months ago...) then i heard *M.T* saying..

"Did wuv have her miscarriage yet?" he and her then began to laugh.

I wanted to say many things back, but i held myself from causing a big scene infront of everyone there.The friend i was with recently had a miscariage, and when she said she had one he said.."CONGRATS".. and then later said he was "Kidding".

As much as i don't like them, i would never wish something bad would happen to their real life family, specially a misscarriage, and this is my first child.He is a shoe designer.. I sometimes comment on him on his past behaviors and actions, but i NEVER commented or judge his personal life.

I later said i was going to report him, he and his "wife" IM saying sorry.
I will not accept their apologies, this was over the top, Who in the world will say such a nasty comment, and they are probably laughing...



- hateful comments
- Not respecting my privacy, (sending private conversation to Notecards and sending it to people with out my permission)
- Cussing in chat
- Disclosing private information ( No one in the area knew i was pregnant)
- Personally offending me in real life and in second life in front of a crowd.


Do you think this behavior is acceptable or should i Abuse Report him?

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Respecting my friends privacy.

The grief of losing a baby through miscarriage can be just as strong and prolonged as with the death of an older child or an adult relative. Sometimes, friends and relatives minimise the loss, as if the baby was less important than one that’s full-term.

It's just not right, though. And joking about that sort of thing is totally uncalled for. Generally, I'd send the AR.

Ack, that's really really really low. I'm glad to see you're taking the high road. If I were you, I'd just mute them both, ban 'em from all the land you own, and keep taking the high road. I'll remind you to give me the same advice next time I'm mad about something!

Take care,

-Flip

Pretty damned inappropriate. I don't know if it's enough for the Lindens to take action, but if you and your friend are really upset you may want to give it a shot and file the AR. The worst that could happen is the Lindens will decide it's not a violation and will do nothing.

Agreed. And filing an AR might help the next time the same av does something borderline.

As someone who generally comes from the 'sticks and stones' school of online interaction, having been a gamer for +10 years on Muds and then FPSes and MMOs, I have to agree that such comments about something not only as personal as that but as hurtful as well are in extremly bad taste. Even considering my personal distaste for violence, thats the kind of comment that fully warrents one a punch in the teeth IRL. Of course, such drama seekers want some sort of reaction, so the best course would most likely be to act as if they were not there, anything else is likely to have the effect of feeding the troll, so to speak.

Not only would I abuse report him for that low, disgusting comment, but I would then break forum rules and post his name. Someone that plays that low and dirty deserves some sort of punishment and consequences for his actions. I despise rudeness and bullying and won't tolerate it, in RL or a virtual world.

That is terrible Wuvme, abuse report him and ban him from everything you own. Some people are just ugly and spiteful. Good luck with your little one they are a lot of fun once they get here

Wow, that's inexcusibly horrible. Take Flip's advice, and also make sure you let them know how hurtful they were.

That is messed up. On the bright side, I didn't know about your wonderful news. So, congrats Wuv on your new baby to be. Best of luck to you

MJ

I really wonder if they would say that face to face or do they find courage to be so mean and rude because they are hiding behind typing.

Anyone who knows the sadness relating to loss of a baby, and I do know all too well, will know how cruel that comment was. Anyone who knows the anxiety a mother to be experiences because she is concerned about her pregnancy would also know how cruel that comment was.

The member who said this, and the other who found it humerous, has to be so immature and just someone you would not want to associate with in SL or RL.

gawd.....that's horrid wuv and i'm sorry you and your friend had to deal with this kinda behaviour. it shows not only poor taste, bad judgement and tremendous immaturity, but also gives an amazing insight into the mentality of some. whether to AR or not is up to you.....i'm never sure how much good that does. but i agree with flip....in the least mute them both and consider the source. *shakes head* if i know the ones in question, and i think i do....i'm not only disappointed but disgusted as well...........NO ONE....no matter if friend or foe.... deserves to be treated with such blatant disrespect and inconsideration.

File the AR. That is a horrible horrible thing to say. If they don't understand that, I'm sorry, but still file the AR.

Wuv,

You have shown what a classy, respecful person you are in your dealings with so many people in SL. I am sickened to hear anyone would say something so hateful to any other person. This is no joke and should be reported to AR. You have taken the high road and out classed these idiots. They need to be taught respect of others and learn that without that respect, they might have these priviledges revoked.

I send you good thoughts!

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