I'm Sorry!!!

Yesterday I was in SL for probably less than an hour... my SL time has been cut extremley while I have been taking care of rl... looking to buy a house, tax season, husband, son.. etc etc...

Anyways... I get a message from a friend that I had not spoke to in awhile nor seen online... he IMed me saying Hello and how are you, I replied and asked how he was doing.. I was then pulled away from the PC and came back to a message explaining he was having a bad day, and when I went to message him back he was offline and he had cancelled my calling card. Then I began to wonder how many others I have made feel this way ...

I just wanted to say I am sorry and take a moment to let everyone know that I do not mean to ignore them or neglect them intentionally... SL is not like most games... you can stay logged in without having to worry about dying or being roobed or whatever... often times I am logged in but that doesn't mean I am always at my computer or on that same window. PLEASE do not take it personal if it takes longer than usual for a reply.
Everytime I log in I have at least 20 offline messages to reply to in regards to questions, requests and what not... please be patient with me, I am doing my best to multi task as much as I can.

I am sorry if you have felt ignored, neglected, or if you think I was being rude or short with you... I do not mean it intentionally.

*hugs*

Maybe he was just depressed and not necessarily mad at you.

I know I've done that, had a bad day feel sorry for myself cancel cards, regret it later.

Conversing is online is different than RL, compensating for it is often a learned experience.
I hope your friend understands...

fen-

I can so relate Sensual! Sometimes I have 8 or 9 IM's going at once and don't notice new messages scrolled off the side. I don't multitask very well and I'll just plain forget I was talking to someone

Yeah I have done that with multiple Ims going trying to keep conversations going on topic and boom...it gets quiet.

But whats interesting is being online for 4 peaceful hours and get ready to log out and BOOM Baby its Hello Shadow Time..go figure..

Shadow

I know I just found that I can set my avie to busy or away and that has helped a lot. Especially when I am trying to get set up for an event that I will be running and dj'ng at the same time.

As for your friend cancelling your card..thats a little much. When I have a lot to tell someone I will ask them if they are busy before I try to get them tied up in a long
conversation. Its just common courtesy, but I guess that is not so common any longer.

*hugs for all*

Yeah. Being an IM user, I know that people can't always respond at once. Sometimes, as they say, shit happens. I know a few people who leave SL running 24/7 parked around a money ball somewhere, so I'll give them a poke and if they don't answer back, it's no big deal.

Bummer bout your boy. Sounds like we need to hugmob him.

Sensual... I don't know how ANYONE can feel that way. You are such a sweet persons and as much as I would like to know you better I understand you have a RL. That person was most likely just a drama queen just wanting to start something. I have to same problem as you with my job, Some weeks are really short and some are long. People will start understanding .... Don't feel bad, as long as oyu know your doing as much as you can thats good

im so glad to see im not the only one with this... ive felt guilty after , but i know my reasoning then was that most the cards ive canceled were people who never really talk to me. give the guy a chance to sort his junk out...n see after if he still feels strongly about not having your card again. if not , then hey o well what can u do...but im sure that wont happen hun. u know, in this game were surrounded by people all the time, its easy to forget how lonely in rl we can become. it can get to u if u have that going on

Thank you all for your support, I have sent him an offline message in hopes he understands... I just hope I don't make any one else feel that I wasn't there for them when I should have been =/

I can relate with what you said, Sensual, about having a lot of IMs to deal with. I am a poor multitasker hoping to improve, and so, it's difficult for me to have my attention in multiple places at once.

I wish you the best with your friend and hope you will hear from him soon.

Hehe.. I can related to being on both ends of the stick. I'm pretty bad at multitasking or even worse.. I'm with someone in game hanging out and having a fun chill time and I forget about the people in PM. I hate the feeling of blowing someone off cuz I've been in their shoes as well. It's not cool and you feel like you're totally being ignored, especially when they say "brb" and don't tell you they're back when they come back and do other stuff. It's like they totally forgot about out. I just said screw it and have my IM box at the very top of my screen going all the way across from the left to the right side of the monitor (sounds silly I know). As for being the multitasker I always try to be good at saying how long I will be gone for, but with tax season, family, etc it's just hard to come up with timeset on when you would be back. I've had a few of my calling cards canceled this way as well... Not a good feeling, but I'm sure he'll be back on your list again Sen as soon as he calms down.

Eddie

Sensual, I'm sure that you have the house search well in hand. If you're still looking to buy a husband, I can put you in touch with several likely candidates: 1 from Nigeria, 2 from Belarus and 2 from Turkey. At least 3 of these are professionals in the technology sector, and one holds a Doctorate in Computer Engineering. Very high quality material.

The son will be a harder issue; I currently have ready-to-ship at least 8-10 daughters from China, but healthy male children are a bit harder to come by. Nonetheless, I may be able to get ahold of one for you if you don't ask too many questions.

Get in touch with me in-world, and I can quote you some prices.

Lmfao, Thank you I needed a good laugh And I appreciate your offers but I have a wonderful husband of 10 years and beautiful 8 yr old son already!

I'm going to move this over to Off-Topic so you can continue this discussion.

I was finished. Jeska, should I continue?

I have the ability to multi-task quite easily and didn’t realize that it was affecting my online relationships. I must confess to hearing from a few close friends that my lack of focus or slow replies caused their feeling to be hurt. They felt like they or their conversations were not important enough to me to warrant my full attention.

I decided to start to treat ims as online “phone calls.” I wouldn’t take more than one intense or serious call at a time in RL, so I choose not to do so here.

I will tell the “im-er” that I am busy, at an event or in other ims. If truly busy I ask to “call back" in a few.

While the aforementioned is not always possible, I find that I am not as stressed. My friends seem to feel like I am listening to them again. Always a good thing.

Of course you are!