RL interrupting SL love

Hey i hope someone has been thru something similar to what me and my sl love will be goin thru over the next few days. Christmas is coming up and i must go away to spend some time with my mom and my sl love will be working over the christmas break. We have been together 5 weeks now and our love is growing stronger as time goes on. We have taken our love into rl with phone converstaions, text and email. We spend everyday ono SL together and do everything together. When we're online we can be just chatting for 8 hours and it is so intense. We are both worried about the holiday break and scared of lsoing what we have. We are both in differnt countries (me australia, her uk) so when she is working i cannot see her at all. The time zones just dont permit it. She doesnt normally work as shes a student but has casual work over christmas.

So anyway this will be the first time we're apart and i know it will be a test of our love. We both desperately hope it works out for us both. Any advice guys???

Much appreciated
Annisha *smiles sadly*

take one day at a time, be prepared for anything

and most of all, enjoy your holiday with your mom, and if it is meant to be with your SL partner the love will still be strong when you both return

congrats on the 5 weeks.

I have the same situation, he is in one country 6 hours difference.... a few days is not that big of a deal and if you use text messaging e mail etc.... I don't see the problem....

You dont have to see someone everyday to keep your love alive. If its true love... it will be there no matter what. right?

What would happen if suddenly Sl was gone? If you are in fact in love.. what ever obstacles life send you you shall overcome..

I would not worry to much about it. Things will be ok I'm sure.. ; )

just imagine how much you will have to talk about when you both are able to be together!!

I totally empathize. The person that I am closest to is away for a few days visiting family without internet service. It is painful to not be able to be together on SL or in IM. We have a 6 hour difference (me in US central, her in UK) too. We have been e-mailing via her phone but it is not the same.
I think that the biggest thing to focus on is that if what the two of you are feeling is real - you will find a way and your love will make it thru. Try to set aside some prearranged phone time. And e-mail as time permits just to let one another know that you are thinking of each other.
I am not going to lie, it is tough. Even if it is just 4 days This is a good test of the strength of your love for eachother. Try to stay positive!
Kate

Five weeks? Sweety....if what has taken place in only 5 weeks between you two is any kind of genuine connection.....then a few days....hell a couple weeks away from SL isn't going change a thing. And if it DOES change it.... then it wasn't what you though it was to begin with.
That's how love...in any context.....either evolves or disolves. Don't stress it.....enjoy your RL and your holiday.....if this thing you two have started is all that..... then you both should be encouraging each other and embracing real life....you are, after all, two human beings behind those avatars. And....if this turns into something that evolves to real life....then, well....real life will suddenly become awfully important wont it.
Relax....have a wonderful holiday~!!

If a week or two apart is enough to lose what you have,then I reckon you didn't have much to begin with.

My partner and I are on different continents aswell, and our time apart was crappy but sheesh, getting together again was the more sweeter.

I don't have an SL relationship, but in RL I am married.

When we were first married we had a honeymoon and a blissful month spending every night (both working during the day). Then he had a one week work trip. After spending every night with him for about 10 weeks I was worried about being apart. But we got through it. Shortly after that I had a trip for a few days, and shortly after that I had to be gone for about a week taking care of some family matters.

Our love survived that with no problem. Now several time a year we are apart for upto about three weeks. We don't like being apart, but our professional life requires it.

So the first time you are apart is scary, but your love should survive it. If possible, you might try a phone call in the middle of the time apart. There would at least be the reassurance that you are both OK.

So good luck, and let us know how things go. And congratulations.

Thankyou for your responses I shall be seeing her tonight on SL and we will be discussing ways to stay in touch. We shall probably phone each other every day and send txts as well. I do know what we have is strong..we both feel this wonderful connection with each other. Its almost scary, we know what the other si going to say and someteimes we say the same thing at the same time. At first i thought it was a coincidence but it happens too often now.

Anyway I sure as hell it didnt come onto sl looking for love (didnt even know u cuold have a sexual life on sl when first signed up!!!) But my god did i find it. I didnt realise how intense it really could be!!! Anyway what ppl have said is right, if our love doesnt survive the 5 days apart then it wasnt meant to be anyway. It will break our hearts but we will both just have to move on. It is scary tho and i must be prepared for the possiblity of it ending. But if it doesnt than that will prove to me it is real

ANyway i will keep you updated and hope i have some good news to return with

YOu two will be fine.
Keep in mind that it is going to be hard to think of anything else but your SL friend there, so however you can prepare for that, cause you already know how much you are going to miss her.

And also, your real question is will it last?
I imagine so cause 5 weeks is actually a long time for any kind of relationship compared to some on SL.

There isn't really any reason for it NOT to last is there?

You will be fine.

OOOHHH BTW have you seen her photos or talked voice to her? She might be some angel from heaven but what if it is some 300 pound biker or something?
YOu could possibly be REAL disappointed with what is on the other end and trust me, some people will lie about who they are.

Yip, I second that

Welcome in the world of love

Love can be very intens, especially when you are new to eachother. (the butterflies flying widly in your stomach etc).

However, 5 weeks close connection, vs 2 days absense in connection, is absolutely no biggy. If you two love eachother, you know it won't tumble down over a span of 48 hours. That's riddiculous!

Sometimes it good to take a step back, to gain 2 steps forward lateron. (have time to clear the mind, there are more things in life than love alone you know.)

Just go with the flow, and take the absence times granted. It's the life we live. (schedules etc.)
But you know, both, that you will see/speak/hear eachother soon enough again.

It's times like this I wish there was an upchuck emot

Yep you will experience some anxiety during the short time of separation. I spent 1 year with my SL love in game and the holidays was a tough one. We don't have to worry about that anymore, since I packed up and moved cross country to be with her . This will be our second Christmas together in Real life

If it's true love. It will survive

MoiselleErin Teardrop, an avatar owned by Erin , would like to -
laugh her ass off.
Is that OK?

Yes No

Oh don't hold back lol.

hmmm RL lag, I laughed realy loud and hard but it took 10 seconds for the sound to come out...

Well, I have to admit that I have far more worried about SL interfering with RL love. As in, when my wife says, "You go ahead and play with your silly computer. I'm going to bed."

So far I've decided to stay on the safe side of anything that might be a hint and turned off the computer.

Hey Moisen had to laugh at your comment on being a 300 pound biker hehe. We have spoken over the phone quite a few times now and i have seen pictures of her So yes im happy with what i have lol