spying on my wife in sl

Hi all recently i found my wife was cheating on me in sl, and I know there is a product that allows you to put a spy of some kind in sl that monitors everything a person does in sl, like contacts, conversations, im and sites visited does anyone know where i can get hold of this program please. As i convinced this affair still going on.

At least he's honest about it

WTF?

Talk to her in RL. SPYING on her in SL is crap.

There is obviously something wrong or a disconnection between you two. Ruining her SL by spying on her, stalking her, and making her feel unsafe here is not cool.

Robbie, do you love her? Do you want to make it work? Do you want to stay married or kick her to the curb? Don't rely on sl products to make or break your family unit. Decide what you want and need, and then go to a counselor, minister, or divorce lawyer.

You have bigger problems than her "cheating" in Second Life.

Briana -- no disrespect intended here....but i think 'ruining SL' is very far down on the list, considering the RL game is obviously getting wrecked.

Dude -- throw the damn computers out the window, go get counseling, and concentrate on RL. Taking the fight inworld is gonna do nothing but cause more problems.

There are some things on xstreet you can get, someone did that to me..but we had fun with it..standing by it saying all kinds of juicy tidbits...

Seriously..if you think she's still cheating, trust your instincts and move on..life is too short and good luck to you.

I assumed he meant an SL wife not a RL one . If its an SL one click the link to end the "marriage" If its a RL one make an appointment with a Marriage Counselor. If someone comes in here and plays about its not SL that is screwing with your RL marriage I would bet there were issues well before one party joined SL
Oh and logging anothers chat is against TOS without asking them first i think you will find

... and hope nobody happens to mention this thread to your wife?

o.O

BTW, I'm pretty sure these devices would be considered TOS violations. Which may explain why nobody has posted "Sure, I make one ..." here.

Beware the offers you get by IM.

In any case, there's a limit to what such a device can know. Here are the possibilities:

1) a device you put in your home or hangout, that records who's around and what they say in open chat. Up to a point -- it'll run out of memory if it has too much to record.

2) a device you trick your special someone into wearing (all the time), which can record or relay to you where she is, what she says in open chat, and who's nearby. It can also pick up what others say.

They can also know a bit more, like what animations they're running (by key, not name), and other things, most of which would be pretty meaningless. They can't know what groups she's wearing, or what she says in IM.

In either case, you get the fun of sifting through mounds of meaningless chit chat, and if you're lucky, finding nothing -- and not learning much in the process.

Here's a good question to consider: how would you feel if she planted such a bug on you? Unless you're daft, you'd feel like your privacy was grossly violated, and you wouldn't want anything more to do with her. ... Is that your goal, in reverse?

Pardon me for being blunt, but this is nine times stupid. Much better to take the good advice offered above, most of which applies regardless of whether it's your SL or RL wife.

I think he's talking about his RL Wife, look at the guys join date...


anyways, i strongly adwise AGAINST trying to fix your marriage by spying on your wife, no matter how.


several reasons:
- adverse effects. Do you really think she's going to think "Oh, he's stalking me and spying on me, i really love him so much for that"...
- violation of TOS of linden labs. all it'll do is get your bum kicked out of SL while your wife is still in there.


Suggestion: try talking to her.
If it turns out to be necessary, marriage counselling.

Suggestion 2: think a bit.
- why did she start to "play" SL?
- why could some pixel guy (or is it a pixel girl) have more meaning to her than you?

my guess is that at least a part of her finding someone else more interesting than you is on your head.

Maybe she's just trying to get the excitement back that you two lost over 40 years of marriage?

For almost anyone "in here" SL is a place to do what you can't do in real life, be it sailing a 120ft classic yacht or trying those kamasutra positions that your chiropractor in RL strongly advises NOT to try.


related story: a close friend of mine almost got a divorce over SL, then she left for a while to fix things with hubby, then suddenly i got an IM from her saying "hey my hubby got himself an SL account, we just eloped to vegas, come and party!"
... last i heard was her being far along a RL pregnancy and all was well again with them.
... what brought her into SL on the first place was her hubby being way too deep into another online game. figures.

now lean back & think. hard.

mistrust & spying = worst possible option.
... how about you jazz up your avi big time & seduce her avi, and then you can live happily ever after in both worlds?

Assuming its your sl partner just say pffft...you are the weakest link goodbye.