Advice on grief from ex-friends

A bit of an agony aunt type question.

Still very much a newbie (less than 7wks) I struck up a friendship a few weeks back, flattered with the offer. As is often the case with naively made friendships, it appears that we have significantly different points of view, possibly different agendas, which make the friendship fairly pointless in my view. Following a heated exchange last night I recognised that a certain line had been crossed, and terminated the friendship, informing my (ex) friend at the time.

My question is that can this resident ( of far more SL maturity than me) give me grief, since we will inevitably will be sharing the same nightclub, and probably common friends. I have no personal problems with this person, I just want to reserve my friendships to those residents who I feel a special bond of trust and sharing. My experience in non SL chatrooms of damaged friendships is that some people can cause terrible upset through subtle methods, eg forming exlusive cliques etc and spreading awful malicious gossip.

This is my first encounter in SL of someone less than totally friendly and it caught me off balance, hence this post.

Yes.

Welcome to Second Life. Beware the Alt.

If they do, mute them. If they persist, abuse report (AR) them.

Your situation is probably no different that what you'd experience in RL.
People argue, and sometimes they stop being friends. Of course this person COULD cause you grief, but no one here can answer whether he/she will and only you can know what to do about it, IF it happens.
Until then, why agonize?

These are the sorts of replies that I expected and hoped for. What concerned me was if there were techniques unique to SL that could be used to take advantage. Caution is not a bad thing. i will familiarise myself with mute methods and also look at the AR form, just in case.
I have already had experience with alts. outside of SL. These dont give me a problem, since the behaviour is normally a giveaway, and also personality doesnt change really with an alt.

I dont feel threatened, just aware.

Yes, welcome to SL ha ha.

Don't let the one incident color it for you- it really is a great place- even when full of deviants

Righto. Removal fromt the list, delete the calling card, mute them. That should be enough for anyone to get the hint. If not, AR them.

However ... given enough time, perhaps things might cool down. I usually only mute people for a week or two, then unmute them. That way, just in case there's a second thought or an approach for forgiveness, or at least an attempt to "agree to disagree", things can move on again. I have never liked the idea of permanant shove-offs.

Thanks for that amaranthim, I do agree it is absolutely fabulous, and my other friends are totally awesome. Methinks, are you a mind reader or something, I don't recall mentioning deviants !

On a serious note- I find SL sort of self-selected us- we are here and stay because we belong. What sub-genre of SL is not important- the Metaverse holds us all.

On a goofy note, the reference to deviant was about the thread thatisi called something about sl being full of deviants... we have sort of run with it Happens a lot here- go check the Undying Thread- its called just ignore this one and let it die... something we are not real good at- following instructions. Welcome again

Yes the humour in this forum is not wasted on me !

I do not exclude this possibility, to use a topical phrase - 'all options are on the table', although I am aware that we appear to have little in common.

I have never paid any attention to calling cards, should I? The calling card is still in my inventory I guess.

Many may worry 'what may be done to ME!?' and shrink back in fear from the possible perpetrator.

But there is another school of thought that responds thus: "Bring it - and you open the Gateway to a Hades that will put the freak-fantastic into your online experience forever..."

Of course, that's totally the Wrong Approach. However, if the perpetrator is sure they are dealing with a victim type, instead of something else, they won't hesitate a second to harass.

Usually, an avatar with tentacles is all it takes to cast a little doubt... grin

Phnglui mglwnafh Cthulhu Rlyeh wgahnagl Ftagn!