
Symptoms (wired network):
* logging on works fine (sim crossings work fine, see below)
* after log-on View / Statistics Bar shows bandwidth spikes as things rez, but after a (very) short while it falls flat (10-20kbps) and movement becomes impossible
IMs continue to work for a few more seconds (if after about a minute and a half either the sim or the client haven't seen a ping from the other they'll drop the connection). Oddly enough, opening the map will give it an extra minute or so (but only once). After that (and even weirder) each switch from full-screen to windowed (or the other way around) will "reinvigorate" the network connection, allowing movement for a short time (for 10-30 seconds at a time).
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The actual cause (in this particular case?) seems to be a setting on the network card and not any firewall/router/ISP/etc settings:
* Start menu / Run: ncpa.cpl
* right-click on the one you use for your internet and pick "Properties", then click "Configure"
* under the Advanced, set "Task Offload" to "Off"
(It's possible it's called any of the following in which they all need to be set to "Off": Offload TCP Segmentation, Offload Receive TCP Checksum, Offload Transmit IP Checksum or Offload Transmit TCP Checksum)
Swapping the network card for another one *might* work (assuming it doesn't have the capability to have certain things be handled by the network card instead of the puter) which is what eventually led me to blame the network card rather than all the other dozen things I'd tried so far

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SL was literally the one and only thing that wouldn't work (so I'm still inclined to blame LL more than anyone else

(In this case it was a wired network, but wireless network cards may have the same setting so I would try the same solution there as well before deciding that SL just won't play nice with it)