Question about removing someone from Friends List

If I remove someone in my friends list that I havent talked to in like forever, do they receive a notice that they,ve been removed? I would rather them not, as it may seem a bit rude to get a notice saying you are no longer someones friend


Allysa
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They do not get a notice, unless you actually send them an IM manually.

((had two people remove me recently, one sent IM - much prefered getting that IM than just suddenly realizing . . ))

No, they do not receive a notice. They are gone from your list and you are gone from their list. The person certainly might notice that you no longer appear on their list, but there is no notice.

Even with this, once a person has your calling card (via making them a friend or passing the calling card) you can not take it back. If you delete the friend he/she will still have your calling card, and may look it up in inventory to see if you are online

Just a thought -

Its generally not a good idea to remove someone from your friends list and then put something hurtful to them up in your profile on the same day.

OK, thnx

^ This is true!

If you are removing someone you've not spoken to for way too long, then just remove them. If it's someone you spoke to recently (ie some noob you helped last week and they asked to be friends and you just accepted without thinking) then maybe a quick IM would be the civilised thing.

If it's someone you've had a ruck with then think twice before removing as you could make up again

Its a tricky subject. Perhaps if both feel the same way its a good thing to just part silently without any akwardness but personaly id allways like to know when someone is removing me. I mean my list isnt huge. Id notice it anyway but geez if it seemed like a good idea to have someone on the list at the first place then saying bye would seem appropirate too.

Saying goodbye is always a useful litmus, even if the intent really is to say goodbye. I've had people do that and I've either said goodbye back and wished them well - or if I cared enough about them I've found out WHY they said goodbye.

But no - they don't get notification if you do that. If there's people you'd rather avoid then it's probably better and more honest to remove them than to put yourself as appearing offline to them (this is not a practice I personally do).

My list is HUGE! If I have not seen the person, IMd, bought from, chatted, or we no longer hang out in the same place, they are gone. I typically prune my list once a week or so.

I did remove someone from my list who eventually, months later, asked me why and offered me friendship again. I simply stated that if he did not notice that I was off his list until months later, then why be my friend?

Jezabell, I think your scenario describes it best. I don't have a giant friends list, maybe 30 peeps. But there are only a few that I just dont talk to, hang out with, or interact with in anyway. I actually thought it would appear more rude for them to see a sudden notice that someone no longer wishes to be their friend, than it would to just silently disappear from their list. They obviously arent going to notice I am gone if they havent talked to me in months.

Allysa
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I'm also with Jezabell. I have a huge list too, and people offer friendship just because I've dealt with them in a friendly way. I don't want it, but I accept so as not to offend them, but with the full intention of removing them in a little while. Once in a while we really do become friends, which is nice

I wish you could order your friends list and even more so that you could selectively say who you want to track online/offline. Esp as it makes your inventory scroll ... not so bad when it IS a friend, less impressive when it's someone who you were being polite to three weeks ago.