How can they see me inworld?

If you uncheck someone on your friends list so they can't see that you are inworld, is there any tool, or website that they can use to show them that you are actually there?

I'm having some issues with one of my friends so instead of having yet another argument this morning I unchecked the box thinking that they would not be able to see that I was there and I could get on with what I was doing in peace. However I received an IM saying that they knew I was there but ignoring them. When I questioned the person about it, they would not tell me how, just that they are able to tell.

How is this possible?

Dog: If you mean the Friends Online page, I checked this out with a friend and if you uncheck yourself inworld you don't appear online on the website either

Thanks Skell, I just wondered if there was any way - now I know!

Yeah I'm working on that Viktoria

Hi LittleMe thnx for the advice, it was just this morning that I wanted some peace to do some work and I couldn't understand how he knew I was online when I had unchecked him

i always pop onto the community part of this forum. It lets me see who of my 'friends' are on-line, then i can choose which av to log-in!

Yes. There are online notifiers (inworld HUDs, not websites) that will show you to be online when a resident adds your name to their personal notifier. Adding names is simply done by a chat command. There is no real way to hide your online presence.

You will still show as online in group member lists, and a tiny script can check even if you don't belong to any groups.

Yeah, forget about hiding. You might just say "sorry, I'm not in the mood to talk now" and temporarily mute so that the words aren't flying, if ignoring the old fashioned way doesn't work for you. But if the association is that volatile, maybe it's one you don't need to maintain?

If they are in any of the same groups as you they may be able to tell from the group members list if you are online. There's an option somewhere that stops your name appearing in the members list.

thanks skell for the correction on the 'friends on line' issue
I didn't know that, 'you have much to learn grasshopper'.
sl friends come and go just delete from your friends list (think you are then
automatically dropped from theirs) and choose to mute.
They can always find you probably through 'search people'
and know u r on-line, but they won't know where u are.
Sometimes when relationships become destructive its best to draw
a line under them and move on. Let them talk to themselves and don't let it bother u.
Skell is right, there is no sure fire why to disable your on-line presence.

I agree that there is no way to hide your in-world status: someone mentioned to me that a giveaway is whether the Offer Teleport button is live on someone's profile: if it is they are in-world.

But I also think that this is a bug in SL: not being able to go invisible just encourages stalkers, and SL is full of these. This really needs to be fixed.

But if you could remain invisible, wouldn't that be of equal benefit to stalkers? They could stalk you without being detected themselves.

I don't think SL is "full" of stalkers - at least I have never had one

The first point is a good one, definitely. (Though just how would they do it??)

On the second: well if i exaggerated it wasn't by too much. There is a lot of anecdotal evidence that relationships that go bad in SL are often followed by cyberstalking, and I've certainly seen some of this first hand. It's a very ugly side of the net. I'm glad that you've been spared.

even if you have "show online" unchecked, your calling card still lights up in inventory when you're on.

Don't know really, never having had a stalker. I'd just imagine it'd be easier if they could lurk around undetected.



Yes, I know it does go on and can be extremely traumatic. Forgive my facetious little joke. It does depend, though, on what you mean by stalking and whether you mean within SL or on the wider net. I know someone who claimed to be being stalked, but it turned out he'd just ended a relationship without actually telling the other person. So the dumpee kept trying to contact him, just trying to find out what had happened, and this guy classed that as stalking. I know there are various scripted devices for remotely monitoring chat and so forth but I think in the majority of cases much drama could be spared just by using the mute button.

If you are talking about stalking that spills out of SL and onto the wider net then that is another matter and is a good argument for not giving out rl information.

This might be a bug - it does not do that on all versions of SL.




ETA - if someone has not said it yet: If you truly want to be left alone, create an alt and/or mute the person you do not want to hear from.