A ring or not.......

Allright i have a serious question. Lets see, i have a relationship in rl. This friday will be 4 months. We first met in the 10th grade, and where the best of freinds all the way through the 10th grade year. My junior year i started attending a diffrent school and we lost contact. We didnt talk for a whole year because of me going to a diffrent school. Well at the beginning of this year our senior year right before school started i got in an incident. Lol, i look back on thsi and laugh but it was pretty serious. I had gotten in a fight and was whooping this kids ass and he pulled a knife out and stabed me. He got me twice in the back and 1 on my side right behind my arm pit. LOL i didnt know i was stabbed till after i hit the guy one last time and he ran off. My freind then told me i was stabbed and took of my shirt to press it against the worst stab wound. I was rushed to the hospital and they took x-rays n all kinds of stuff. The doctor said he had to hold me there after i was stitched up to make sure that my chest cavity and lungs werent punctured. while i was there Meg (the gurl i was telling you about up top) had come to see me. I was asleep when she came and i woke up to see her with her hands in mine and tears steadily rolling down er cheeks. She looked up and smiled very brightly and kissed me... Ever since that nite we have been inseperable. I knew the night i woke to find her crying that I was in love...... Like i said this friday is 4 months, The happiest 4 months of my life. I thank god every day that she is in my life. I want to do soemthing special for her for christmas/and our 4 month. I was looking at a jewlery shop and saw a perfect promise ring. But im kinda sketchy to get it. Should I get the promise ring or something else, I have been contiplating this for a while now and still cant figure out if a ring is too much. now that ya know a lil of the story could anyone please give me ssome feed back, all comments will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

If you intend to ask for her hand in marriage at some point I would say yes. If not, I would get her a nice pendant necklace or a bracelet. Just be sure about it if you do go with the promise ring, when you step things up a level like that one needs to bear in mind the pain will be that much worse if it doesn't work out for you two.

I do want to spend the rest of my life with her, but................a ring.....just......ummm im sketchy about the ring. Even though i love her with all my heart and shes been there for me, I'm just not sure. Confuses me. Like i said i want to spend the rest of my life with her, but I might be joining the national guard and might be shipped over seas.........and i dont know how that would go over.

Give her the damned ring! She will LOVE it, and you will make her very happy! Girls are strange that way. Its a promise ring, not an engagement ring.

Even if the relationship doesnt hold up, the ring will forever be a symbol of the happy days you had.

Good luck!

If you're truly in love, then the possiblity of being shipped off is a *good* reason to buy a ring for her.

Alot of guys look at rings as shackles instead of a symbol of how much you care for her and how special she makes *you* feel.

Valiant, proof of your caring need not be of material value...

Take her to a special place, and make it a memorable day, something she will always remember with a smile.

Four months... may be a little too early for rings.

One last piece of advise from an old man would be not to put so much emphasis on anniversaries. Show her your love and devotion every day of the year. Of course a little something extra may be expected, but don't forget the rest of the year!

- T -

What Moonshine said

I would love to take her to the beach walk around and watch the sunset, but its kinda chilly here in South Carolina. Everything i think of just seems like its not good enough for her. She just means so much to me and i cant think of anything that i can do to show her how special she is..... thsi is really hard =(

I have to say I'm w. the girls on this one. Get her the ring, its not an engagement ring but a promise to devote yourself to her in the pursuit of a life, love, family and marriage together, if she feels the same way as you.

No need to rush into marriage, but this is a great way to not only show her how you truly feel about her, but to put a smile on her face you won't soon forget, you can still show her how much you care everyday and take her to a nice restaurant anytime.


For gods sake man follow your heart and don't be so "sketchy"!! Now go get that ring and run don't walk, before some other girl winds up wearing your GF's smile for Xmas!!

Well if you're on your own.. clean your place up really nice, get some nice candles and light them up all around the place and fix her a nice dinner (or go buy it if you can't cook) and have a nice evening. Then get a movie like... love actually (funny and fits the season and your occasion) cuddle up under a blanket and make her some hot chocolate.. then when the moment is right.. suprise her.

oooo, thats a good idea mickey........would rose pedals be too much? lol I like the idea of cuddling under blankets whilst watching movie. =)

How about some nice earrings?

Still nice, still has the more "lasting" effect of a ring, but without all the commitment overtones should you change your mind about the relationship a ways down the road.

Bracelet -maybe engraved with her name on it to make it more personal.

what about a necklace. I was looking at this neckalce called the "past present and future" its 14k white gold and 3 1k certified diamonds...........think that would be just as good?

Sweet. Very nice stuff to read. What a refreshing thread.


Hey Valiant,

You're not sure where you want to go with your future, and who knows where life will take you. But you are sure you love her.

I say get her the ring, get the rose petals, get the movie, and tell her how you feel about her as well as you expressed it here. Follow your heart. Enjoy the moment, worry about tomorrow some other day.

Very romantic -- gotta love it.

fen-

Thank you all for the comments. You have all given me some things to think about and some ideas to do. Most of all i have a new prespective on things......."Enjoy the moment, worry about tommorrow some other day. Never thought of it like that. So simple of a saying but a beautfiul meaning to it.

Wow, Valiant and everyone who has posted. This is a great post and so touching to the heart. Congrats on finding that true love.


GET THE RING!!! GET THE RING!!!!

Should i be sketchy about a ring? Im 18 and i have found the love of my life. My freinds say its too early, and that im only 18. lol.........im gonna get her the ring tonite....Ive made up my mind. Im gonna get the ring and friday nite to the pedals, cooking(mmm i can make a mean steak) the candles, the movie, the cuddling........im nervous lol. If any one wants i can take a pic of the ring lol. see if its a good one lol. Thank you all........for everything all the comments, and all the wisdom you have shown me. Thank you so much, i thought this would be a good place to ask for advice.

Good luck, Valiant! and come back and tell us how it went... we're all rooting for ya!

*hugs*
Leilany

Those bolded phrases tell me that no, you shouldn't do it.

You should never consider marriage unless you are SURE. Period.

I know someone will think I'm an ass - but this time I am sincere:

If you have to ask anyone buy yourself - then I'd say NO.

I've been engaged 3 times in my life - of those 2 times I asked friends thier opinions.. sought advice - and things went horribly horribly wrong eventually.

The third time I just KNEW... there was no question - brains to balls - that this was who'd I'd be spending the rest of my life with... there was absolutely no doubt - and you'd have had to shoot my ass dead not to pursue it.

when you know, you know - and if you have to ask ANYONE - then you aint ready.

Siggy.

Agree wholeheartedly.

Before you die you see the ring.