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Kade Keegan
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12-09-2004 18:20
When you're in love with someone, do you love them everyday, constantly, throughout the duration of the relatinship?
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Madiera Westerburg
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12-09-2004 18:22
yes
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Torley Linden
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12-09-2004 18:24
That's a curious question, 'cuz I've heard the same question asked to me several times over the last few days!
 If love is constant, how can it grow? Then again, there's that old adage, "The only constant is change". It's hard to explain love: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love And some say love is like a rollercoaster. And even though being together is great, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Ahhh heck... contradictory proverbs time: http://beebo.org/smackerels/contradictory-proverbs.html  _____________________
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Chip Midnight
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12-09-2004 18:27
If your love for your partner ebbs and flows you may not have ever actually loved them in the first place. Love is a choice, not an involuntary response.
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Camille Serpentine
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12-09-2004 18:33
I think you can fall out of love.
Like when you find out things you didn't know about your partner, Or if you come to realize you both have different ultimate goals, Or they change, you change, but you don't change together. Love is a wonderful thing but sometimes it can easily turn to hate. Also sometimes it's easy to confuse lust or passion with love. many people fall in love with an idealized version of their partner and get very upset when their partner doesn't live up to their ideal. love is good but can bring pain and suffering with it. |
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Hiro Pendragon
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12-09-2004 19:31
love is a verb, not a noun.
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Camille Serpentine
Eater of the Dead
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12-09-2004 19:33
hmm, you can use it as a noun.
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Kade Keegan
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12-09-2004 19:37
Actually, the first definition listed for love is a noun
love ( P ) Pronunciation Key (lv) n. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance. Sexual passion. Sexual intercourse. A love affair. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment. An expression of one's affection: Send him my love. A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language. The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love. Love Mythology. Eros or Cupid. often Love Christianity. Charity. Sports. A zero score in tennis. |
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Isis Becquerel
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12-09-2004 20:22
It is really dependant upon which form of love you are talking about. Eros is a tricky witch founded in lust and physicality most people confuse lust and love. Of course I like the old Sinead O'Conner line "What is the difference between lust and love? A spit or a swallow."
What do I really believe though? Love is something that is cultivated not something that jumps out with bells, whistles and party hats. Love is full of conflict but finds them easily resolved. Love overlooks little quirks or finds them amusing. Love realizes that it is on a continuum, it allows for reactionary emotions without faltering from the core belief in itself. If love is true then you will know that daily arguments or stepped on toes will be counter balanced by pillow fights, tickle fests and that warm fuzzy feeling that comes out of nowhere when you are sitting around in your underwear with your hair all over the place, drool stains on the side of your face and that weird morning gook in the corner of your eye. Most importantly love does not hurt. It may at times aggrivate like a stone in your Reebok or a misquito bite in that one area of your back that only a yogi can reach, but it does not hurt in a lasting or repeated manner. If it does then it is not love. _____________________
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Icon Serpentine
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12-09-2004 21:45
Loving unconditionally is what real love is. If you can put up with their crap and still feel good about it -- that's love.
There'll be days when ou don't want to talk to your partner. There'll be others when they don't want to talk to you... but if you love them, you know that it doesn't matter. Together you're happy wether you're upset or not. Good times and bad baby. That's what it's all about. _____________________
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Isis Becquerel
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12-09-2004 21:56
Loving unconditionally is what real love is. If you can put up with their crap and still feel good about it -- that's love. There'll be days when ou don't want to talk to your partner. There'll be others when they don't want to talk to you... but if you love them, you know that it doesn't matter. Together you're happy wether you're upset or not. Good times and bad baby. That's what it's all about. Not necessarily true. Loving unconditionally means loving when abuse is taking place. I do not know of a human who deserves such love. Overlooking a quirk or two and loving regardless of abominable acts are two different things. _____________________
One of the most fashionable notions of our times is that social problems like poverty and oppression breed wars. Most wars, however, are started by well-fed people with time on their hands to dream up half-baked ideologies or grandiose ambitions, and to nurse real or imagined grievances.
Thomas Sowell As long as the bottle of wine costs more than 50 bucks, I'm not an alcoholic...even if I did drink 3 of them. |
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Icon Serpentine
punk in drublic
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12-09-2004 22:19
Not necessarily true. Loving unconditionally means loving when abuse is taking place. I do not know of a human who deserves such love. Overlooking a quirk or two and loving regardless of abominable acts are two different things. Obviously.  I'll be sure to turn my naievity off next time.  jk But those are situations I couldn't even begin to get into a thread like this. _____________________
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Adam Cooper
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12-10-2004 07:40
YES
When you are in love, true love, it is very constant. However one must always remember that we are all made up of many, many emotions and we always feel those too........ "A loving, close knit family is the one that lives in another state." - George Burns _____________________
"Once while we were making love, a curious optical illusion occurred, and it almost looked as though she were moving." - Woody Allen.
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Ryntha Suavage
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12-10-2004 07:43
I would have to choose "Other" - simply because I love someone more with everyday that passes. A good example: I do not love my boyfriend the same degree as I did when we first started dating - I love him more today than I ever have. My reaction is to love someone more the more I know them. I can't truly love someone without knowing who they are.
However - things like my partner angering me in some way will never make me love them less. It would take a whole lot of abuse to reverse my feelings for them. My love grows, never deteriorates unless something catastrophic happens. Love is never really constant in my opinion, unless you absolutely have nothing to share with your loved one. Which makes me wonder if that sort of thing is really love, or just someone's need to have a companion regardless of who they are to you. The only thing constant about love is that it grows. _____________________
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Devlin Gallant
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12-10-2004 08:39
I dunno...always been alone.
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Paolo Portocarrero
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12-10-2004 08:46
For romantic/erotic love, I would say no. It is a temporal, emotion-laden state of being.
For paternal/friend love, I would say it's more enduring, but not indefinite. For unconditional love (as in of your child/parent/higher power), I would say this is the most enduring. Unconditional love is choice-based, and therefore, less prone to the winds of emotional change. _____________________
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Blake Rockwell
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12-10-2004 08:48
Lust Lust Lust Lust is constant until you can't function..then you lust to be able too.
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Tori Parks
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12-11-2004 21:01
When you're in love with someone, do you love them everyday, constantly, throughout the duration of the relatinship? Yes every day every night . but at the same time if you love your partner in game all the time can it go in to RL as well ??  |
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Kade Keegan
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12-11-2004 21:09
The question was meant for RL relationships, which I neglected to specify (oops), but as for going from working in RL as well as SL, that's entirely dependant on who is involved. I was involved in an SL relationship that turned into a RL one, and imo it was going exceptionally well. Unfortunately I came to find out from my partner that is was only my imagination.
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