Here's something I wasn't too happy about (partnerships)

Soooo.....

I play around in SecondLife from time to time, and I used to play it a lot with my boyfriend. We made a partnership, blah blah blah, and then we end on a not so good note, where pretty much anything sparks a lot of tension and anger. TELL ME WHO thought it was a good idea to EMAIL him when I ended our partnership, pretty much stating, "GEE YEAH, YOU GUYS AREN'T TOGETHER ANYMORE, HAVE A NICE LIFE."

Why in any circumstance would that be helpful? If they can't figure it out for themselves and it's so dire for them to be emailed as some sort of reminder... then that's just sad. No matter what scenario I can think of, I can only see the "divorced" person being angry/hurt.

So yeah, how about we get rid of that?

Yeah you have a point.

Its totally needless for there to be an email to rub salt in someone's wounds.

The e-mail may be nevessary to confirm the action - but the flippant auto response is horrible. Linden Lab needs to know that real feelings are involved. They need to find a more sensitive way to relay the message.

Since its only 10L for partner and 25L for "divorce" I think it would be worth risking it not having any confirmation other than a website click.

But thats just my view.

Agreed.

I'd like to know what value a "partner" field in one's profile has in the first place.

Well, when someone looking for a good time (at least for him) sees that I'm partnered..I get left alone.

uh ohhh, I have found that men that are partnered have a tendency to play around more than those that are not. I haven't seen many partnerships last very long in SL. It is a very painful experience when you split up no matter how you look at it. I decided that when I first came in that was one thing I was never going to do and haven't. Would rather get married in rl, and have no intentions of ever doing that. No extra laundry!

My boyfriend's back and there's going to be laundry.Do dah, do dah.

I told you I'm sorry. I didn't notice it......

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What about /any/ internet relationship? I haven't seen one last more than a year*. 6 months seems to be the average.

*ok, not strictly true, I know of two that have, maybe three, and in one case the two were able to get together iRL and I think that's why it stuck.

This is off topic, I'm sorry, but had to respond to this, Draco, lest you become too jaded about internet relationships. I met my current RL hubby (and SL partner) in the summer of 2000 in a yahoo chat room. He lived in England, me in the US. We continued that virtual relationship (well, it became a telephone relationship, too...lol) until we met face-to-face in January of 2001 when he came to visit. Decided that we clicked as much in person as in the internet world and decided to start proceedings for him to most to the US. We did that through a request for a fiance VISA, but 9/11 turned that into a long, drawn-out and extremely expensive undertaking. However, through it all, we stuck with it while maintaining our long distance relationship. Fast Forward to now, and we've been happily married for a little over 5 years. I can't say it's always been easy, but it's getting easier everyday. We have a son together, and I have a daughter from a prior relationship. It is possible, just doesn't happen very often because, unfortunately, sometimes the relationship is superficial to begin with, or someone is being dishonest. Not extolling the virtues of my relationship, exactly, just sayin'.
As for e-mails from LL dissolving a partnership, I never even realized they did that. Does seem kind of callous, really and I'm sure there's a more "diplomatic" way to get that point across.

I know a couple thats been together online only - for 4 years now.

But yeah its super rare.

Usually becuase one or the other partner wants things to go RL , or otherwise wants a RL relationship at some point (with someone)

Id say 6 months is far from average - 6 months is actually on the Long side.

I always say most SL relationships are one night stands that last a month.

I think most online relationships last between one and three months.

I never said it didn't happen and you did go through the one method I mentioned that solidiffies the relationship.



I agree.

;o) Yes, you did, and I did notice and appreciate that. You were right in one respect though, most aren't normally longlasting. I'm sure my hubby and I are somewhat of an exception. I've noticed that SL relationships tend to come and go pretty quickly. While reading profiles, I see many who give a date they met, and a week later they get married. A month later they are divorced. When my husband and I talk about something happening a couple of weeks ago in SL, we say "it's been a couple years since we spoke to that person, etc." SL time does move faster than RL time in that way.

EXCELLENT QUESTION

I would like to point out the futility of this as well.
If i were wearing my tinfoil hat today i'd say:
to make LL more money- first off it costs to do this, second it costs MORE to undo it, it created an entire INDUSTRY and if there were some way they could enforce having to go to a pretend lawyer, therapist or bail bondsman LL might make divorces more fun too.

In my case i point out my business partner alt, and sometimes let it be known in her profile that while "on her" i'm usually busy. Truthfully i see no true legitimacy in partnering... Just another way to benefit off people's human instincts and emotions while claiming to be just giving us what we want :/