Friends Can Find Me? Privacy Settings Help

It's sounding like if I add-a-friend to my list that I am sacrificing my privacy????
I'm told they can just teleport in to wherever I am without notice or permission. That's crazy. What can I do to insure this won't happen? Are there privacy settings for this? I've looked for the answer everywhere and no luck so I'd be very grateful for assistance with this.

Thank you!

Open your friends list. You can uncheck each person's ability to see you online, see you on the map or edit your objects.

Hi Caprica! Welcome to the forums!

What Raymond said, and also, persistent people will still be able to see if your online through the groups you belong to... Just keep that in mind.

Groups dont have to be displayed in your profile..if that helps..if your friends belong to the same group as you..that might not help.

~Lana Tomba

At it's best, your friends list is the best way to stay in contact with the people you want to be closest to.. I go out of my way to make sure some of my friends have map access to me. (^_^)

At it's worst, it's a net-stalkers best friend. Your log ins and log outs are popped up on their screens and give instant notice to when they can IM you with no more than 2 clicks and start bugging you right away. (<.<

Since I'm the stalker type, I have a very short friends list. (^_^)y Now.... about how many mute lists I'm on..... (=_=)

stop befriending stalkers.


always good advice.


back before you could turn off mapping, many people had an automatically defriend policy for mappers.

Thanks, guys.

You've set my nerves to mode: ease

I went in and checked-only the ability to see my online status was activated.

I really won't mind them knowing I'm on line most of the time. But the rest of the options?...no specific plans but I'm interested in learning about many things...and not necessarily in tandem with any (one) other person(s). But I'm sure I don't really have to explain that in here........(o;

Appreciate you responding so quickly!

(wish there were emoticons to post)

~~Caprica M............(o:

Just for completeness: Even a non-friend can determine another's online status with a pretty simple and common script; you can see a version of it at work in some stores with "online status indicators" for the owners.

(At the moment, strangers can also use a script to tell where you go, one TP away from a region where you're both together--but that's a glitch, and will go away in an upcoming release.)

***How to be hard to find in Second Life***
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***Do not have any groups that show on your profile.****

It is a simple matter to find you at group functions through the other members of the groups/ the name of the group / and the groups land.

***Do not set up your picks at home!***

Use some neutral area where no one you know goes. The "teleport" function on your picks will allow them to go wherever you set up your picks.

***Never use a pick promoting anywhere you hang out of regularly shop at.***

You are basically telling them places you like to go.

***Never use people's full name's in your picks.***

Its too easy to simply go to their profile and search their groups and picks.

***Do not let your friends assign their picks at your home***

Check out the profile picks of the friends you spend the most time with and make sure they haven't

***Do not list interests that relate to SL activities anywhere in your profile***

For example, if you are into Star Wars - don't list it. Peoplw trying to find you can troll the Star Wars Sims.

***Never leave a prim you have assigned to any group rezzed anywhere but home***

They can simply go to that group and find the location of its activities.

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Of course this is a pretty paranoid approach to SLife. But it does make it much harder to find you.

Ohh I left out !!!

For the love of Phil,


OPT OUT OF SHEEPBOT!!!

You also left out:

***Don't log in at all***

No one from SL will ever find you flopped out on the couch watching reruns of Law & Order SVU.

You'd think that.

OF course I know a Gal who stopped logging in for a week and next thing she knew her SL boyfriend calls her cell phone .. from a hotel halfway on his way to go see what was wrong with her IRL.

Can I be your friend again, I didn't mean to map you all those times.

only if you stop baking cakes all the time.

Oh, Grrrreat! Are TPTB planning to fix this? Please tell me they are. Well...thanks for the heads up.

Merci! There is so much to know!

What is SHEEPBOT?

My mouth is still hanging open...That is NUTS. And scary...did he find her?? She gave him her address? Or did he skulk it out on his own somehow??

Most simple way to see if someone is online is to take a look at her/his profile. If the "Offer teleport"-option is available, then the person is online.

And I have indeed seen tool at work who tell exactly if someone is online or not, no matter the status of that person in a friendlist... ergo, the person doesn't have to be on the friendlist at all.

My conclusion is already for a long time... If someone really wants to know if you are online, she/he will find out very easily.

Morwen.

Yep, much to my annoyance I had a couple of friends that use scripted devices to track whenever I came online. They justified using the devices by saying that their Friends list is often broke and so they switched to other means for tracking people.

I've now given up on having friends in SL. Privacy problem solved.

Depending on the nature of the relationship it's not nuts at all. If my SL partner didn't log on for a week without warning, I'd be on a plane trying to find out what had happened, if I couldn't find out by phoning her, or from other residents who also know her in RL and are geographically close to her. But, our relationship has gone beyond SL, and in the long run we have every intention of living together in RL. I certainly wouldn't do the same for someone I hadn't met in RL.

if you do not want to be found do not reply to instant messages or give inventory to those who you wish to hide from.

the instant message packet also sends the sim you are in as well as your location in that sim.

while this is not visable in the normal viewer, it is trival to find out with slproxy or a modified client.


Muhahahahahahha

Isn't it just simpler to do a search for that person, pull up their profile and see if "offer TP" or "send IM" are active? If those aren't greyed out, you can pretty much assume they're online.

B.

Depends whether or not you want a notification when they come online. (Also, I'm not sure, but I think those buttons aren't supposed to be available if the person selects a preference somewhere for hiding their online status except to friends--which admittedly doesn't mean that they aren't available anyway. But I sure think I've encountered an inability to TP somebody who's online unless I had Admin Options enabled and used the "God summon" trick.)

And this is the point I think. That situation makes sense, justifies a track down (only my opinion).

But I guess I feel that if I somehow see a random friend is online in spite of certain privacy settings they must have a good reason. So the idea of people digging for this info heavily suggests a lack of respect. And maybe something worse, actually (and I saw some of the official SL warnings along these lines today). As it would be obsessive behavior if not something like the situation Mr. Wulfric posted. Because it is clear they want to be left alone or are engaged in an activity they rather not divulge. I mean, maybe they don't want us to know they like going to clubs that play Barry Manilow tunes(no disrespect to Barry intended)...