Partner's ???????

PARTNER'S
Ok is it just me or dos NO ONE see the partner thing in your profile as been something very inportant ? (You are married to that prson) Dos no one see or look at the profile's ?
if not then why do you have one up ? And why do people that have a partner and are married to someone go and do stuff that thay would never do in RL ?
is it ok to go nude on your partner with someone else ? What do you think About this ???

not everyone is "married" to their partner tori....and some people just dont care...its life, not everyone has the same morals as you do

*Partner* may mean different things to different people. Some view it as an SL marriage some may not, to each his own.

As to why they may be doing things in SL that they wouldn't in RL, in SL I co-own an island, help build my house, go on extravagant shopping sprees from time to time, etc...
these are things I am unable to do RL. I will say however, that EVERYONE imo has a responability to realize that there are REAL people with REAL feelings behind the avatars. My general policy is to treat people as I would want to be treated (unless they give me a reason not to)

EDITED PART: I forgot to add. My partner & I also have been nude around others. We have no hang ups about it at all. I USED to feel differently about the nudity thing but after over a year in SL it doesn't phase me anymore..LOL

Tori, I see nothing wrong with nudity. My partner or myself have no hangups about being nude in front of others, and we both respect each other enough to know that is far as it goes. Simply being nude doen't mean they are boinking, merely just letting it all hang out for a bit.

ok i think i need to redo my wording on this a bet lol.. i was talking about being nude and having it go in to sex befor the end of the night .. this is what i dont get. when you have a partner but at the same time having sex with other's not your partner. swingers yes i get that but why would someone look at a profile and see thay are with someone all ready but still have sex with them? is this not a good idea to every one ? it only makes it so the 2 partners end up braking up ?

Not everyone has the same morals as everyone else Tori. Maybe they are ok with their partner sleeping around either way I don't see how it's your business

Because not everyone is married to their partner, and not everyone has the same set of morals.

Your question was answered already. Why'd you ask it again?

Tori, my feelings from your posts lead me to believe you (or someone you know) had AV Sex with someone in world, and then found out they had a partner. Afraid that you (or your friend) may have just helped someone "cheat" on their partner, you (or your friend) are worried and seeking advice.

My response to you would be much along the lines that others have stated. There is a chance that the person wearing the "partner" tag is in an open relationship and is allowed to be with others.

However, I can fully understand that sometimes that can seem awkward. So if this sort of thing concerns you (or your friend), my advice to you (or your friend), would be to make sure you check a person's profile before having AV sex. Just think of it as putting on a bit of protection first.

If you find they have a partner, you (or your friend) can either ask them about it to ease your mind (possibly), or just make it a rule not to have AV sex with a person who has an SL partner. At that point, the choice becomes yours.

Thank you for the reply Pendari Lorentz
i have 2 AV my partner with the other AV (no name)
can be dancing with me and people start im ing my partner asking for sex.but yet when asked thay all say thay have seen the profile for both of us. so then why do people just keep comeing on about geting in to bed with the other. this just makes me feel like shit . and its not just one time thing. every day i see it every day. me and my partner live together and are together in RL as well as SL.

Thank you all for the post on this i guess i am in need of rethinking SL and how it is played

One thing that's I've come to realize about people in SL and in general is there's a big difference in how various people compartmentalize things. For some people, what they do in world with their AV is really no different in emotional investment than what they do in RL. For other people they view it as simply a game, and what they do with their AV's is as detached from their RL emotions as how they might feel about shooting people or running over pedestrians in an action game. That makes it difficult to judge people's actions or know exactly how to take them. The best you can do is be open, like you are, about how it makes you feel to your partner. Personally, I'm a sensitive sort and don't compartmentalize well so I'm a lot more cautious than most people are. Everyone is different

VERY COOL THANK YOU

In real life, people are more conservative than they are when they play SL. I think they are. I, myself, am very much the same in both worlds, except when I took my top off at the Forum Gang Bang party on Saturday, I most likely wouldn't do that in real life.... okay maybe I would but that is besides the point. When people see wedding bands on people they are attracted to it doesn't make a difference to them that they are married. Same concept just a different world.

Another aspect of this is:

People don't tend to read profiles at all, or look too closely at yer avatar for that matter:

I have my Partner listed on my profile
I wear the gorgeous pink stoned ring she gave me on the third finger of my left hand (resized kinda HUGE so you really can't miss it)

And I have a cute blah blah about my One on the first half of the text box on profile.

It don't matter. I still get hit on.

It's all good tho (and understandable - my av IS hot lol) for the most part when I inform the hitter that I'm Taken they are like oh my bad and all that, and move on.

But if one is lookin for love/sex etc just a suggestion: read the profile first, check they av for wedding rings or collars etc before propositioning.

Then again, as Della put it "When people see wedding bands on people they are attracted to it doesn't make a difference to them that they are married."

So what you are saying Della is that the stuff you do in SL is stuff you have or would do in RL I have seen the post for the Forum Gang Bangers party and i know my partner would be very upset and very hurt if did someing like that in game. if something like that were to have happend in real life i am sur i would los my partner
and that is something i can not let happen. I love my partner with all my heart and soul. this person is my world.
wedding bands in sl wow Della i wonder if your partner thinks like that to. seems like there is no point in geting married then if every one thinks it dos not make a differnce thats sad

Um..

The Forum Gang Bangers Party.. was just that a PARTY.. no actual 'banging' the 'banging' is derived from tribal drums..

It isn't ALL about the sex you know

Yes. Imagine my suprise when I showed upt ot the Forum Gangbang wearing only my leather chaps and a bow tie, herding my flock of sheep and carrying an industrial-sized jar of lubricant, only to find out that the "gangbang, actually referred to a gang of folks banging on drums.

Partners in SL can mean so many things. You can be partners in SL to someone you don't, or will never know, in first life and still have a wonderful time together. You can also partner to your best friend in SL. Or you can get married and/or collared in Second Life. Or you can have a RL and SL relationship with the same person, as many do.

As to how that effects RL, that would depend upon your relationship. Some view sexual activities online the same as they would watching porn or sharing fantasies and don't see it as cheating. Others view it as real, in an emotional sense, and view it as a very legitimate relationship, and thus, would be considered "cheating" if the RL spouse was unaware.

As to people trying to seduce those with a Partner listed, that is going to happen. Some people will attempt to seduce anyone that they are remotely attracted to, "married" or not. Others will not realize or notice that the object of thier affections is already taken. And yet others just like to stir up drama.

Ok now I am seriously laughing out loud. That is all I will say.

You showed up in leather with a flock of sheep and lubricant?

Damn, damn, damn why does Bell South go on the fritz just when all the good stuff happens!!!

I AM SO disappointed that I missed this.

Okay, Tori, let me explain it to you, babydoll. I am a 37 year old adult!!!! I have a boyfriend in RL and in SL and they happen to be the same man. He is a great guy but tends to not trust me. I love him dearly and have never cheated on him nor will i ever cheat on him. By taking my top off, i was just expressing my excitement of life and enjoying the party and having a great time for good friends and conversation. Nothing I did was wrong and if i were in a party in real life i might consider do the same. It depends on the mood and if i want to or not. But still yet the mind body and soul belongs to the man i love and always will. If i never wear a ring or if i do it doesn't change the way i feel and how i will act. And if Jonathan's name is on my profile or not, it still doesn't make a damn bit of difference of how i feel about him in SL or RL. Hope i have made it as clear as glass for you. Your lover, Della.

bwahahaha
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