The real reason there are so many guys playing girls in SL

A MANIFESTO FOR THE SEXUALLY DEPRIVED MALE

As we sexually deprived males learn about the true causes of our condition and begin coming together to do something about it, we need to define our mission in concrete terms in order to guide our collective agitation for justice. The following manifesto serves that very purpose:

We, the Legions of sexually deprived Males in the United States of America, hereby demand that the Executive, Legislative, and Judicial Branches of our duly constituted Government recognize and guarantee our fundamental constitutional Right to pursue mental Health and Happiness through participation in a sexual Economy that is fair and open to All. In order to attain what has been denied to us since the founding of the Nation, the following initial enabling Steps must perforce be taken through the vigorous Enforcement of existing Laws and Regulations or, where necessary, the Passage and Enforcement of new Laws and Regulations, with sufficient Funding to fully achieve each and every of the following Objectives:

I. Recognition of sexual Fulfillment as a fundamental human Need and Right, the denial of which inevitably leads to Disturbances in individual mental Health and Rents in the collective Fabric of Society;

II. Launching of a substantive research Program on why the sexual Economy is so severely distorted and means of bringing Supply and Demand into Balance;

III. Provision of all necessary Assistance to Males who are unable to attain sexual Fulfillment due to Intelligence, socioeconomic Status, Gender, Age, physical or mental Disabilities, or unavoidable Deficits in personal Appearance; and

IV. Dismantling of Monopolies on sexual Resources by Males undeservedly advantaged by Wealth, Power, and/or personal Appearance.

WHAT IS SEXUAL DEPRIVATION?

Sexual deprivation is surprisingly common in our so-called Land of Plenty, afflicting an estimated 27 million American men at any given time (the derivation of this estimate will be explained in detail in Chapter IV). Male sexual deprivation is a complex phenomenon, but it basically boils down to a shortage of sexually willing women relative to the sexual needs of men.

We should clarify here that this book is about the sexual deprivation of heterosexual men , which makes the beliefs and behaviors of heterosexual women a critical issue to be explored in depth. Although many homosexual men have indeed been tormented by women, overall they don't suffer much sexual deprivation because of their great willingness, generally, to engage in sex with each other. In this book we don't elevate one form of sex above another, since sexual desires are so variable and, after all, an orgasm is an orgasm. Indeed, in a later chapter we'll come to the point of considering the gay option as a possible partial solution to the daunting problem of male sexual deprivation.

As we indicated in the very first paragraph, we humans have a need for sex. The term sex drive is part of common parlance today, but was first used many decades ago by biologists and psychologists to denote the natural impulse that brings living creatures who might otherwise want nothing to do with each other into sexual union. The "hydraulic drive model" groups hunger, thirst and sexual desire as basic needs characterized by an inexorable buildup of "pressure" that, once it passes a critical point, propels the individual to seek relief.

Hunger and thirst are obviously different in nature from sexual desire because food and water are essential for immediate survival, while people can survive without sex. Yet sexual desire must be satisfied to ensure the long-term survival of an individual's genes and, hence, the species. Without an innate sex drive, humankind would not have evolved. On the other hand, humankind will survive even if many of its members forgo or are forced to do without sex, which is indeed the current situation. The issue then becomes: what are the effects on the individual and society when the sex drive is suppressed or given no outlet? Although it will be denied by the many who believe abstinence to be virtuous, the unfortunate answer is that most sexually deprived individuals suffer psychological warping that, collectively, causes society's gears to grind. All of us pay a price, for sexual deprivation leads people to behave in uncivilized ways, from use of demeaning sarcasm to rape and even mass murder.

One way to clarify the meaning of sexual deprivation is to contrast it with what the United Nations' World Health Organization calls sexual health : "Sexual health is the integration of the somatic, emotional, and social aspects of sexual being in ways that are positively enriching and that enhance personality, communication and love."5 The bedrock of sexual health is mutual genital stimulation by interacting individuals who, however fleetingly, experience a concomitant positive emotional bond. Human beings who are obstructed from interpersonal sexual contact soon experience a state of sexual deprivation. They may try to escape this painful state through self-stimulation, like caged zoo animals, but such acts give only brief relief while accentuating feelings of sexual isolation.

We can now present a definition: sexual deprivation is an absence of sexual fulfillment for long enough time to result in emotional imbalance and/or behavioral deviance . It isn't possible to be more precise as to how long is too long because sexual deprivation is a relative thing, just like every other aspect of the human experience. Sex drive isn't constant, even for a single individual, since it varies according to a myriad factors ranging from life stage to exposure to beer commercials. One man might feel deprived after a day or two without sex while another might not feel deprived for months.

However, two generalizations are possible. First, sexual deprivation is a male problem. No sex-seeking woman could fail to find a partner within a single day if she set her mind to it. Second, sexual fulfillment for heterosexual males means sex with (human) females.

That second generalization derives from how the male brain is wired. Show a heterosexual man a picture of a nude woman, or better yet a video of a couple making love, and his pupils will widen and his penis will probably twitch if not harden. It's automatic. By contrast, few women are easily aroused by something so mundane as the mere sight of genitals. In the same way that a cat goes into hunting mode when a small moving object enters its field of vision, men are automatically aroused when presented with such stimuli as female breasts, genitals, and curvaceous figures, or even just hints that such are present under clothes. The greater a man's sex drive, the more readily he's stimulated by increasingly less quintessential female stimuli. All human societies have gone to great lengths to maintain social order by severely limiting the situations in which men may act on their arousal. But it's cruel and inhumane when a society, such as ours, denies so many men the opportunity to achieve what their bodies demand, which is sex with a woman. To leave them no options besides self-stimulation is like tormenting a caged cat with a parade of free-roaming mice and tweety birds.

It's better than making all you girls wear burkhas.

First, sexual deprivation is a male problem. No sex-seeking woman could fail to find a partner within a single day if she set her mind to it.

Why would the "ain't getting any" males play women in SL?

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First, sexual deprivation is a male problem. No sex-seeking woman could fail to find a partner within a single day if she set her mind to it.

I think you answered your own question.

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The real reason there's so many males playing females...

it's the shopping

I think you answered your own question.

If you're not getting laid it's because you have a personality that women find unattractive and they are not interested in having sex with you. End of story.

How so?

Using a female avatar isn't the same as having sex with a human female. Using a female avatar doesn't afford "men the opportunity to achieve what their bodies demand, which is sex with a woman." I suppose the idea is that a man playing a female avatar is trying "to escape this painful state through self-stimulation, like caged zoo animals", but since such behavior gives "only brief relief while accentuating feelings of sexual isolation", wouldn't it make more sense for a man with this unmet need to do something more like going to a bar and hitting on the women still there at closing time?