Another post just to vent

I know secondlife has been laggy for some time now..well at least for me. But for god sakes people if you are not rezzed completely yet and you start walking, you tend to bump into people. I personally get annoyed with this especially when people do not at least say sorry or something. Today it happened when a bunch of people were crowding a store for fifty linden fridays. I told the girl nicely to please watch where she was going and all I get is a oh I did not see you...no im sorry or excuse me....how rude. I must be PMSing because today I am extremely irritated and to top it off sl is really crappy right now.

My rant for today....grrrrr

what you dont understand is you can make tremendous headway in that short period of time before rezzing starts and your bogged down. If your really good you can sprint 1/2 a store length.

either way, I doubt you bruise. its not real life.

The reason I take a few steps before I have time to rezz is to keep new people from arriving on my head.

If you step a bit out of the teleport area as soon as possible your less likely to get jostled. In a crushing crowd, I guess there is no way to completely avoid it.

If I TP in to a busy area that is slow rezzing, I immediately fly up a bit and then fly a bit away from the TP landing spot -- and I always have my mini map up and zoomed somewhat close so I know where others are.

Like RL, common courtesy can sometimes be hard to find.

I do understand it, I have done it a few times myself...but its the principal of being polite, which seems to be non-existant. Since when did having manners become obsolete.

I agree with just moving out of the way a bit so others can land, but to walk all the way through the store and then not say excuse me or something...were people raised on farms.

Jostling is bad, but it's hardly a reason to get angry.

As you, and the person who bumped you, pointed out, she couldn't see you yet. And yes, moving off the arrival point is a good idea, to make room for other arrivals.

Even when you ARE seen, it can be hard to keep from bumping occasionally. The avatar controls aren't all that precise.

Getting bumped by mistake is simply a fact of Second Life. Chill out...here's a macadamia nut cookie.

Yes, I do apologize when I bump even if it was unavoidable. Your right a simple sorry would have made thing a bit nicer.

no I do know that bumping is inevitable in crowded places...all im asking is for a sorry or something, in real if i bumped into someone I would say im sorry, why should sl be any different. Leaving your manners at the login screen is hardly acceptable to me. As I said this is just my rant post, normally I will just let it go, today im just annoyed.

Better yet, here's a shot of hennessy.

If they can't see 'em and no one speaks up, one will never know they've bumped into someone. Kinda silly to say sorry to thin air.

But if someone speaks up or can be seen, there is no excuse to not use your manners. Unfortunately, I've noticed less of a trend to say, "Excuse me," when people bump in RL, let alone in SL.. Good manners, like common sense, are becoming extinct.

I dont blame you. It seems manners are left outside of the screen. Maybe people who are so repressed in real or are so subservient in job or personality can express rudeness here. I had a person the other day seem to take delight in being as rude as she liked. I just logged off to avoid any confrontation. It costs me nothing and I get on with real work and sl loses out on my time in sl spending money.

It is silly I know, but here is my remedy to those grumpy days. Find somewhere I find beautiful in SL and sit on a meditation cushion. It helps if it has lovely music too. Strange how virtual meditation can work. I find myself slipping into mediative breathing and feelings using it.

Yes; usually I press "Fly" before I TP anywhere. (Once in a while this launches me a hundred feet or so on arrival; never investigated, but I'd guess that's bouncing off a landing point set a little too low.)

It is odd how other avatars at a destination rez in. I often see most of the building textures fully rezzed but still not even a cloud where the mini-map's green dot reveals there will eventually be an avatar. This seems to me somehow different from how it was, say, six months ago.

I do usually apologize if I think I've run over someone inadvertently, but usually i turns out I haven't.

If I get bumped, I figure they couldn't see me in the first place or they wouldn't have run into me, and I let it slide.

If I "see" the person, I always say excuse me. If I don't and someone points it out, I apologize. If someone bumps into me and not say anything, I don't get upset about it. For me, I have enough of other things to get me riled. I do move out the way of the tp landing point as I don't want anyone landing on top of me.

A very dear friend told me long time ago, Sable you get upset because you apply rl values and courtesies in a world that others choose not to. Unfortunately, that is how it is in sl. Once he said that, I let stuff like that go. Now if someone is verbally discourteous to me, then it's "on and poppin" as the kids would say.

Things rez at different speeds for different people - so someone might arrive somewhere thinking all the avatars have rezzed when they haven't.

Also, we have the problem at the moment that sometimes when we start walking we head in a straight line, unable to stop, before springing back to where we were.

I do wish that clubs wouldn't set their TP landing points on the dancefloor, though, that's just asking for trouble!

I often see my avatar before I see others, so the person may well have rezzed and simply not seen you. I've been to plenty of places where someone has sat down on someone else's lap, because the person they sat on had not rezzed, but the rest of the room had.

Also as others have said if you can't see someone you generally don't know you've bumped into someone and when a place is busy it's better to give them the benefit of the doubt.

My whole post was just to express my displeasure at people who know they have bumped me because I have told them and they say nothing, that is my beef, a sorry goes along way with me.

I'm a very polite and considerate person. Even so, I rarely say "I'm sorry" if I bump someone. I will, if there's time. But usually, in the time it takes to put the cursor in the chat window, type a response, and send it, the other av will have moved on...most times out of chat range.

When I do bump into someone accidently, I just quickly say 謝罪は山ヤギを行う and continue on - that why they don't get upset ^_^

Why move away from a landing spot? Some of my most fun relationships have started with a girl sitting on my face.

Pep (Thinks he should move this post to the "How do I meet people?" thread that n00b began.)

If someone bumps you at a landing spot, check their Picks to see if they are saying "Sorry" there.
It might be the OP from the "TOS Notice ( In Picks )" thread.

I wear large, heavy boots. If I bump into people accidentally they rarely survive and if they bump into me I rarely notice.

If I squash them and we are stuck together long enough afterwards, I do say sorry.

Open mini map
Use mouse wheel to zoom in
Avoid green dots as you move out of the landing before some poor avatar gets locked up in flailing mode over your head.
Problem sorted.