Meeting New People

I have been in SL for a few weeks now, and I'm getting the hang of how things work. But I seem to be having a hard time meeting people. Whenever I go to a club, event, etc, I have a hard time getting people to chat with me or respond to my chatting. Does anybody have tips on how to meet interesting new people? Or look me up if you want to chat.

I think clubs are not ideal to make friendships since probably the only thing in common between you and others there is the fact that you all want to meet others and nothing else. I suggest you join a group that caters to individuals with the same interests as you (i.e., sailing, goth, scripting, building, shopping, etc.). You can then attend one of their social events if they offer one, or propose to host an event yourself.

Avoid nightclubs like the plague, those are places where people look for virtual sex, they lag like HELL (Oh look flashy lights and nice effe- OMG MY COMP IS FREEZING UP!), people spam gestures like retarted monkeys (literally, /howl gestures 15 times a row), they only like to talk to their own social circle (which makes it hard to talk to them) and did I mention they are looking for VIRTUAL SEX which is the saddest thing in the world?

If you want to meet up people, join groups designed for new people and introduce yourself. Join a group that fits you or your personality, like if you're into Rock, Metal or so such. Start a conversation in the group IM and be nice and who knows, you might get IMs.

Well Micky I just looked at your profile and you have nothing in it! That's the start of your problem. Get it filled in with some basic info. on your SL role, try to put something on all pages or most, for Real Life don't leave blank at least say Private.
I hardly ever speak to people with no Profile info.
Read a few peoples to get ideas, keep amending it and keep up to date.
I go all over even to places that others here have said no one will chat, well I chat every where I have no problems, and no I'm not doing sex at the drop of a hat.

When in world next read the profiles, find someone interesting and say Hello, don't allways wait for another to start, most people you should find will chat, come back and advise us.
Best wishes
Love
June

Go into the SEARCH tab > Groups, then type in any keywords that are interests you have. You should be able to find quite a few interesting groups to look at. Remember that if you decide to join any, you don't have to stay with them if you discover it isn't for you. Just go into your Communicate window, click on the Groups tab, scroll down to that group,click on it, then click on Leave.

Have you been involved with any charity or non/not profit groups in RL? They may have a presence in-world. Or you could look into bringing your favorite charity in, that will certainly keep you busy and you'll meet other avatars too.

You can look at the Events tab in SEARCH for Support/Charity, go to some of the events and see what they are about. Volunteering is a great way to meet people, have some fun and help others at the same time.

You might want to consider helping out at one of the NCI Centers. Being a new resident yourself makes you perfect for explaining how things work in-world to confused newbies. Especially that being naked isn't a good idea except in certain places. You'd make lots of new friends just by explaining how to get clothing on, open boxes, what 'rez/rezzing' mean, the list goes on. Give it a try and I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.

Hi Micky,

Welcome~!! Definitely put something in your profile...it really helps. Folks will tend to be a bit wary of others who have nothing in their profile...I guess it's just human nature but it also helps to open up a topic of conversation if you've got something interesting in your profile...even a favorite quote....it doesn't need to be personal info.....just anything that expresses your personality.

Also......I agree clubs can be a bit rough just for meeting new folks (lots of cliques) but one of my fave. places to just hang out with cool folks is October Country. The folks there are extremely cool and friendly. There's a campfire where people just sit around and listen to old horror stories radio shows that the owner streams in the sim.....this happens every night. Also, Saturday nights they usually have a theme party on the docks in town and they welcome new comers. One of the best bunch of folks I've encountered in SL (aside from the forum gang!) And of course, the Forum hang out in world is a great spot for socializing!

some great ideas there but u should really put something in your profile.. i usually dont talk to those that dont have a profile.. cause i think they are just created clones or bots. one thing that sux is getting to know someones bot and then it up and disappears on u cause they decide not to use it anymore

When I go to clubs I just join in the conversation with a few well-placed wisecracks and sometimes I get a couple of LOLs or a . I think in clubs you just have to wade in, fitting into the conversation unless it's obviously just dialogue between two people.

I found my fav places when i was new by going into the events search and going to discussions. At least there people are talking...LOL

Good advice so far, Micky...

In addition to writing a nice Profile for yourself, and looking for groups of folks that share your interests, also check out the in world group of the regular posters here. It's called The Forum Cartel, and anyone's free to join, or just drop by the in-world hangout and dance or chat.

We're a friendly, chatty bunch who like meeting new folks.

I got to a couple different clubs in SL that are actually fun and people do talk,not just gesture spam. I guess it depends on the place and people.... I second the hangout.Though I haven't been there much myself lately. Very friendly welcoming place where you can almost always find people to meet.

Hi Micky,

Welcome to SL!

There's a pool party this Sunday at 4 pm SLT. It's kind of like an open house; people come and go...

There is a pool w/a diving board, a hot tub and a dance floor with a fabulous DJ. There will likely be lots of fun folks to chat with!

You are more than welcome to join us there. I can send you the LM for it when I get inworld tonight (or if someone who has it is inworld now, they can do so...).